lapping

[Smurfysmiles]

as if being lapped by people you know isn''t bad enough, today i was lapped by a couple on tlc''s "a wedding story" i probably would have cried if so hadn''t been in the other room...guys don''t understand stuff like that so why confuse them in the first place

had to vent on here- real life friends always tell me the same thing- "i hope you were nice and said congratulations yadda yadda yadda"

i guess some people don''t understand that if you say something in private it does not mean you would say the same things outloud....oiiiiii sigh

ok im done.

 

[mimzy]

don''t sweat it smurfinator. tv couples don''t count

they are all flash anyways

 

[Smurfysmiles]

lol smurfinator nice

i supppppppooooooossssseeeeeee you are right mimzy

p.s. happy birthday to my SO he turns the big 28 in 15 minutes!

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

Date: 12/27/2007 12:01:33 AM
Author: mimzy
don''t sweat it smurfinator. tv couples don''t count

they are all flash anyways

So true, mimzy! All flash and no substance

 

[CrookedRock]

I feel the frustration... they don''t get it! GRRR! We just got lapped over Christmas by friends who are younger! Now that stings!

 

[sandia_rose]

Date: 12/27/2007 10:48:27 AM
Author: CrookedRock
I feel the frustration... they don''t get it! GRRR! We just got lapped over Christmas by friends who are younger! Now that stings!

I hear ya, too! I got lapped by my little brother over Thanksgiving. Bummed me out. I almost, ALMOST thought a proposal might be coming over Christmas after we had Christmas Eve dinner over my BF''s oldest/dearest friend''s house. As we were leaving, his wife said to me, "I hope Santa is real REAL good to you this year!" in a tone of voice that said she knew something. But, while my BF did an EXCELLENT job picking presents for me (and I am thrilled - he got me some things I''d been secretly coveting), the one I wanted wasn''t there. Aw well. I wasn''t holding my breath too much. He knows my commitment timeframe and alternately swings between "yes, I''d like to get married" and "I see no point in people getting married." I met his ex-wife of 20 years (she

)and know exactly why he vascillates and it''s NOT because of me or how we feel about each other, so I''ve not said anything, figuring he can pick the time when it''s right. I want to be surprised!!!!

TV couples don''t affect me. Not even Wedding Story on TLC. So much of that HAS to be staged. I say that because I was a rabid watcher of Baby Story, which usually runs before or after Wedding Story, when I was pregnant. Lemme tell you! I gave birth. I had a comparatively easy, non-medicated midwife birth....and it was NOTHING like the cozy stuff on the show. For example, I swore, threw something at my ex-husband, told the midwife to go (beep beep) herself, my son pooped all over the place without warning seconds after being born, etc. Giving birth wasn''t the hell people make it out to be, and if I wasn''t the age I am, I might even think about doing it again --- all I''m saying is that the show leaves A LOT out. Birth, like planning weddings, is not always mess-free, hassle-free and picture perfect.

I generally don''t envy anyone else''s situation anymore. This probably comes with age and experienced observation more than anything. Hey, how many of us envied Princess Diana when she had the fairy-tale wedding? How many of us watched The Bachelor and Jessica Simpson''s reality show with envy? And come to find out later that NONE of those relationships turned out to be as perfect as on TV and most ended badly. I used to be envious of my best friend and her husband''s fairy-tale soulmate relationship UNTIL they got divorced and she confessed that he cheated on her almost the whole time they were married. She was, like, "He treated me like a queen probably because he was so darned guilty and hoping I wouldn''t find out." So...ya know?

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[SeeShell]

Ugh...so many lappings have happened to me in the past year that I''ve lost count.

It is hard enough to deal with the real life ones - don''t even give the TV couples an ounce of distress.

I agree with you, Smurfy - I think I''d blow up if I didn''t have PS to come and vent once in a while - you really can''t talk about these things with most people in real life!

Oh, and yes - happy birthday to your guy!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

oi im so sick from the celebrations last night that i don''t even care about lapping anymore, ugggggggggggggggggggggggggh let me tell you, drinking in a hammock chair is not a good idea.

 

[FrekeChild]

Ugh...

So here's a funny story. I used to work in a shoe store. I was hired by the general manager who had my best friend working at the other store. He had hit on her (We'll call her E) a couple of times, and she just blew him off. So I started working there and got promoted almost immediately because I had prior management experience, another salesperson got promoted at the same time I did we'll call her A. Well the GM -he'll be H- was having to take over this new store, with myself and A being two of the closing managers. Nothing interesting was going on except that A would constantly come in on a Sunday either still drunk or extremely hung over. And very very late. I never said anything about it because I didn't want her to get in trouble. Well, she always got preferential treatment anyway, although no one thought of it at the time. I think he had a crush on her the whole time. Well apparently in September, after I was going back to school, A and H go out for drinks with another person who worked with us and her BF which is where it all started. I guess they pretty much immediately became a couple. So she had to move over to the other store where my friend E worked. Anyway, I guess A and H got pretty serious really fast, because I just found out that H asked A to marry him. They've been together for 4 months. WTF?

E and I talked about it before and we figured that they'd make it a year before breaking up, because they have nothing but barhopping and drinking in common. Don't get me wrong, I think they are both awesome people--but not ready to get married. And in case you're wondering she's 22 and finishing her BA and he's 26 and managing two womens shoe stores for his dad who owns the whole operation.

I don't get it. I can't help but think that perhaps they're rushing into things. I'm guessing at least someone else out there agrees with me...