LIW who found out he purchased the ring...

[Diamond Confused]

As I posted in another topic, I basically found out today that my boyfriend purchased the ring. I picked up the mail today and in it was a letter from Tiffany''s which is clearly a bill. There is absolutly no doubt in my mind that it''s for the ring.

Well I feel horrible for basically ruining the biggest surprise of OUR lives. The poor guy...! Anyway, have any of you out there inadvertantly figured out the ring was purchased? Will the proposal still be special? Will I be able to pretend that it''s a big surprise? AHHHHH!!!! I feel like it just won''t be as magical anymore.

 

[Blackpaw]

YAAAYYYYYY

Now you have to be diamond assured or some such - not confused at least!!!!

Well congratulations on an impendýng engagement - i cant wait to see the ring on your hand. And now you dont need to worry about the moving in situation!

Does he know you know? If not i wouldnt worry about it - im sure the proposal itself will be a surprise so enjoy it

 

[honey22]

I think you will still be suprised and it will be just as magical as you had hoped!

We had the ring in our house for 5 months, and I had a feeling that it was coming up, but I was still in shock when he got down on one knee - don''t sweat it, it will be awesome!

Sending lots of fairy dust your way

 

[Dandi]

I (accidently!!) found out my DH had the ring about 3 months before he gave it to me. I still nearly keeled over with shock and excitement when he proposed to me, though. Nothing beats that rush, even if you have an inkling it''s coming!!

 

[fieryred33143]

He purchased the ring right in front of me after deciding that was the ring I had to have.

I thought it would ruin the proposal but nope. I knew about the ring, found out where it was hidden, had a ton of pictures and yet the proposal was the greatest moment of my life (thus far). There''s nothing like hearing those 4 words come out of his mouth. And honestly, the ring was the last thing on my mind. I don''t think I put the ring on until about 20 minutes after when he finally said "um hello...the ring?!?!" I think you are just so full of energy and excitement that he can pretty much slip an onion ring and you won''t notice (but you will after a few moments

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[sweetjettagirl04]

Date: 8/5/2008 9:22:16 AM
Author: fieryred33143
He purchased the ring right in front of me after deciding that was the ring I had to have.

I thought it would ruin the proposal but nope. I knew about the ring, found out where it was hidden, had a ton of pictures and yet the proposal was the greatest moment of my life (thus far). There's nothing like hearing those 4 words come out of his mouth. And honestly, the ring was the last thing on my mind. I don't think I put the ring on until about 20 minutes after when he finally said 'um hello...the ring?!?!' I think you are just so full of energy and excitement that he can pretty much slip an onion ring and you won't notice (but you will after a few moments

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Ditto to this!

I picked out the ring, he bought it, and the shipping confirmation was emailed to me instead of him, as an honest mistake. I saw it by accident, then he let me spend some time with it, took some pictures, and I couldn't wait to see that thing once it was tucked away!

I totally didn't even pay any mind to it when he proposed, I was just very elated and hysterically crying, it didn't ruin a thing! I even had a feeling it was going to happen when it did, and that thought ran through my head immediately before he did it - but I was still blown away. Don't worry, you won't miss a thing!

 

[littlelysser]

Okay - I don''t mean to be rude here...but didn''t you JUST post about you didn''t think he had the ring and your had compromised your values and felt horrible because there had been no movement on his part regarding the ring? And that you planned on leaving if he didn''t do something soon?

Well, now you know he has the ring, but now you are complaining because you know he has it. Worrying about ruining the surprise, etc.

I totally don''t get it.

I''d suggest you just take a step back and get some perspective.

You are going to be getting engaged soon - to a man you love. It seems to me that that is what is most important...I''d suggest you focus on that, unless you are the type of person that constantly needs drama and worry - in which case I say keep on keepin'' on.

 

[trillionaire]

I think a lot of women on these boards know about the ring in advance, but all seem thrilled to bits about the proposals. I wouldn't worry too much about knowing. Now you just have to try to remain sane until he finishes paying for it or proposes... and that, my dear, is often the hard part!

I thought I wanted to be totally surprised, but then I saw contact with a ring retailer in BF's email that he left up at his house,

followed by the diamond that we had been talking about suddenly being purchased, followed by a mystery package that he received but would not talk about. So I was fairly certain he had gotten it, then I followed up a little more to "confirm" that he had.

At that point, the curious child in me had long since taken over. However, I still have no idea what it looks like, or the setting, or when he would even consider proposing! And he has no idea that I know anything

But something about knowing that he is so sure makes me feel really great, and he has been acting like a prince lately, so I am really just enjoying this time when we are both really excited about our future. I would suggest that