Just for fun/conversation…funny stories/issues with ILs?

[fieryred33143]

I love my future in-laws. I think they are fantastic people and the best part is they treat me like a princess LOL…just kidding (or am I

).

I do know that I’m going to have some “issues” with mom. She is the queen of guilt trips. Last Father’s Day we got to the house at around 8AM and was there until 6PM. When we were ready to leave, she lay on this HUGE guilt trip about leaving his father alone on Father’s Day so we had to spend the night!!!

She also has all of these crazy ideas. She convinced my FF that I have to drink a lot of milk because I’m 26 and my time to have a baby has passed so only milk will help.

No wonder every time I go there, she serves me a cup of milk. I always thought that was weird but figured it was a South American thing…turns out it’s a crazy MIL thing.

 

[Lauren8211]

26 and your time has passed?? Goodness! That means I have 5 months to make a baby! lol! SO will not be happy!!

My in-laws are very cool -- but sometimes I think his mom thinks of him as her baby a little bit too much. I feel like she feels he''s his "baby" and she still wants to mother him. He just turned 29!

Although, she does not step on my toes, and has been nothing but nice to me. Maybe his mom just mothers different than mine does, and it makes me slightly uncomfortable. I don''t have a very "motherly" mother. lol.

They''re good people though -- and they''ve definitely welcomed me in!

 

[dragonfly411]

LOL the milk thing is TOO funny.

I love my future in laws to death as well. I think my only issue will be the "my darling baby boy" syndrome with mom. She can''t let go of that. Fortunately he''s making her. My other thing with her is that she is very set in her ways, and I''m very not. We are similar in many ways, but there are some things she does that I don''t agree with. For instance, she insists on hand washing dishes, saying a dish washer can''t do the job........... thats.....what....dish ..... washers are MADE FOR! LOL. She''s super fun though despite her quirks.

 

[Delster]

Yikes! I'd better buy me a cow and get to milking!!!

My only issue with the future in-laws is that they're HYPER. They are all GO GO GO people. My family are all older and much more sedate. BFs family wear me out!!! Sometimes I start crying in the car on the way back from their place and it's just sheer exhaustion. I wish I could keep up with them!

I think we should share the nice stories too about our future in-laws! For my part, I had a health scare a while back (nothing wrong, I'm fine!) and it took a lot out of BF. FMIL could tell and confronted him so he told her what had been on his mind. She started crying. She was every bit as worried. I feel so blessed that that wonderful woman cares about me that much.

 

[absolut_blonde]

SO''s father passed away last October. Unfortunately, I didn''t know him very well before it happened.

But his mom is great. Very nice, laid back, not intrusive or pushy. Basically the antithesis of the MIL stereotype. I can''t even think of any complaints. I''m very lucky!

I do know that SO''s SIL has issues with my FMIL sometimes but that might be a function of personality or the fact that they live in the same area (whereas we will live about 2 hrs away).


Now my most recent ex''s mom on the other hand... would''ve had lots of stories about her. Nice lady, but WAY too smothering/babying. I cannot deal with that! It was such a turn-off because he was still so dependent on his mom.

 

[KCCutie]

I really like my FILs so I consider myself really lucky. The only think is FMIL seems to forget sometimes that I have a family too she''s always wanting me to hang out and do stuff with them. Maybe that''s b/c FSILs fiance really has no family to speak of, maybe she just forgets that on mother''s day I have to spend time with my mom too. It''s no big deal though, I just have to keep reminding her. maybe when she meets them it''ll sink in.

One cute story....On Mother''s Day we went up to the FILs house for brunch and when we walked in the door my SOs elderly grandpa got up from his chair on the other side of the room and said "Oh look who''s here!" He was just beaming and so excited to see us. Then he walked right by my SO and gave me a big hug and stood there talking to me for a good 5 minutes like he didn''t even see my SO(now he is legally blind so maybe he didn''t really see him but still)! I think I won him over the first time I met him and he just loves me it''s really sweet, plus SOs mom (this is her dad) get a huge kick out of it.

On the flip side my family loves my SO too. He fits right in. With my family we are always picking on each other throwing around little jabs and insults and some people are really weired out by it, but he just jumped right in and fired back. We''re going to a baseball game as a gift to my dad b/c he loves when we have "family outings" but one of my brothers lives far away and can''t fly back so we joked that E would be his stand in and my dad actually said "Oh good I like E better anyway, at least he talks to me." LOL I know it sounds terribly mean to my brother but it''s not...it''s just the way we are,and it was a big compliment to my SO.

 

[trillionaire]

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[trillionaire]

Well, this is more about a "Me" issue than an FIL issue.

SO''s brother is getting married next month, and his FI just had her bridal shower. I was looking at the pictures yesterday, and they were nice, and I didn''t think much of it until I saw the picture of the bride-to-be with my SO''s mom! My heart STOPPED! I was so JEALOUS! I couldn''t believe it. She (FMIL) is fantastic and sweet, and I totally had a protective response to seeing them together, like, that''s MY FMIL! lol. She''s a nice girl, too, I was just here first...

too funny since SO and I are not really talking about marriage! But his parents have been calling me FDIL for years now...

 

[aliciagirl]

My future in-laws are great to me. SO''s parents are both divorced and remarried. His father is very much a ladies man, even now, so I don''t think he''s met a girlfriend that he hasn''t liked.

SO''s mother is a great woman. She raised SO and his brother basically alone and I have a lot of respect for her. Once she found out that I loved the color green, she picks out the ugliest stuff and points it out to SO like, "Alicia would love that, it''s green!" It''s cute but thankfully she''s never purchased anything like that. I was upset with SO a few weeks ago because he hadn''t really been outspoken to his family about the seriousness of our relationship, but just last night he was telling her that we were looking at buying a condo once I start working and he said she was so excited for us! It makes me so happy.

Unfortunately SO''s (4 years older) brother''s FI M isn''t so lucky. SO''s brother and M stayed together at our apartment with me during SO''s graduation a few weeks ago (SO stayed with his mom in the city, she was nervous to stay alone) and the whole day before SO''s mom kept asking M "Where are you going to sleep? Where is A going to sleep?" then the day after she asked again! Of course poor M felt like she couldn''t say "Oh, we shared a bed" and it was just so awkward. She''s never asked SO and I that and we aren''t even engaged! I honestly don''t know where she was coming from there.

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 6/9/2008 12:47:09 PM
Author: trillionaire
Well, this is more about a ''Me'' issue than an FIL issue.

SO''s brother is getting married next month, and his FI just had her bridal shower. I was looking at the pictures yesterday, and they were nice, and I didn''t think much of it until I saw the picture of the bride-to-be with my SO''s mom! My heart STOPPED! I was so JEALOUS! I couldn''t believe it. She (FMIL) is fantastic and sweet, and I totally had a protective response to seeing them together, like, that''s MY FMIL! lol. She''s a nice girl, too, I was just here first...

too funny since SO and I are not really talking about marriage! But his parents have been calling me FDIL for years now...

HAHA I know EXACTLY what you mean. He has a brother that will pretty much be a bachelor for the rest of his life. And yet when he brings girls around I keep one eye on her and one on my FMIL. That''s my FMIL!!! LOL So cute.

 

[FrekeChild]

I only have a FFIL, FSIL and future nephews. The youngest nephew(he's 13) though, has decided that FF and I will be popping out babies. Which is not on our radar at all. One day we had all just had dinner (FF, me, FFIL and his wife, FSIL, FSIL's BF, and the younger nephew) and when they got into their car, the nephew busts out with "When are grandpa(FFIL) and Liz(me) going to have a baby?" Which left FSIL and FFIL laughing so hard they were in tears. It was an accident of course, he meant to say, "When are uncle (FF) and Liz going to have a baby?" but still...

Then again I'm not surprised because this is the kid who when he's asked by a waiter what he wants to drink, he'll reply, totally straight faced, "I'll have a Budweiser please." Or as he and his mom (FSIL) are walking out through Wal-Mart's crowded parking lot, practically yell out "I don't want to ride in the trunk again mom!"

Yeah. At least he keeps everyone laughing...

 

[Lynnchee]

My fiance'' loves my father.

For instance. One time we were having a serious conversation with both my parents and then all of a sudden my dad let out a boisterous fart! My mother, FI, and I all looked at my father in disbelief - my mothers being the most stern. She said "how rude!" and my Dad says. "what? I thought it would be really quiet like your Moms". If looks could kill....

Another story. My father was talking to my FI about business. He said "there are three things you need a business partner for" He hold out his index finger and counts "One, you need money". He retracts his index finger and holds out his ring finger, "Two, skills or expertise". He retract his ring finger and sticks out his middle finger, "three... uh.. I forget what the third thing is". He looks quizzically, cocking his head towards the cieling, all the while he continues to hold his middle finger out at my FI''s face for a solid minute or two.

My dad....