Left Out, and Almost Here

[MissAva]

So I am still not firmly attached to either design of ring. Part of me loves the classic simple look of the solitaire, and part of me enjoys the extra "bling". I am not 100% which I like better with a wedding band. Again I could go for the simple lines of plat or diamonds. Though if I get the shared prong setting I will have to get the matching band a plain one would look odd.

I know he is either making up his mind soon or already has. That is making me think about this way more.... For those of you who think it is coming soon are you doing this?
Or for those of you who are already engaged married did you do this when it was your time?


And yes I realize I am acting like a complete ment.

 

[Hunali]

I went through the same exact thoughts at the way end! I started second guessing my decision of a three stone and started thinking about a solitaire, something I loved but not as much. I began doing this b/c I realized that I would soon receive a ring that I would wear for the rest of my life and would never change in any way. So I would have to be happy with whatever I received.

I think that it's very common for people to start changing their minds or not being able to make up their minds at the end b/c of anxiety and other similar emotions, but when you receive the actual ring, you will be thrilled and happy no matter what! I'm glad that I stuck with my first instinct.

I'm sure you'll fall in love with whatever you end up with. ALL diamonds and rings are sooooooo beautiful!!!

 

[jcrow]

i completely did the same thing!! i think i just wanted to know i checked out all options. i also wanted to make sure i didn''t chose in haste. i started out wanting a RB solitaire. i looked at everything from asschers to cushions to three stone rings to halos to sidestones. i ended up going back to the want i loved originally. i really love the extra bling too. so i decided on a shared prong wedding band. that way- if not appropriate, i can take off the e-ring and have the diamond w-band to wear alone. i just love that.

you''ll figure it all out as well. you''ll second guess yourself, but you''ll figure out what is best for you.

 

[JDgirl]

Oh, wow, I totally unterstand where you're coming from. I'm doing the exact same thing. First, I wanted a setting with diamonds, now I'm leaning towards a solitare. FIrst I wanted platinum, now I'm thinking about yellow gold. I had my heart on a halo setting for a while, but now I'm not sure. I figure this means that there are a lot of different settings that we could love and be happy with. So, really, it's a good thing. What I'm doing, since I know the jeweler, is I'm submitting five or so pictures of settings to him that I would be happy with, and letting my BF make the choice. That way, it's just as much him as me. But if your BF has already bought the setting, don't worry. I really think your indecision means that there is just so much more flexibility for him to find a setting that you will be happy with and love for a lifetime.

 

[squeaksluv]

You took the words right out of my mouth! Here I was all set on an emerald or an rb but now I''m starting to think about princess cuts (ever since I found printouts of princess cuts in my sweeties desk)! And that doesn''t even take into consideration the setting. For an emerald or princess I think I''d go for the solitaire look, maybe with diamond pave or channel/bead set up the sides....if it''s going to be an rb I used to think I loved the solitaire look but now I''m thinking maybe a 3 stone would be nice! And how am I supposed to convey all this to my bf who tenses up if I even mention the words ''engagement, proposal, or rings''!!! The thing is though, I know we''re supposed to be happy with whatever we get because it really is a symbol but this is a symbol we''ll be wearing for the rest of our lives!!!!

 

[anchor31]

Date: 11/13/2005 12:00:57 PM
Author: squeaksluv
And how am I supposed to convey all this to my bf who tenses up if I even mention the words 'engagement, proposal, or rings'!!! The thing is though, I know we're supposed to be happy with whatever we get because it really is a symbol but this is a symbol we'll be wearing for the rest of our lives!!!!

Ditto. He casually mentioned eternity bands a couple of times, but I'd rather have semi-eternity or a three-stone (I can't seem to make up my mind either... 3, 5 or 7 stones??) for comfort and practical reasons. How to let him know... I'm at a loss.

 

[peonygirl]

Yep, I''m definitely debating between a plain shank and one with shared-prongs. If I got a plain one I could get a diamond wedding band, but then my engagement ring would be so plain and lonely for more than a year. I''m set on a round center-stone, so at least that''s finalized.

I main thing that''s causing me to be indecisive is that I''ve never seen a shared-prong engagement ring in person, and I know that if I don''t get one I could get a bigger center stone.

 

[fatafelice]

Matatora, I am definitely with you. When I came to PS, I had a very clear idea of what I wanted. Since then, I have had several, VERY different, clear ideas!

I have gone from a plain bezel-set RB, to an RB halo, to an asscher halo, to a cushion halo, to a bezel-set cushion solitaire...and yesterday I started thinking about sapphires!

I don''t think most of us LIWs would have ended up on PS if we didn''t have a little "control freak" inside of us...Oh, to be one of those girls who just lets the man do it all...JK! At least you know, no matter what style, you''ll end up with a fanastic stone!

And I agree with JDgirl: It just means that we will probably be happy with any of the options that we have, at some point, loved. So long as it comes with a proposal!

 

[MissAva]

Date: 11/13/2005 3:10:54 PM
Author: peonygirl
Yep, I''m definitely debating between a plain shank and one with shared-prongs. If I got a plain one I could get a diamond wedding band, but then my engagement ring would be so plain and lonely for more than a year. I''m set on a round center-stone, so at least that''s finalized.

I main thing that''s causing me to be indecisive is that I''ve never seen a shared-prong engagement ring in person, and I know that if I don''t get one I could get a bigger center stone.

I love the shared prong, I just worry it will date my ring. And honestly I want him to love it as much as I do. I have seen and tried on the facets rings and they are soo yummy. I just dont know and I think if I send V one more link....

These are the ones I like best, post yours too!

 

[E B]

You're definitely not alone, Matatora!

When we first started looking at engagement rings, my boyfriend was pushing me to get a solitaire. He's a no muss, no fuss kind of guy and lots of diamonds scare him to death. I tried several solitaire settings on and while I loved them (and there are some GORGEOUS solitaire settings...Jeff Cooper is my favorite), every time I tried on settings with sidestones, I felt something different. I've never had diamonds before now and thought, I'm a pretty down to earth, frugal, conservative kind of gal...a solitaire would fit me perfectly. But this is my engagement ring. The only one I'll (hopefully) ever have. I wanted to be able to look down and blind myself with sparkle. I wanted to have something custom, something not too out there but with a little more bling than I'd normally choose for anything else. And thus, my ring was born. It's still pretty simple, but the extra sidestones make a world of difference, I think. While my center stone is the lead singer (and an amazing one, at that) it's got great backup, too.

Go with what you think you'll LOVE. It's just a setting. If you want something different 5, 10 or 20 years from now, it'll be no problem.

 

[appletini]

Mat! I''m there too...at the end of last week I suddenly loved the idea of having a princess cut full eternity band for my e-ring (a la Jennifer Garner style). I showed my BF and told him it would be half our budget, I think he was tempted to throw all our previous ideas out the window. hhhmmm....maybe for an RHR.

http://www.whiteflash.com/jewelry_gallery/diamond%20bands/i_0656-004B.jpg.aspx

 

[snuga]

I may be the black sheep here, but I don''t think I have done this. I want a RB solitaire and that''s what I''ve always wanted (granted the carat size has increased)

. I think rings with fancy cut diamonds and pave and milgrain etc are BEAUTIFUL, but not me. Maybe I am the odd one out, but I still have the same exact ring in my mind that I have always had...

hmm... since I am a loner on this, maybe I''m the crazy one?

 

[jcrow]

Date: 11/13/2005 6:30:08 PM
Author: fatafelice

I don''t think most of us LIWs would have ended up on PS if we didn''t have a little ''control freak'' inside of us...Oh, to be one of those girls who just lets the man do it all...JK!

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that''s so funny you said that! i was thinking the same thing!!

 

[E B]

Are you the crazy one? No way! If an RB solitaire looks gorgeous on your hand, then that''s what you should have.

p.s. Sorry Mat, my whole post was about an engagement ring setting. I somehow missed the subject being the wedding ring!

Date: 11/14/2005 11:31:05 AM
Author: kalispera
I may be the black sheep here, but I don''t think I have done this. I want a RB solitaire and that''s what I''ve always wanted (granted the carat size has increased)

. I think rings with fancy cut diamonds and pave and milgrain etc are BEAUTIFUL, but not me. Maybe I am the odd one out, but I still have the same exact ring in my mind that I have always had...


hmm... since I am a loner on this, maybe I''m the crazy one?

 

[jcrow]

gosh mat! i was just browsing for half-eternity rings. i stumbled across dancing fire''s wife''s 5 ACA diamond ring. All i can say is dang!! then i started thinking- hum when i am older- would i prefer this?? hello- i am getting my ring made as we speak!! i can''t be changing my mind!! agh!

anyway- so what i decided on is a 6 prong knife edge tiff like setting with a shared prong wedding band. after talking with WF, and trying settings in person, i figured out the tiffany-look-a-like setting doesn''t sit flush with an diamond eternity band. so i am doing the knife edge with the 6 prong head peg set- like ladyluvsluxury''s custom WF ring (but without the diamonds). just FYI in case this is the direction you go.

 

[AmberWaves]

I''m going through the same thing, but my boyfriend has used all the pictures of ring settings that I''ve sent him (quite a few, too) and he''ll probably go wth one of those. The unfortunate thing is I''ve varied my opinion many times over the past few months- always a RB solitaire, but sometimes cathedral setting, sometimes cushion, sometimes pronged, sometimes this, sometimes that... poor thing. At least I know that when I finally get my ring, I''ll be surprised (and grateful- I love them all!). But I keep wavering on the band issue, as well. At first I thought, well, a simple ring, and a simple band, but now I''m thinking a WG band with channel-set RB stones, semi-eternity. I would like a bit of flash.

 

[jcrow]

amber- i want a bit of flash too for my wedding band. i''d really like the idea that if i wear it by itself, i''ll still have diamonds on my hand.

 

[MissAva]

Date: 11/14/2005 11:36:13 AM
Author: EBree
Are you the crazy one? No way! If an RB solitaire looks gorgeous on your hand, then that''s what you should have.

p.s. Sorry Mat, my whole post was about an engagement ring setting. I somehow missed the subject being the wedding ring!

Date: 11/14/2005 11:31:05 AM
Author: kalispera
I may be the black sheep here, but I don''t think I have done this. I want a RB solitaire and that''s what I''ve always wanted (granted the carat size has increased)

. I think rings with fancy cut diamonds and pave and milgrain etc are BEAUTIFUL, but not me. Maybe I am the odd one out, but I still have the same exact ring in my mind that I have always had...


hmm... since I am a loner on this, maybe I''m the crazy one?

No no the subject is engagment rings, but I want to alter slightly one of the facets rings...and that is how it would be done. You were right on!

 

[MissAva]

Date: 11/14/2005 11:45:00 AM
Author: jcrow
gosh mat! i was just browsing for half-eternity rings. i stumbled across dancing fire''s wife''s 5 ACA diamond ring. All i can say is dang!! then i started thinking- hum when i am older- would i prefer this?? hello- i am getting my ring made as we speak!! i can''t be changing my mind!! agh!

anyway- so what i decided on is a 6 prong knife edge tiff like setting with a shared prong wedding band. after talking with WF, and trying settings in person, i figured out the tiffany-look-a-like setting doesn''t sit flush with an diamond eternity band. so i am doing the knife edge with the 6 prong head peg set- like ladyluvsluxury''s custom WF ring (but without the diamonds). just FYI in case this is the direction you go.

I actually think the decision has already been made and that I am just not aware of it. But he has said a few odd things and then done take backs recently. Which is odd becuase he is normally very direct. I think this is all just as hard on him, bless his heart. He said he have had the ring hanging out at his house for a month by the time I get it. Which made me all excited. I wonder if my confusion affects the outcome.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I am also a black sheep here. I decided (or dreamed) I wanted a Tacori since high school. I picked out my setting over a year before he proposed (just like to plan ahead I guess

) I was flipping on the center stone so I just let him pick out the shape/size/cut...that way he still had some control and a slight surprise factor. He had never seen the setting in real life until he picked up the finished ring. Luckily he really likes it. I do think many of the popular rings today WILL eventually look dated (but every design trend goes in cycles). But who cares? Just pick something you love and don''t worry about how it will look in 10, 20, or 30 years.

 

[fatafelice]

I agree...I have been worried that my (current) chosen style will look dated, but all things come back in eventually. Once you hit 80-100 years, then it is an antique an valued for all the qualities that show its age! Deco rings, for example, probably looked VERY dated in the 60s, and now they are the rage. While their popularity may cycle, they will always possess the magic of thier time. I like to think that my descendents will one day value the style that I choose for my ring, even if it no longer looks "modern." Hopefully it will bring them ideas what my life was like when I got engaged. At least, that''s how I justify my halo!

Also, I recently inherited my grandmother''s e-ring from the 40s, and while it is just a classic solitaire, I can still tell what era it is from. It is the subtle things that keep a style from looking "new," and there is no way to predict or prevent that.

I say, go with what you love! An eternity band, with its simple (while sparkly) lines, is still elegant and will probably hold up pretty well over time. Otherwise, you can always change your mind in 10 years or so...