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There is obviously a lot of stress connected to getting married, most of it zeroing in on the actual wedding day and ceremony, rather than the life thereafter--something to think about. However, there also seems to be an attitude about attending a wedding and the reception party, where the 'lid is off' and people do things they would never do at other parties or celebrations. Well, the party and the ceremony, has a history. Why do we do what we do, at a wedding? Why do we wear something old and something new? It all goes back to wedding ceremonies in ancient times--and what behaviors have made it to modern times. One can only imagine what future generations will think of Bridezilla's--and their outrageous and stupid behavior--but here are some beliefs surrounding a wedding ceremony.
The tradition of the father giving away the bride, is based on the bride being a captive of some brave young man trying to prove his worth to a man of greater stature--be it head of a tribe or his father, best friend or brother--whatever. The bride, being an unwilling participant, had to be 'watched' at all times, so she was accompanied 'down the aisle' so she couldn't escape.
Rain at a wedding can signify something positive or negative--just depends on your own outlook. The good version is, rain foretells the coming of children--just like a good crop in a farmer's field--enough said... only you yourself know if this is good or bad. Way back when, it was good as families needed farmhands, i.e. children. The other version is, rain means many tears will be shed in the union. This again, is your own outlook--there are tears of joy, tears of sorrow, and things that happen that make you cry--but, also make you stronger as a person.
Speaking of tears, it is considered good luck for the bride to cry during her wedding--meaning she will not have to cry later, during her marriage--also meaning, she has brought rain for crops. Maybe she is crying because she is captive--sorry, just looking back on the 'giving away of the bride.'
Bringing this into more modern times, the wearing of pearls also has good and bad luck meanings. It is believed that pearls, in ancient times, represent future tears--so wearing them means the bride will have occasion to cry and experience heartache in the marriage. So, if you think about it, if your fiancée gives you pearls, that could mean he is telling you he will give you reason to cry later. The other version is that the pearls take the place of the brides tears, so she will have no reason to cry later, during the marriage. This is all intertwined with what it takes to make a pearl--sand in an oyster that is a constant irritation to the oyster--makes a pearl. You can make your own choice here, point is, it is all based on ancient beliefs.
Next, it is bad luck for the bride to sign her married name, before she is married. It tempts fate. This is a modern one since being a captive leaves out signing your name at all--especially your 'intendeds' last name. The bride should not wear her entire bridal outfit--even for a fitting--before her wedding day. This includes the dress, veil, shoes and jewelry.
Here's a good one, do you, or do you not, drop the wedding ring? On the one hand, if you drop the wedding ring during the wedding ceremony, it has been seen as lucky as you are shaking off any evil spirits that may have been lurking there--on the other hand, it may signify the first to die... whoever dropped the ring, dies first! Wow, you might want to consider the age of the ring bearer..
On to the brides dress--IF she makes it herself, for every stitch in the dress, the bride will shed a tear during the marriage. This could be countered by the tears shed trying to pay off an expensive dress--could be a draw on that one.
When to get married--modern belief is to exchange vows as the clock's minute hand is moving upwards--not downwards. The upward movement of the minute hand on the clock is 'ascending towards the heavens'--so my guess is that the downward moving of the minute hand means your going to the 'other place.' It's all up to you--playing on the safe side could be good.
Do not marry a man that has the same first letter in his surname, as the first letter in your surname. So the Victorian rhyme goes, "To change the name and not the letter, is to change for the worst and not the better." Hey ladies, this is most likely the reason your last names changes to his last name!
It's all in the shoes! Long after the days where the 'bride' was a kidnap victim, and the father 'sold' or 'gave' his daughter away, the father would pass one of his daughters shoes to the groom, as a signal of giving his daughter away in marriage. It is also considered good luck for the groom's mother to throw a shoe at the bride as the couple leaves the reception, so that the bride and her mother-in-law, would forever be the best of friends... but then, it is also considered to be good luck if a house cat eats from the brides shoe the week of her wedding... in addition, the bride must have a penny in her shoe, while being married, if she wants a good marriage and wealth. Who knew, it's all in the shoe!
Onto the bridal dress. Well, back in the captive days, it was considered really good luck to have a piece of the wedding gown..so the dress was, while still on the bride, ripped to pieces, by wedding attendees--I'm guessing probably mostly female attendees. No one else was to outshine the bride by having a longer dress--i.e. the big train of the modern wedding dress--the bride was to be the center of attention. It is unlucky for the groom to see the bride in the wedding dress before the wedding and also unlucky for the bride to wear the dress for alterations more than one time before the wedding--this centers around either party changing their minds?
Walking down the aisle-whether accompanied by friend or foe or not--the bride must enter the church on her right foot. Also, the bridesmaids should sign the bottom of the brides shoe. The name that lasts the longest on the bottom of the shoe, i.e. not walked off, will be the first to marry next. This could be the forerunner of "if you could walk in my shoes." And then, why does the groom stand to the right of the bride! Well, in ancient times, so the grooms right hand is free in case of attack (assuming he is right-handed) so he could defend his bride--if you really think about this--it makes no sense at all.
At last, the wedding ring! If you let another try on your wedding ring, you are so doomed, and you are asking for unfaithfulness. Should a bride take off her ring, for any reason, the groom must be the one to put the ring back on--or bad luck!
There's a lot to think about when getting married, we just thought we would add to that drama!
Taken from http://southwestblend.com/Wedding-Event-Planning/Funny-Wedding-Moments.htm
The tradition of the father giving away the bride, is based on the bride being a captive of some brave young man trying to prove his worth to a man of greater stature--be it head of a tribe or his father, best friend or brother--whatever. The bride, being an unwilling participant, had to be 'watched' at all times, so she was accompanied 'down the aisle' so she couldn't escape.
Rain at a wedding can signify something positive or negative--just depends on your own outlook. The good version is, rain foretells the coming of children--just like a good crop in a farmer's field--enough said... only you yourself know if this is good or bad. Way back when, it was good as families needed farmhands, i.e. children. The other version is, rain means many tears will be shed in the union. This again, is your own outlook--there are tears of joy, tears of sorrow, and things that happen that make you cry--but, also make you stronger as a person.
Speaking of tears, it is considered good luck for the bride to cry during her wedding--meaning she will not have to cry later, during her marriage--also meaning, she has brought rain for crops. Maybe she is crying because she is captive--sorry, just looking back on the 'giving away of the bride.'
Bringing this into more modern times, the wearing of pearls also has good and bad luck meanings. It is believed that pearls, in ancient times, represent future tears--so wearing them means the bride will have occasion to cry and experience heartache in the marriage. So, if you think about it, if your fiancée gives you pearls, that could mean he is telling you he will give you reason to cry later. The other version is that the pearls take the place of the brides tears, so she will have no reason to cry later, during the marriage. This is all intertwined with what it takes to make a pearl--sand in an oyster that is a constant irritation to the oyster--makes a pearl. You can make your own choice here, point is, it is all based on ancient beliefs.
Next, it is bad luck for the bride to sign her married name, before she is married. It tempts fate. This is a modern one since being a captive leaves out signing your name at all--especially your 'intendeds' last name. The bride should not wear her entire bridal outfit--even for a fitting--before her wedding day. This includes the dress, veil, shoes and jewelry.
Here's a good one, do you, or do you not, drop the wedding ring? On the one hand, if you drop the wedding ring during the wedding ceremony, it has been seen as lucky as you are shaking off any evil spirits that may have been lurking there--on the other hand, it may signify the first to die... whoever dropped the ring, dies first! Wow, you might want to consider the age of the ring bearer..
On to the brides dress--IF she makes it herself, for every stitch in the dress, the bride will shed a tear during the marriage. This could be countered by the tears shed trying to pay off an expensive dress--could be a draw on that one.
When to get married--modern belief is to exchange vows as the clock's minute hand is moving upwards--not downwards. The upward movement of the minute hand on the clock is 'ascending towards the heavens'--so my guess is that the downward moving of the minute hand means your going to the 'other place.' It's all up to you--playing on the safe side could be good.
Do not marry a man that has the same first letter in his surname, as the first letter in your surname. So the Victorian rhyme goes, "To change the name and not the letter, is to change for the worst and not the better." Hey ladies, this is most likely the reason your last names changes to his last name!
It's all in the shoes! Long after the days where the 'bride' was a kidnap victim, and the father 'sold' or 'gave' his daughter away, the father would pass one of his daughters shoes to the groom, as a signal of giving his daughter away in marriage. It is also considered good luck for the groom's mother to throw a shoe at the bride as the couple leaves the reception, so that the bride and her mother-in-law, would forever be the best of friends... but then, it is also considered to be good luck if a house cat eats from the brides shoe the week of her wedding... in addition, the bride must have a penny in her shoe, while being married, if she wants a good marriage and wealth. Who knew, it's all in the shoe!
Onto the bridal dress. Well, back in the captive days, it was considered really good luck to have a piece of the wedding gown..so the dress was, while still on the bride, ripped to pieces, by wedding attendees--I'm guessing probably mostly female attendees. No one else was to outshine the bride by having a longer dress--i.e. the big train of the modern wedding dress--the bride was to be the center of attention. It is unlucky for the groom to see the bride in the wedding dress before the wedding and also unlucky for the bride to wear the dress for alterations more than one time before the wedding--this centers around either party changing their minds?
Walking down the aisle-whether accompanied by friend or foe or not--the bride must enter the church on her right foot. Also, the bridesmaids should sign the bottom of the brides shoe. The name that lasts the longest on the bottom of the shoe, i.e. not walked off, will be the first to marry next. This could be the forerunner of "if you could walk in my shoes." And then, why does the groom stand to the right of the bride! Well, in ancient times, so the grooms right hand is free in case of attack (assuming he is right-handed) so he could defend his bride--if you really think about this--it makes no sense at all.
At last, the wedding ring! If you let another try on your wedding ring, you are so doomed, and you are asking for unfaithfulness. Should a bride take off her ring, for any reason, the groom must be the one to put the ring back on--or bad luck!
There's a lot to think about when getting married, we just thought we would add to that drama!
Taken from http://southwestblend.com/Wedding-Event-Planning/Funny-Wedding-Moments.htm
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