ellaila
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Hi everyone!
I have to start off with the happy news that my sweetie and I got engaged last weekend!!
And now onto the kudos and advice for the LIW!
I''ve been reading the LIW forum for the past few months now and WOW, was it great to have a place to read stories of fellow LIW who felt exactly the same way I did! I thought so many times about posting but then I would read someone else''s post that said just what I was feeling, and that would be enough to appease me -- so thanks to you all for getting me through some anxious and confusing times!
I was def. all wrapped up in that bad place of wondering every day "is today THE day?!" and driving myself crazy over it!! And though it was impossible NOT to think that way (since we had gone ring shopping together and I was like 99% sure he had bought the ring back in Feb or March), I really had to talk myself into not letting it rule my emotions. I was starting to get so sad every day that it wasn''t THE day, and then I realized that I was making it worse because he didn''t want to propose to me under those conditions! Who wants to propose to a sad mopey basketcase?! So my advice to you all is this: even though it''s still going to be on your mind, you really need to just try your hardest to not let it affect your relationship. Vent to friends, vent here, but try to keep it out of the relationship, because if your guy is anything like mine, he wants the proposal to be at the right time and it''s hard for the time to feel right when you''re feeling so emotional and confused. If you are confident in your relationship and love your guy and know that he is the one, then just take deep breaths and try to savor the relationship and know that it will happen when the time is right!
And believe me, even with all the obsessive thinking about it, when the moment happens, it''s still a lovely surprise -- and well worth the wait!!
I have to start off with the happy news that my sweetie and I got engaged last weekend!!
And now onto the kudos and advice for the LIW!
I''ve been reading the LIW forum for the past few months now and WOW, was it great to have a place to read stories of fellow LIW who felt exactly the same way I did! I thought so many times about posting but then I would read someone else''s post that said just what I was feeling, and that would be enough to appease me -- so thanks to you all for getting me through some anxious and confusing times!
I was def. all wrapped up in that bad place of wondering every day "is today THE day?!" and driving myself crazy over it!! And though it was impossible NOT to think that way (since we had gone ring shopping together and I was like 99% sure he had bought the ring back in Feb or March), I really had to talk myself into not letting it rule my emotions. I was starting to get so sad every day that it wasn''t THE day, and then I realized that I was making it worse because he didn''t want to propose to me under those conditions! Who wants to propose to a sad mopey basketcase?! So my advice to you all is this: even though it''s still going to be on your mind, you really need to just try your hardest to not let it affect your relationship. Vent to friends, vent here, but try to keep it out of the relationship, because if your guy is anything like mine, he wants the proposal to be at the right time and it''s hard for the time to feel right when you''re feeling so emotional and confused. If you are confident in your relationship and love your guy and know that he is the one, then just take deep breaths and try to savor the relationship and know that it will happen when the time is right!
And believe me, even with all the obsessive thinking about it, when the moment happens, it''s still a lovely surprise -- and well worth the wait!!
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