Keep your fingers crossed for me..

[firebirdgold]

I found a drop-dead gorgeous antique ring. Even better than my original dream ring. Plus it's super affordable! I sent my bf a pleading email going on about how wonderful it is and what a great price, and how it'll be impossible to find something that nice for that price ever again. Only history has shown he doesn't actually read my ring emails. Which so far has been a good thing, since I've never wanted a ring quite this badly before, not even the original dream antique ring.

I'm really scared that someone will see it and realize what a great deal it is and snatch it up before he even reads my email. While the jeweler did tell me he could make that setting again, as we all know, no two diamonds are alike espically when it comes to OEC's. Besides, it's hard to imagine we could find something comparable for that price. Not that it's close to being over our budget, but still. I'm very anxious about it.
To top it off, I just know he's having a bad day. He was so angry about work yesterday, and today he has a meeting about a project that's been getting him really upset lately. And he'll have to deal with his team leader who sent him the demanding emails while he was giving a talk yesterday. He just hates his job lately, and it makes it hard for him to think about other things like our e-ring. It's so frustrating to him because he has no idea when he'll be able to change sections due to the upheaval at the company. (Management change-over, so all internal transfers and job openings are frozen).

Hopefully no-one will notice the ring and snatch it up before I can talk to him in person tonight. Sushi might make him more ameanable to the conversation. I'm just so nervous because past conversations about antique rings have ended up with me spending the night crying. And then me spending another night crying because someone else bought the ring. Of course it should be different now that he's out of ph.d hell, but past history has made me a bit more anxious about the whole thing than I otherwise would be.

So if any of you have a st. Jude candle, I could use a few prayers sent my way.

although hopefully it's not a cause for the patron of lost causes quite yet.

. But still keep your fingers crossed for me, I could use it. I just know I'm going to fret about this all day.

EDITED -pic removed, hands off lurkers!

p.s. anyone else not getting their ps emails?

 

[sumbride]

It''s BEAUTIFUL!!!!

(you may want to take the picture down so no interlopers run off with your dream ring! I notice you didn''t mention where it''s from, but still...)

 

[sunkist]

Blen I think this ring is fabulous! It''s the same one you posted over in Rocky Talky, right? I love the profile view. I''m keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you

Do something reeeaaaally sweet for your BF, I''m sure that will do the trick

 

[allycat0303]

I love your tastes in rings! That one is just beautiful. Lets hope your boyfriend read the email and decides to jump!

 

[firebirdgold]

Hopefully obscene quantities of spicy tuna will do the trick tonight.

I''m just so paranoid it''ll dissapear or that he''ll get upset over my timing. The chances of him actually reading my email while at work is even slimmer than the chances of him ever reading the email at all.

 

[ilovesparkles]

Can you feel my vibes? Lol ok. Hopefully a good dinner and perhaps a back/neck massage? His favorite movie? A night letting him watch sports and with his favorite girl supplying the beer? Whats his absolute favorite thing? I would do that for him with lavishing love because hes had a tough time at work lately and hopefully it will give him a nudge to give you what you want.Good Luck!

BTW I also have been getting no emails from PS and wondering whats going on!

 

[firebirdgold]

ooh, beer. what a great idea.
Unfortunately I have no idea how much work he''ll bring home. After a conference trip he always has some backed up, and this is coming on top of our trip to greece and his shutting down for his phd. Granted I have trouble picturing him without work at night.

 

[anchor31]

Good luck indie! I''m keeping my fingers crossed for you! It''s gorgeous!!

 

[jesterjigger]

Good luck! I hope he reads that email and decides now''s the time. I agree about the pic though...it''s easy to find where the ring is from through it. And that IS an amazing price!

 

[firebirdgold]

*happy dance* He read the email! Of course he also said that the mail program mangled the link so he couldn''t actually go look at the ring.. but he opened and read the email!

Apparently it''s a bit of a slow day because most of the people who''ve been stressing him didn''t even show up to work!

Fortunately, the more work he gets done at work the happier he is, and people-free days are great for getting work done. I can easily gauge what his mood will be at the end of the day if I know how many meetings he has.

Poor thing, neither of us can wait for the change-over to be finished so he can look for a new section to work with.
Anyway, there was no sound of stress or ''I don''t want to talk about it'' in his voice. This is a very good sign. Hopefully we''ll be able to talk about it tonight.
And if you notice, I did take down the picture.

Mine, you hear me? MINE!
I keep refreshing the page to make sure no-one''s bought it yet. oy, I''m a mess. I''m so distracted I even burned my hand on my oven.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Indiejones, Yay! How exciting that you found a ring you totally love. *I''m at the point now where I''d LOVE anything.* The ring you picked is particularly pretty, though. I like way it has those delicate designs around the band. Pretty, pretty. And double yay for your guy being in a pleasant mood after work. Isn''t that a blessing!

 

[ilovesparkles]

Oh now I am double rooting for you! Whoop whoop! Ok that was dorky! Beer is a good idea eh

Now I am getting anxious to see what happens for you!

 

[E B]

Man, I missed the picture! Well, it sounds beautiful and I hope its YOURS in no time!

 

[E B]

OMG, IndieJones, you were once Wren, weren''t you? I was JUST thinking about where Wren went the other day, and I was going to make a post about it! Why the name change?

 

[Blenheim]

I have my fingers crossed for you! It''s so beautiful.

I don''t get PS emails, because I''m on here so much I usually see the post before I see my email about it.

It''s an addiction.

Ebree, it''s her. She''s gone incognito.

 

[jesterjigger]

Yaaaaaaaaay!!!! Now he just needs to hurry up and get it. Goooooooooooooooooooo Indie!!!

 

[Mannequin]

I saw it before it disappeared. Great find, Indie, and good luck getting it!

 

[Selkie]

Fingers and toes crossed, I hope your talk went well!! Love that antique style, as always, and it looks like a sweet diamond (I know where to look, heh). Did that other one, with the surprise sapphires, go away? LOVED that one too.

 

[JulieN]

Date: 5/18/2006 3:32:59 PM
Author: IndieJones
Granted I have trouble picturing him without work at night.

Good luck!

 

[ilovesparkles]

We NEED an update!

 

[firebirdgold]

Ok, I''m a little baffled by him. First off he was confused as to why I''d think he''d be upset and not want to talk about the subject, afterall he''s not in school anymore. (the word trauma comes to mind

). He seemed interested so I plugged the ring a bit. Although I lose him completely when I start talking technical, nothing makes his eyes glaze over faster than saying SI1 or VS2. I did play up the jump in gold/Plat prices and mentioned how diamond prices could be going up next week, and how things sometimes only stay on that site for a couple of days.

When we were falling asleep last night he told me he had looked at the site and thought a lot of the stuff was pretty. While true, I think that''s the prettiest ring so those weren''t terribly reassuring words. I told him that a lot of the rings didn''t have the same cut of diamond, like his friend''s fiancee has. (gorgeous family heirloom OEC in a modern bezel setting). Which got an ''ohh''. I also mentioned I like squarish shapes but he might have been asleep at that point.

I got the feeling that he thought the ring was too small and inexpensive. But that''s just a feeling, could be wrong. This is really the first time he''s looked at rings seriously so he doesn''t have a good feel. I don''t care that the ring is so inexpensive. hey, the phrase ''channel set wedding-band'' springs to mind.

I never thought we could afford more than a half carat in 18k white gold anyway.

I have no idea what our budget is. A long time ago he told me that he looked into it and found that rings unusually cost around 4-8k. (if I remember correctly). Last I heard he''d saved $2100 a month or two ago, so I''ve been figuring that our budget is around $2300. But truthfully he could, if he wanted to, use some of his tax rebate he saved. (Cash only he told me, no debt). So in the end I have no frigging clue as to what our budget is, except that due to house/car/school loans/cc debt/retirement saving it''s not commiserate to his nearly 6 figure pre-tax income. (given the fact that I want a $1200 ring, it''s not exactly a problem for me). I''m not sure he wants me to know what the budget really is. But then again, while he may like to torture me, he''s not exactly devious.

Basically I''m left confused. Will he get the ring? Will he get something else from the site? Will he wait and see if something better comes along? Something else entirely??

argh.

I''d feel a little better about him being in charge of the process if he had any idea that all diamonds are not the same. That particular diamond looks really sparkly, much better than some of the others. And most of their rb''s are not exactly ideals, you know? *SIGH* I think I''ll wait a day and then try the analogy of computer processors for diamond cut. There''s a bbq at the company tomorrow to celebrate a new building and it''s one of the few times family members can have a little tour. So that will be lots of fun, and maybe a good time to bring the subject up again.

So of course, I''ll continue obsessively watching the ring to see if anyone buys it in the meantime. I know he''d never do that at work. well, maybe at lunchtime. But believe me, it''s a sure thing all their computers are heavily monitored.

I still need those fingers crossed!

Thanks for your support, btw.

 

[ilovesparkles]

Well it could have gone way way worse right?! I am sorry to hear that there was no true answer to the question of the ring from him though! So would he tell you if he purchased it? I''m just curious because if he buys it and all you know is it got sold we don''t need you freaking or all upset you know? That would be much wasted energy! So I still have my fingers and now my toes crossed for you indie! And thanks for the update!

 

[firebirdgold]

You guys know me far too well at this point. I promise, no hysterics this time. At least looked at the website. That''s huge improvement.

 

[IrishAngel7982]

You definitely have my fingers crossed! I didn''t get here in time to see the pictures or the website, but I''m sure it''s a beautiful ring. I love the antique looks...I have my great grandmother''s ering that I wear as a RHR...white gold, about .20 carat, filigree on the gallery, basket/bezel setting (I''m not sure, it''s hard to describe.) Anyway, good luck and keep us posted!

 

[Selkie]

You know what, I bet you''ve got the ball rolling now, with him. He''s a scientist, right? It doesn''t really matter what it is, once you start getting that type interested in specs, and the quality of a product, they won''t stop until they know AALLLL there is to know about it. Maybe once he has some time to start his own research, he''ll really get into it, and you''ll end up with something just as great as any of those rings you''ve posted here.

 

[firebirdgold]

Date: 5/18/2006 6:37:37 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Indiejones, Yay! How exciting that you found a ring you totally love. *I''m at the point now where I''d LOVE anything.*

All right, maybe I am at that point.

I think he''s starting to feel that I change my mind a lot. I''m now worried that he''s scared to buy a ring because I might see something right after that I like better. I''m trying to plug it as being easy to please.

Of course he has good reason to think I''m indecisive. My favorite site just put up a new antique replica ring that I like an awful lot as well. It''s different from the other two as it''s very classy and elegant and more geometric than organic. Like the flower ring with the surprise sapphires (that I''ve been talking about since the beginning) it''s a larger diamond and at the top if not slightly over our budget. Of course the geometric ring is ready to go and they''d have to find a diamond for the flower ring.
I''d be ecstatic with any of these three rings (or any ring at this point). Although I must admit to a faint and residual longing for a diamond slightly bigger than my mother''s 1/2 carat. Hey, at least I know it''s not a nice emotion so I haven''t really made an issue out of it with him.

So I sent him what I promised would be the final long ring email. It had 5 ring options. The three antique rings, the dimend scaasi 3-stone truffle ring, and an etoile ring (either a dscaasi copy or an original from signed pieces). He did acknowledge receipt of the email but that''s it. Of course I did reserve the right to send him the occasional link if a new ring showed up on the antique site.

Heh, he did say he didn''t want me to point out a single specific ring and say that one. He said it would take the fun out of it. This may be a case of be careful what you wish for!

I very much want him to pick something that appeals to him as well as me.

Hopefully he''ll do something about the ring soon. I think I''m feeling an upswelling of impatience due to my sister''s impending wedding. Not because she''s getting married, but because 1) I''ll be 2+weeks in a romantic place far from him which I''m already feeling wistful about.
And 2) I''ll be seeing my favorite female relatives and I just know they''re going to ask me about it. Since they won''t be coming to our dw, I''d love to be able to have a ring and to be able to talk about it if they ask me. I wouldn''t announce it, but I would like to have a ring on my hand. I suppose that comes under the heading of not-nice-emotion, huh? Of course getting engaged on my B-day after the trip would be super-special.

Anyway, at this point I''m keeping my fingers crossed for just simply for a ring I''ll love sooner rather than later.

 

[E B]

Hey Indie,

Just checking up. Heard anything from your boyfriend yet? Have you tried discussing rings under the assumed budget? I know you've sent the last "hints" email, but maybe discussing less expensive (yet equally as beautiful) rings might interest him a little more. Now, I don't know your boyfriend at all, but it might be worth a try!

For example....Whiteflash has an EX/VG .50 H VS1 Asscher for $1356: http://www.whiteflash.com/asscher/Asscher-cut-diamond-2390194.htm

If you had it put in a WG 4 prong setting (like indecisive's gorgeous asscher), you'd be around $1500, and you'd still have a gorgeous .50ct ring that'd not only be the same carat weight as mom's, it'd be unique.

ETA: When I asked FI what he would have chosen for me (if it had been completely up to him), he said a round diamond in a plain solitaire setting. He doesn't like the look of antique rings, nor would he have chosen the setting I selected (with the diamond sidestones, WAY too ornate for him). If you love the solitaire look, maybe it'll appeal to your guy more, as well. All guys are different, but I know mine leans towards a more "streamlined" look.

 

[firebirdgold]

Well, I am trying to be careful of his budget. The ring that I started this thread about is actually the same amount he told me had saved up last fall. Given the info I have I estimate that he has, at the very least, $2200 saved by this point.
The other two antique rings and the 3-stone .7 tcw dscassi ring range from two to four hundred more than my estimate. The three stone .5tcw dscaasi ring and their etoile replica are both right around the budget. And signed pieces has Tiffany etoiles occasionally in the right range too although a bit smaller.
Neither of the two antique rings that are up on my favorite site have been sold yet and those are the only options I can track. So I have no idea if he''s done anything at all about getting a ring.

Since I''m making my sister''s wedding bands at kinda the last minute.

I''ve made a point about grumbling how short notice it''d be even for a regular jeweler. So hopefully he won''t wait until right before he wants to propose to get moving on the ring.

Since there isn''t really enough time left before I leave for Italy (really wished I hadn''t agreed to go for 2 weeks since it''s turned into more like 3

), I''m hoping he''ll maybe propose when I get back. In fact nothing could be cooler than him proposing on the Fourth of july while we watch fireworks, or making me breakfast on my birthday the next day.

(bad fantasies. bad)

 

[Selkie]

Wait, what''s this about you making your sister''s wedding bands? Did I miss something?

 

[firebirdgold]

I have some training as a jeweler although I mainly have worked in silver. So this week my sister and her fi tried on wedding bands at Tiffany, fell in love with a set, and apparently had the brilliant idea that I could make the replicas out of silver.... by the 10th.

I am woefully out of practice, so while I''m flattered I''m also panicking just a bit. And feeling a bit annoyed that they''re (ok, she is) unwilling to fork out $1200 ea for a wedding band that will last them the rest of their lives. I think puritanism must be a genetic trait.

I haven''t even touched my bench for well over a year due to an injury.

I do love this kind of thing, and it''s so much fun working with wax again, so I shouldn''t complain (too much). The only real problem I have is that during the year it was closed up my little workshop got infested with black widow spiders! ick!!!

Is this momentum I see?
I just love it when my bf makes these little comments about when we live together, and he''s been doing it all the time lately. Things like won''t it be nice when we only have to buy a big olive oil not two small ones. Or that we should get a house where we can park side by side in the driveway. Or we should get this mac mini set up for the tv instead of a reciever or dvr (tivo). Stuff like that. But instead of maybe one comment every couple of days, he''s making multiple comments a day. Almost constantly in fact. And we aggreed practically at the start of our relationship that we wouldn''t live together without either being married or shortly before the wedding. He also mentioned last night that moving in together is now only 6 months away. *yay*. Doesn''t this mean he has to get off the stick on getting an e-ring, and I have to get off the stick on losing weight?