LIWs awaiting Christmas Proposal

[honey22]

Hi girls - like many of you I am expecting a proposal pretty soon.

background - had the timeline talk last month and he said two months, so although I have got till mid January by his time, I am still going crazy!! Now I have got my hopes up so high before only to be devastated, and now I am starting to stress that this time will be the same and I have let myself get so excited and will be devastated again. I have no reason to believe that it won''t happen (looking back I realise it was not the right time before when I have thought it was), but after 11 years and a lot of those wishing to be married to this incredible guy, I guess I am freaking out.

This is the first time he has said he actually wants to get married (we went to counselling this late last year to sort out a few things, which obviously included my desire (and his lack of) to be married. That was honestly the best thing we did cause we are really on the same page now, I know it''s very cliche but so very worth the time spent to really sit down and lay everything out on the line - we are both so amazed at how beneficial it''s been.

So, I guess I am rambling and not really making any sense, just wanted to know how you other ladies are dealing with knowing it''s coming soon but still having to wait?! I think I was actually better when I was thinking it was never going to happen! I am ashamed that I am so focussed on this, I feel silly but it''s just so important to me - I just want to marry my best friend!

Also, congrats to all you ladies that have become engaged recently - how exciting for you, and I think a great time being Christmas and all to celebrate with your family and friends. Good luck to all you other LIWs out there - maybe we will get a Christmas present of our own!

 

[DMBsGirl]

I was promised a proposal this year, not specifically Christmas but before New Year''s. It still seems pretty surreal. It''s so close yet so far! I''ve been wanting to be engaged for about a year and half and can''t imagine what it will actually feel like when it happens. I''m excited, anxious, nervous and a little scared (what if it doesn''t happen?!?!

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[rubybeth]

Knowing it''s close has both helped and made me more anxious. I have generalized anxiety disorder, so I kind of just worry about everything--and I don''t want to be medicated because as I get older, it gets better. Knowing that I don''t have to worry about him leaving me (because he''s said he can buy a ring after Christmas) really helps! Knowing that he''s actually going to do it, and that he has ideas for a proposal, makes me both crazy excited and nervous!

Better to be anxious about something good than something bad, though, I guess! I totally know how you''re feeling! I am so grateful to the other LIWs for making me feel less crazy and giving me a place to feel like one of many in a good group. I have friends who are married, engaged, and dating-and-soon-to-be-engaged, but none of the ladies express(ed) their desires the way that I feel them, and it might be kind of awkward to always be saying, "Oh, I wish it were sooner! He looked at rings with me this weekend, but who knows!?!" This board is a safer, less judgemental place to vent than, say, to my mother, who gives me no sympathy.

 

[honey22]

Hi DMBsGirl & rubybeth! It''s nice to know we can share our real feelings here and everyone understands where are coming from. I''m glad I''m not the only one feeling a bit loopy. It does feel a bit like group therapy! My fingers are crossed for you ladies - sending you lots of fairy dust!!

I just hope I am not too excited and freaking out when it does happen that I miss what he says!! My best friend said that she was so excited, she can''t remember what he actually said.

 

[Aloros]

I''m expecting a holiday proposal.

Things have been so crazy for me lately though (in a good way!) that I haven''t had much time to feel nervous or excited. 2008 is going to be one heckuva year!