LIW-itis flare up!

[vip0802]

normally i think i''m a pretty good LIW - i''ve been patient, i don''t bug BF and i don''t obsess over it too much. however since the new year started, 2 cousins and 3 girlfriends are now engaged! i''m so incredibly happy for them, but at the same time, i''ve been having my first twinges of jealousy after hearing the news.

i''m actually upset with myself for feeling this way, but i guess it was bound to happen sometime. i''m pretty sure it doesn''t help that i''ve been immersing myself in shows like "Say Yes to the Dress", bridal magazines and helping out with overall wedding planning.

most of them haven''t been dating for as long as me and BF, and i know it doesn''t matter, but i can''t help but feel like i''m not sure what he''s waiting for. i met BF way back in 2001 when i was 21 and he was 22, although it took us about 5 years of being extremely close friends to realize that we were in love. officially we''ve been together for 3+ years, but i feel like it''s been longer than that. i mean we basically lived our 20s with each other.

anyway, thanks for letting me vent! back to oogling over dresses and wedding bands...i may as well plan vicariously through them so i can be ready when it does happen.

 

[Jessie702]

Im so sorry VIP. I can totally relate. I had to take a PS break a few months ago(sorry i didnt tell you ladies, i just had to have a break

). I dont know what to tell you, but maybe imerese yourself into something outside of weddings and marriages. Like ive picked up acting again, and started learning the guitar. Maybe find something you love so much that is totally outside of him. I know that it has helped me so much from going insane. Also, you can come here and talk to us anytime you need, we listen pretty well

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[vc10um]

Awwwww, Vi! ***HUGS***

Congrats to your friends and family! Just go back to TJB and ooooogle every case except the e-ring cases.

In all honesty, though, I think Jessie might be right. Set aside the wedding mags in favor of picking up a new (or revisiting an old) hobby. I think looking at dresses and flowers and bridesmaids dresses and wedding bands and linens...and...and...and...might make me go insane.

If it''s in the budget, maybe plan a Vday get-away for you and your FF! A and I are going to a B&B in Williamsburg for 2 nights for less than $300. Just a thought!

 

[vip0802]

Jessie702 - i know, i took a break from the LIW-forum for a little while as well. outta sight outta mind kinda thing you know? i hope you''ve been doing well and thanks for the advice! that''s so cool that you''re back into acting and learning guitar! i''ve always wanted to learn the guitar too, but i think my hands are too small.

vc10um - thanks hon! i''m seriously thinking of going back to that other jewelry shop for that peridot band!

thanks for the suggestion too! BF''s b-day is the 17th and a get-away seems like a perfect V-day/b-day combo present. it''s been 2 years since we took a trip anyway...i''m definitely going to have to look into it! oh, thanks for e-mailing me the pic btw...i love it!

i usually take up my time with photography, helping out at my mom''s store and visiting my grandmother with Alzheimer''s as much as possible. it really does help take my mind off things, but those activities can sometimes lead back into engagements and weddings for some reason.

like a couple of my photog buddies do weddings in their spare time, my mom owns a small jewelry shop and i usually help out young couples pick out rings and such, and grandma always seems to bug me about getting married since she says she still wants to be able to remember my wedding. *SIGH*

honestly though, after reading my post again, i feel like i sounded a bit pouty. i''m actually feeling much better about everything and i didn''t really mean to say "i don''t know what he''s waiting for". we were going through some tough financial times last year which affected most of his ring budget, along with some of our future wedding savings as well. it''s ok though, we''re back on track with saving up again and i know we''re both excited about knowing that we''ll be husband and wife one day. i''m back to waiting patiently.

 

[Jessie702]

Well, im glad you are doing and feelig better VIP....and no worries, all LIW get pout, well mabe not all, but some.......i know i have been there already myself.....and no probem on the advice. It is nice to be back into acting, i have another audition on Saturday, thank goodness, cuz thats my day to watch wedding shows....lol...well was.

 

[GettingDesperate905]

I know exactly how you feel!
My friend has just asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding. I am waiting for my e ring which I''m told is coming by the end of the month. the wait is killing me, and submersing myself in wedding related things isn''t helping. I went to the bridal show with this friend this past saturday, and I cried myself to sleep afterwards. and to top it off, another girl came with us who had just gotten engaged over the holidays.
Its really hard not to feel jealous when you see those pretty baubles appearing on everyone''s finger but your own. What i keep being told is that "it will happen in it''s own time" so that''s the only advice I can really pass on. But I sure can empathize.

 

[ChocolateLover]

I feel for you GettingDesperate905! I can''t imagine how hard it would have been to go to a bridal show, and not be able to focus on your own wedding. Frustrating. Our local bridal show is this weekend, but fortunately I''m out of town so its not even an option to go.

Most of my good friends are already married with kids, so wedding talk never comes up with them. Been there, done that for them. I was out with some girlfriends last night who are all much younger than i am, and it was very refreshing b/c they are a few stages behind me so we could talk about something other than kids