Ladies who do not love their E-rings!!!

[Izzy03]

I had a conversation with a co-worker of mine today and it made me think of all the LIW, so I thought I should share.

My coworker has been married for five years, and told me that all she ever wore her whole life was white gold. She never really cared for yellow gold. Yet every time her BF (now her hubby) bought her jewelry it was yellow gold. She never said anything, trying to be appreciative.

When he finally proposed (after 7 years of dating), he gave her the ring she had hoped for but in a yellow gold setting. She was recently talking to him about having her stones transferred to a white gold setting of the same exact style (round brilliant with baguettes) and he reacted very strongly to it. He feels that she should keep the same setting that they were married with for sentimental reasons.

This just got me to thinking that if you are unhappy with your E-ring setting it is better to speak up sooner than later. (Of course, wait until you get to wear the ring before you make up your mind!!)

 

[gwendolyn]

Yeah, I can see how, after that long, he would think that she liked the stuff he was getting her. My boyfriend doesn''t have to worry about me being too quiet about my preferences.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Same here Gwen- my boyfriend knows all too well that I will speak my mind whenever I feel the need. lol!

 

[fieryred33143]

It''s better to speak up sooner in my opinion. I don''t think I would ever say anything if for example I stumbled across my ring. I would rather put it on and see how it feels. You will be amazed at how different rings look once its on your finger. I have always wanted a solitaire...until I tried one on. I absolutely hate the way it looks so we got one with stones on the side.

I also think that having the yellow vs. white gold conversation early on is very important. I only wear yellow gold jewelry BUT I hate yellow gold rings. My honey only wears yellow gold. He''s making the sacrifice for me (he put in a shameless plug that he should start getting white gold jewelry, especially for Christmas

).

Anyway, I expressed that to him before getting the ring and what he did was he bought me two tone jewerly so that I can still wear my yellow gold but have a white gold ring.

He loves me...sometimes

 

[Izzy03]

I can''t imagine my BF not knowing whether I like white or yellow gold! I would think that is pretty obvious!

 

[Cookie_tyme]

I thought it was obvious that DH knew I preferred yellow gold, but he recently surprised me with a white gold diamond ring - the "big" one - the diamond I''ve been waiting for. I told him my feelings and he''s fine with re-setting the diamond into a yellow gold ring. We''re going to set a colored stone into the white gold ring in the future.

I''m wearing the white gold ring while the yellow gold one is being made. It was after all, a meaningful gift.

I thought I was very clear about my likes and dislikes, style and gold color, but somehow, he just didn''t know. Maybe he was overwhelmed with info.

 

[snogirl17]

this is going to sound pretty harsh maybe to some... but i told my SO that if he got me yellow gold i would say no... this is because if he cant pay attention that i dont own ANYTHING yellow gold then he doesnt know my very well and we shouldnt be getting married in the first place.

 

[purrfectpear]

Date: 7/3/2008 4:55:33 PM
Author: beanie
this is going to sound pretty harsh maybe to some... but i told my SO that if he got me yellow gold i would say no... this is because if he cant pay attention that i dont own ANYTHING yellow gold then he doesnt know my very well and we shouldnt be getting married in the first place.

I would agree with you in theory, but in practice, there actually are a lot of men who are completely oblivious to jewelry. They have no idea about white, gold, combinations, etc.
It''s more than possible that they might notice you wear a certain color but not know that it''s preference. They may think that''s the color the ring just happened to be in the showcase

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/1/2008 12:02:30 AM
Author:Izzy03
I had a conversation with a co-worker of mine today and it made me think of all the LIW, so I thought I should share.

My coworker has been married for five years, and told me that all she ever wore her whole life was white gold. She never really cared for yellow gold. Yet every time her BF (now her hubby) bought her jewelry it was yellow gold. She never said anything, trying to be appreciative.

When he finally proposed (after 7 years of dating), he gave her the ring she had hoped for but in a yellow gold setting. She was recently talking to him about having her stones transferred to a white gold setting of the same exact style (round brilliant with baguettes) and he reacted very strongly to it. He feels that she should keep the same setting that they were married with for sentimental reasons.

This just got me to thinking that if you are unhappy with your E-ring setting it is better to speak up sooner than later. (Of course, wait until you get to wear the ring before you make up your mind!!)

how about rhodium plate over the YG?

 

[FrekeChild]

DF, what are you doing in the LIW board? I don''t think I''ve ever seen you in here before!!!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/3/2008 11:46:39 PM
Author: FrekeChild
DF, what are you doing in the LIW board? I don''t think I''ve ever seen you in here before!!!

i''m trying to start a "GUYS IN WAITING" board.