Jealous of a car?

[bensbride]

Blah.

BF is having car troubles and planned on buying a new one when he graduates in May. However, since his current car is having issues, he''s thinking he might have to get a new one (truck) before graduation. All I could thing was, "This is going to delay my ring, isn''t it?" That''s totally selfish. I feel like a jerk. Its much more important to have a safe vehicle...but all I can think about is the engagement.

 

[bee*]

I can understand those feelings! It''s rubbish that he might have to spend some of the ring fund on a new truck. Hopefully it won''t eat up too much of his savings.

 

[monarch64]

Uh oh honey...you have to remember that you''ll be marrying this man soon! Cars, x-boxes, blackberrys,ipods, etc., suddenly when you marry him POW! you''ll have to face certain circumstances and they''ll have nothing to do with what is important to you right now. However, you have a whole new world to build on, believe in, and be happy for. Suddenly your world will shift from what''s important to him and what''s important to you into what''s important to YOU AS A COUPLE! Yes, It happens. And you''ll be fine. And good sex will abound, lol. And good things will come your way, and you''ll agree or disagree on many things...and then you''ll really feel married. Have fun...and don''t look back.

 

[designchica]

its totally normal to be jealous of major purchases! The good thing is that your recognize that it is selfish on your part but don''t beat yourself up for being a little jealous and disappointed about it delaying your ring.

Last summer my boyfriend saw a piece of artwork on our trip to Vancouver that was 18K and was very close to purchasing it right then and there. I was really upset about it and when I got really honset with myself and with him about why I was upset, it was because I felt he should be saving for a ring. We talked about it and he was very understanding and didn''t judge me for being slightly selfish about it. He assured me that buying that piece of artwork would not take away from my ring and that he will be able to afford a ring when the time is right. In the end, I encouraged him to buy the artwork but by then, he''d decided it wouldn''t fit into his current home anyway! All that trouble for nothing!

Anyway, you are not alone in your feelings and I am sure that a lot of women have felt similarly. Its okay to feel that way so long as you work through it and can see where you are wrong.

Show your man that you are excited about his new car. He probably would really like to hear that you are supportive and understanding of this purchase.

 

[bensbride]

After a good night''s sleep, I''m over being grouchy about it. I''m happy that he is finding what he''s always wanted, both with me and with the new vehicle.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I felt the same way when my SO bought his new fancy truck. But then I remembered that the year before I went and bought myself a new car and I could have easily handed that money over to help with a ring fund (SO never would have accepted it but I at least could have made the attempt). Since we both work over an hour away from where we live, it was important that he have a reliable, safe vehicle to drive.

Now, if he had wanted to buy an $18,000.00 piece of art like designchica''s man, I might have gotten a little upset

 

[ladypirate]

I have to admit--when I read the title of this thread, I totally thought you were in a situation where your guy loved his car so much you got jealous! Kris just sold his baby (excuse me, AUDI), but everyone used to joke that that was my competition.

Good for you for being mature about the situation and being happy for your man!

 

[LegacyGirl]

I''ve had those same feelings before so I can totally relate. I''m sorry you were feeling like that. I know it sucks!

 

[choro72]

I''m glad you are able to calm down about it...I know how you feel. Last year my BF blabbed on about getting a PS3 or a Wii, and I was upset. He detected it immediately, and said "I know, I know, but can''t a man dream?" I had a good laugh, and at this point I will not be upset (he has to clean his room first, but that''s another story). I''ve already manage to find solutions for my ring and cut his budget by 2/3, so he can buy anything he wants.

On the other hand, his tires are completely worn out and I worry about him driving in them. I''m bugging him about getting a new set, but he''s too lazy to do that

. Maybe I should get him those as an engagement gift for him...

 

[cutes814]

hey bensbride. it''s totally normal to be jealous of that. so don''t feel bad at all.

 

[bensbride]

The Tacoma he found online and really wanted is already sold. I guess he''s going to fix the car he has now and wait a few months until he finds another one that has what he wants. Either he''s lurking and reading my posts or things just worked out to my advantage!

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 2/13/2008 6:25:04 AM
Author: monarch64
And good sex will abound, lol.

HAHAHA, oh my god, Monnie, I almost died reading that. You are too funny! (And, WOOHOO!!

) Hahahah!

Glad the situation worked out, bensbride! It can get very frustrating when finances get in the way of life progressing. I understand how you felt.

 

[SparkleSparkle]

Date: 2/13/2008 1:24:25 PM
Author: ladypirate
I have to admit--when I read the title of this thread, I totally thought you were in a situation where your guy loved his car so much you got jealous! Kris just sold his baby (excuse me, AUDI), but everyone used to joke that that was my competition.

Good for you for being mature about the situation and being happy for your man!

I thought the same thing! At least you only had the "thought" - my XH came right out and told me (about his ''68 Firebird) - "This car was here before you, and will be here long after you''re gone." And it was LOL. I think it''s hilarious that his current wife made him sell it

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[LegacyGirl]

Date: 2/15/2008 7:02:21 AM
Author: SparkleSparkle

Date: 2/13/2008 1:24:25 PM
Author: ladypirate
I have to admit--when I read the title of this thread, I totally thought you were in a situation where your guy loved his car so much you got jealous! Kris just sold his baby (excuse me, AUDI), but everyone used to joke that that was my competition.

Good for you for being mature about the situation and being happy for your man!

I thought the same thing! At least you only had the ''thought'' - my XH came right out and told me (about his ''68 Firebird) - ''This car was here before you, and will be here long after you''re gone.'' And it was LOL. I think it''s hilarious that his current wife made him sell it

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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! Oh my goodness I think I''m going to lose it!!!! That is too funny.