July Brides!

[musincy]

Okay, July Brides, we only have 2 months left (can you believe it??!!). I just realized as I was ordering my wedding band today that, even though I was REALLY on top of things when I first became engaged, I''ve started letting things pile up until the last minute!

Anyone else feeling the same way?

What do you all still have left to do before the big day?

 

[galvana]

Hey Im July 11th WOOHOO!
Lets see what do i have left to do.....................

Send Invites (may 11)
Print Seating cards (got cardstock)
Print Programs (got paper for them)
Buy welcome bags for hotel guests and stuff for inside them
But stuff for the Bathroom Baskets
Make/Print Bathroom Baskets Sign

I think thats it! wow. i think im in decent shape.

but then again, i may think of more things - as soon i hit submit! LOL

 

[Kim N]

Yes, I definitely feel the same way! I can''t believe there are only two months left! Where did the time go?

I still have:

Flowers
Vows and ceremony
Cake
Veil
Finish alterations
Order tuxes
Music and musicians
Table cards and name cards
Guestbook
Gifts

Somehow, it feels like a ton of stuff for these last two months.

 

[musincy]

I''m glad I''m not the only one

Here''s what I have left:

Hair/makeup trial
Mail invites
Finish pre-marital counseling
Vows/ceremony details
Book wedding night hotel room (yikes... need to do that soon!!)
Choose readings
Choose DJ music
Programs
One more gift
Marriage license

I guess that''s not that much... but it''s enough!

 

[Blair138]

Garter
Cake (bakery picked)
Pick menu (5/20)
Chair covers
Make Aisle runner
Favors
Cake topper
Thank you cards
Parent gifts
Ring bearer pillow
flower girl dress
GM gifts
Marriage license
Welcome bags
Wands to wave after ceremony
Cocktail hour musician?
MAP

I think I am pretty good but I am stressing out between grad school, work and the wedding. and I just found out yesterday that my invites cost 62 cents to mail, the pretty wedding stamps only come in 61 cents...

HOW ANNOYING!

 

[musincy]

Ooh speaking of mailing invites and stamps... isn't the USPS raising prices this month? Anyone know when that's happening?

EDIT: Just looked it up... May 11. Keep that in mind everyone!

 

[newsboysgrl777]

Hi all. I''m July 3 and have a lot already done, but also have A LOT left to, too!! Some of it is just simply a matter of time (such finishing pre-marital counseling as well, but obviously you don''t rush these meetings. You do them at the pace that you''re supposed to. ) and some other stuff that can wait (like marriage license). And the other things, I should probably hop on!!

 

[tropiqalkiwi]

Well I have had a fairly short timeline to work with in general (5 months from booking venue to wedding day!) so I still have alot of things to work out, but I just finished my invites so I''m feeling good about my progress so far.

What I have left to book/figure out:

Florist
Make-up/Hair Artists
Ceremony (what we will include, vows, etc)
Pre-nup
Gifts
FI''s Tux
Centerpieces
Guest Book
Programs
Place cards/Escort cards
Rehearsal dinner
Flower girl dresses
Style of cake

That''s all I can think of now, but there are probably hundreds of last minute details too

I just hope I can get it all done by July 5th!

 

[galvana]

LOL, im totally cracking up at myself right now, as i just read your posts and realized i forgot some VERY IMPORTANT DETAILS!!

Marriage License
Vows
Choose readings (think im letting FI do that)
LOL

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

My hand hurts from all the checks I''ve been writing!!

We still have to
have our final meeting with the venue (will do on the 16th)
finish our OOT boxes (mostly done, I just need to get water and chips. I''m procrastinating on this...)
find a hair dresser/do trial (planning to research this week and next)
put together our ceremony readings
put together our list of must have music
put together our list of must have pictures
marriage license (any time between now and July)
print place cards (will do after meeting on the 16th)
bake cupcakes for favors (week of the wedding)
alterations (early June)
parental gifts (any time between now and the wedding-picture frames)

 

[Lanie]

Date: 5/4/2009 8:45:18 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
My hand hurts from all the checks I''ve been writing!!

We still have to
have our final meeting with the venue (will do on the 16th)
finish our OOT boxes (mostly done, I just need to get water and chips. I''m procrastinating on this...)
find a hair dresser/do trial (planning to research this week and next)
put together our ceremony readings
put together our list of must have music
put together our list of must have pictures
marriage license (any time between now and July)
print place cards (will do after meeting on the 16th)
bake cupcakes for favors (week of the wedding)
alterations (early June)
parental gifts (any time between now and the wedding-picture frames)

Hudson...how are you doing boxes? Are they cheaper than baskets (I''ve seen baskets, but never boxes and I''m intrigued!) Do you have any photos of them?

 

[Lanie]

I have a lot to do as well. Too busy to post a list. But your lists are helping me...thank you!

Biggest thing is to get stuff for my bachelorette party. We''re doing a bar golf themed bachelorette party like they did on the movie Wedding Date. I need to buy some cute stuff for it! We''re going to 9 bars to complete our "holes".

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Lanie, I'm doing gable boxes-see attached

These aren't mind, just a pic from google.

 

[Aloros]

I''m July 11 as well, iloveprincesscuts!

I still have to:
-put together the centerpieces - I bought the materials and put one together, gotta finish the rest
-send out the last couple of invitations
-marriage license
-vows
-secure rentals for our backyard
-order the cakes - I know which ones and from where, but have to put the order in
-order our wedding bands - already know which one I''m buying for him, just gotta do it!
-buy my shoes!
-finish planning our honeymoon - SO EXCITED
-stuff for the kids to do at our wedding
-list of must have photographs
-get more details from the caterer
-re-pot the sunflowers soon (doing my own flowers)
-purchase the booze
-hire a bartender

He has to:
-get his suit/tux/whatever
-get a playlist together

 

[Lanie]

Wow. Those gable boxes are CUTE! That one you posted matches my wedding colors! What company did you use? About how much were they?

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I actually got mine from a friend of mine. They were her left overs and I got them for free. You can get them many different places online. You could probably find them at JoAnn''s or Michael''s, but I don''t know for sure. I would google "gable boxes" and go from there re: price.

 

[Patchee]

JULY 11th for me!!! and....Aloros & Princesscut!

I am sending out my invitations by this weekend *May 11th deadline*

Call the preist for our meeting and vows

Meet with the cake lady again
Meet with the flower lady again

Send the song list to the DJ

Marriage license

I have minor decorations to get!

I bought a beautiful end of 2008 wedding dress for $450.00 but decided on a more simple dress that I am waiting to come in the mail
Anyone need a brand new wedding dress with tags on, no alterations in a size 6? (I wear a 4 normally) I am willing to "auction" it off (give it away) to someone who is really in need of one! There should be a Give Away Gown area on pricescope!!

Thennnn I get to write many, many checks!!!!!!!!!!! Ugg!

Tropicalkiwi - Can I ask why the prenup? I almost was not getting married over discussion of that!

 

[tropiqalkiwi]

Date: 5/4/2009 12:25:32 PM
Author: Patchee

Tropicalkiwi - Can I ask why the prenup? I almost was not getting married over discussion of that!

Sure you can ask. We just are both going into the marriage with a bit of personal money built up and want to make sure things stay separate. We are also both aware of inheritances that we will be getting down the road.

We have talked about divorce together a few times mostly because my parents divorced when I was a kid. Both of us are very against the idea and really think we will stay together forever. If something horrific happens however, our money/property will safely go only to who it was meant for.

Why are you against the idea? I''m surprised to hear that one almost broke up your marriage!

 

[Patchee]

Tropikal ... I understand your reasoning completly. My fiance and I also have significant assets separate and we keep all financial separate and will continue to after we marry and if it was HIM bringing up a pre-nup I probably would have gone with it however, it was HIS MOTHER who wanted him to get one. It wasn''t something he never even thought of until his mother stepped in and, that is what made me want to bail.

I started thinking ... It''s me or dear ol'' mom! I thought what??? Does she think I am a "strap hanger" with nothing and I am looking to rob her son or something! We''ve been together going on 6 years, getting married - yes, this July and if I wanted something from him I would have already taken it and be gone!

That''s why no prenup for me!!!

Did you and your fiance both mutally bring up the conversation? I think it could be a touchy subject.

 

[Lanie]

I'm weird about prenups too. I don't think I could go into a marriage if my partner said we needed a prenup.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Damn MILs always mess everything up

 

[Blair138]

funny that you mention this, FI brought this up back in Feb. and I FLIPPED OUT. Basically we had NEVER talked about a prenup and then Boom, he brings it up. I REALLY thought his mom had said something to him about it because he really couldn''t give me a good reason as to why. He said ''his parents had gotten divorced and that is what made him want one'', I wouldn''t agree and it never got brought up again.

Basically, I wouldn''t have been against it if it had been talked about from the beginning, but it never was. It madde me feel like *someone* thought I was a gold-digger...

 

[tropiqalkiwi]

Date: 5/4/2009 3:09:08 PM
Author: Patchee
Tropikal ... I understand your reasoning completly. My fiance and I also have significant assets separate and we keep all financial separate and will continue to after we marry and if it was HIM bringing up a pre-nup I probably would have gone with it however, it was HIS MOTHER who wanted him to get one. It wasn''t something he never even thought of until his mother stepped in and, that is what made me want to bail.


I started thinking ... It''s me or dear ol'' mom! I thought what??? Does she think I am a ''strap hanger'' with nothing and I am looking to rob her son or something! We''ve been together going on 6 years, getting married - yes, this July and if I wanted something from him I would have already taken it and be gone!


That''s why no prenup for me!!!


Did you and your fiance both mutally bring up the conversation? I think it could be a touchy subject.

Well I can see why it was touchy for you, I would be upset if it came from a MIL too! What an odd way to begin your relationship with his mother, I''m sorry that happened to you.

I think FI brought up the issue of a pre-nup first, sometime at the beginning of our engagement. It wasn''t really a drawn out issue or anything (I think they are a great idea) it was more of a "so now that we are engaged I guess we will have to find a laywer to write up a pre-nup for us".

We are both fairly practial people, I don''t see it as unromantic, and it just seems like a good idea for us. So I never thought about it being a touchy subject, but now I''m curious about those of you who don''t like the idea.

Lanie and Blair and anyone else who doesn''t like the idea of a pre-nup.....what is it about them that you don''t like?

 

[Blair138]

it wasn''t so much that I don''t like them, it was that FI and I had NEVER spoken about them, neither of us have trusts or gobs of money, he does have his house and considerable savings, I only have savings. I just felt upset by the way it was brought up and how I think it came from FMIL. But, it never came up again, so who knows really what his thinking was.

 

[Lanie]

Sorry this turned into a different thread veering into the land of prenups.

I don''t like them because you are setting up the possibility that a divorce will happen. I''m not naive enough to think that every marriage stays intact, and I''m not naive enough to think that those that got a divorce thought there was a possibility to get a divorce when they married. But I don''t know...it''s just not for me and my FI. If anything, I will inherit more than my FI and I have more of a "cusion" than he does financially. But it never crossed my mind.

 

[tropiqalkiwi]

Date: 5/4/2009 11:12:52 PM
Author: Blair138
it wasn''t so much that I don''t like them, it was that FI and I had NEVER spoken about them, neither of us have trusts or gobs of money, he does have his house and considerable savings, I only have savings. I just felt upset by the way it was brought up and how I think it came from FMIL. But, it never came up again, so who knows really what his thinking was.

Now that I read you previous post again, I see you already said something along these lines, sorry I didn''t catch it before. I can totally understand feeling hurt when you think it is coming from FI mom.

 

[tropiqalkiwi]

Date: 5/4/2009 11:20:53 PM
Author: Lanie
Sorry this turned into a different thread veering into the land of prenups.


I don''t like them because you are setting up the possibility that a divorce will happen. I''m not naive enough to think that every marriage stays intact, and I''m not naive enough to think that those that got a divorce thought there was a possibility to get a divorce when they married. But I don''t know...it''s just not for me and my FI. If anything, I will inherit more than my FI and I have more of a ''cusion'' than he does financially. But it never crossed my mind.

Oh I''m sorry for my threadjack, it was entirely unintentional. Thanks for sharing your perspective with me though, it''s nice to hear other views on the issue.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 5/4/2009 12:25:32 PM
Author: Patchee
JULY 11th for me!!! and....Aloros & Princesscut!

Me too me too! I still have TONS to do. Geez...let me think...

Marriage license
Meet with cousin about flowers
Meet and officially book DJ (tomorrow!)
Meet officiant
Another dress fitting
Music for ceremony...no ideas there
Order invites...holy crap I am doing that tonight! I''m so behind!
Order 12-15 cakes...after figuring out that a wedding cake was going to be $600+ I''m just ordering a bunch of white 10" cakes from the local grocery store''s bakery! They''re delicious and I do not care! I''ll just have my cousin throw flowers on a few and put them on a table!

I''m sure I have tons more to do but I have to go get ready for work now!

 

[Patchee]

Blair - JUST how you felt about the PN is how I felt and got it handed to me. 1 YEAR yep a year into engagement I hear this crap... put that to a stop real quick~

But to get back on the thread... Yeah another July 11th Thing 2 and 2!!! You do have some stuff to do - get going girl! I sent out my invitations this morning and then it hit me... I (we) ARE GETTING MARRIED GIRLS! WHOOHOO

I am going to get my marriage license this week... my stomach hurts in a good way thinking about it. However, my stomach hurts thinking about the check writing phase of it all!!!!!

 

[Aloros]

Date: 5/5/2009 8:05:24 AM
Author: thing2of2

Marriage license
Meet with cousin about flowers
Meet and officially book DJ (tomorrow!)
Meet officiant
Another dress fitting
Music for ceremony...no ideas there
Order invites...holy crap I am doing that tonight! I''m so behind!
Order 12-15 cakes...after figuring out that a wedding cake was going to be $600+ I''m just ordering a bunch of white 10'' cakes from the local grocery store''s bakery! They''re delicious and I do not care! I''ll just have my cousin throw flowers on a few and put them on a table!

I''m sure I have tons more to do but I have to go get ready for work now!

thing2of2, I totally did the same thing with the wedding cake! Both FI and I really balked at the prices. I mean, they''re pretty and all, but we''d have to keep it inside anyways (outdoor reception), so what''s the point? We''re just ordering two huge sheet cakes. As long as they taste great, who cares?