LIW freak out

[leoslove730]

I've been pretty good and patient for a while but just today I started feeling that LIW anxiety again and it sucks!!!! I think it has something to do with the fact that it is my first night by home by myself since BF/FF and I moved in together, cause he is out of town for work.

Well, that and our anniversary is a month from Saturday - 3 years! I'm feeling like, dammit do it already!!! I know he's not, but one can only wish. I am trying so freakin hard not to get my hopes up, but I feel like it may be happening in the next few months, but at the same time I remember thinking that this time last year, and here we are a year later, and still no proposal.

So yeah, I'm majorly feeling it today - to the point that I just want to jump out of my skin and scream!

 

[curiopotter]

Don''t worry girl.. I''m feeling the same today.

I''ve been with FF for a little over 4 years now. He''s bought the ring, he''s asked my parents, but he HASNT given it to me, and I''m going to go insane. I wish he was one of those guys who''se like, "I CAN''T WAIT to give it to her!!" But he''s not. He''s a procrastinator, and it sucks. Not only that, but now he''s in school all day long, and I only get to hang out with him on Sundays, even though I see him every day. I keep droping enormous hints that I want him to propose ASAP because I want it to be done before our Halloween party, so I can get congratulated. And also so I can start going to venues and not look like a moron because I''m not engaged. My dad called me the other day to tell me I needed to start making my ''list'' of people, and that we need to hurry and make a deposit on some place. I''m like "Dad... he hasn''t proposed yet. It''s embarassing."


I know you guys haven''t started looking at engagement rings yet (or at least that you know of) but I feel your pain. The anxiety doesn''t end once you start looking for rings either. We started looking for rings and diamonds in September of LAST year. He bought the diamond in February. We just got my ring the beginning of August.


(((HUGS))) It''ll come soon. We both just have to think positively.

 

[erskavates]

it''s the worst sort of torture, isn''t it? my BF told me in june that we could start looking at rings. i found the one i liked immediately, still looked around for a while, and then gave him a decision last month. now i know that he''s working on it, but no idea how long it will take for him to find what is in his budget but also fits the bill for me.

i think it''s the longest you''ll ever wait for something once you''ve been told you''re getting it. i went to look at my car and bought it the same day. same for a computer. if i had gone to the car dealership and was then told "oh, but you''re going to have to wait for 3-5 months to actually get your car" i would have lost my mind!! so even being a person who knows it''s coming soon, probably within a month or so, it still doesn''t make it any easier

solution to this? take up a hobby. spend more time with your girlfriends. do anything you can to take your mind off it, even though that''s truly impossible.

 

[erskavates]

it''s the worst sort of torture, isn''t it? my BF told me a few months that we could start looking at rings. i found the one i liked immediately, still looked around for a while, and then gave him a decision last month. now i know that he''s working on it, but no idea how long it will take for him to find what is in his budget but also fits the bill for me.

i think it''s the longest you''ll ever wait for something once you''ve been told you''re getting it. i went to look at my car and bought it the same day. same for a computer. if i had gone to the car dealership and was then told "oh, but you''re going to have to wait for 3-5 months to actually get your car" i would have lost my mind!! so even being a person who knows it''s coming soon, probably within a month or so, it still doesn''t make it any easier

solution to this? take up a hobby. spend more time with your girlfriends. do anything you can to take your mind off it, even though that''s truly impossible.

 

[bee*]

aww I hate it when the anxiety creeps up on you. I''ve been so good recently but the odd time I can feel it coming up on me. We have our ring for two months and he still hasn''t proposed yet as he wants to do it properly! Men! The way I am keeping my mind off it is concentrating on my studies and going to the gym lots so I can have a killer body by the time he does it

 

[erskavates]

this might seem like a silly question, but have you actually had the marriage talk? i''d imagine after 3 years that would be a definite, but you never know. because if you haven''t talked about it, then i wouldn''t be expecting anything. and if you have, then did you talk about any sort of time frame? even then, as i was informed by my bf "it takes time to find the right thing" so you''ll still be waiting. it''s so funny how there is a whole lifetime to come once you get the ring, but the waiting up until you get it seems like FOREVER!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I''m starting to feel like it''s the season...this seems to be the time of year when a lot of folks start getting engaged or thinking it may happen. With so many holidays staring us down it’s easy to see why the anxiety levels could start to rise. I kind of feel like the next 3 months are going to be very interesting as a LIW. Secretly I dread the close of the year because I know if I do not get a proposal by the end of the year, I’ll be very disappointed. I try to concentrate on other things when I feel the familiar longing for a ring on my finger.

 

[leoslove730]

Thank you all for the encouragement!

Yes, we have had the marriage talk MANY MANY times. He always says the same thing, "The longer you keep talking about it, the longer it''s gonna get pushed farther away because I want it to be a surprise..." Blah, men.

I''m about 99.999999% positive that he doesn''t have the ring yet. He actually has just started getting jewelry store credit cards (Zales and now J.B. Robinson) in the mail, so he''s obviously planning on using them on something. I''m thinking maybe something for our anniversary, but HOPING maybe for our impending engagement...LOL

It''s weird cause he said that he would never get a jewelry store credit card because the interest rate is too high, but now he''s applied for and gotten a few. So I dunno. Sometimes i think he''s just doing it to torture me.

But, yes, we have had the marriage talk, and it always has a positive outcome (we''re going to get married), it''s just a matter of when - which he won''t give me an idea.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

style="WIDTH: 99%; HEIGHT: 105px">Date: 9/20/2007 12:08:35 PM
Author: leoslove730

He always says the same thing, ''The longer you keep talking about it, the longer it''s gonna get pushed farther away because I want it to be a surprise...'' Blah, men.

MEN! They don''t understand our need to know things, do they? A little hint isn''t going to sabotage his plans completely, right?

My SO told a friend of ours that he plans to propose to me when I "calm down" which was his way of saying "when she stops asking/talking about it so much". Um...hello? I''m a girl, how am I supposed to just turn off that switch, ya know?

 

[diamond12]

OMG, I know how you fell. We have reservations for NEW YEARS in VEGAS, and I am totally setting myself up for that day. How stupid, huh? I need to stop thinking that or else I will feel so disappointed and just have a miserable New Year. I can see myself already!! I''ll need an academy award if I can pull that one off.

 

[diamond12]

Date: 9/20/2007 12:20:11 PM
Author: Keepingthefaith21

style="WIDTH: 99%; HEIGHT: 105px">Date: 9/20/2007 12:08:35 PM
Author: leoslove730

He always says the same thing, ''The longer you keep talking about it, the longer it''s gonna get pushed farther away because I want it to be a surprise...'' Blah, men.

MEN! They don''t understand our need to know things, do they? A little hint isn''t going to sabotage his plans completely, right?

My SO told a friend of ours that he plans to propose to me when I ''calm down'' which was his way of saying ''when she stops asking/talking about it so much''. Um...hello? I''m a girl, how am I supposed to just turn off that switch, ya know?

Yes, and then when we''re asking these questions they feel "pressured". Ugh just tell me Yes or no? and When? It''s not that hard! and once you do, I''ll stop asking! Hello. This is why I got so upset that I said "i will NEVER mention it to you again." My goal is to keep my mouth shut until Christmas. It''s so hard though. because I WANT TO KNOW!!