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Shiny_Rock
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- Nov 7, 2007
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Hello ladies!I was once a poster on here back in October. Well, back then was how my BF was supposed to propose by the end of October.
Well, he didnt because he needed to help his parents out with some bills and his bills and school and he did what was best in the end. I was devastated as was he but we made it through it. I told him that I would like to be engaged by my family reunion August 2...and he said yes i would like that too. AHHH!!
So it is now July and we are even closer than before to becoming engaged. We have been dating now for five years and a lot has happened since last October... He wants to ask me this month but is still saving money so hopefully! ok i will fill you all in on the important stuff!
So the reason I stopped posting on here was of course because of the whole my SO not having the money when he otherwise would have asked. I just became almost hopeless..it almost happened and then it was taken away just like that.
And then in January, my grandmother that I was very close to passed away all of a sudden. She was only 68..they said it was a heart murmur in her sleep. The thing that upsets me the most is that she will never be able to be at my SO and I''s wedding. And also that 3 weeks before she died, I came down with a really bad case of Pneumonia. I was in bed for those 3 weeks. I was planning on spending time with her after i thought i had a cold but then i got so sick that i was then going to wait until i got better to visit her..then she died and it was too late. So my SO came with my family and I to the funeral as I was still sick and wouldnt have been able to make it through without him there. It was rough for everyone. And it didnt make it any better still being sick and all.
So fastforward to now...We are all doing a lot better but i find that i only miss her more and more. her husband (my grandfather) is going crazy. I understand that it has to be hard but some things are just too crazy to understand. About 2 months after she died, he starting dating this lady that tried to steal him away from my grandmother about 10 years ago. And about 6 weeks ago he said he was selling his house and leaving the cat that they had together for 5 years, there with the new owners. And back then he said that he was getting married to this lady. well a couple weeks ago, he called my mother and told her before they hung up that he was getting married that day. My mother talked to him earlier that week and he had decided to wait a while. She reminded him of that and he said, "Oh, i can just get it anulled." Wow! So as of now, we havent seen him for about 1 1/2 months. I understand that he isnt thinking and that its hard for him but its so soon and thats why my family is having a hard time! I would otherwise be happy if it was later on, but noone even knows her! So then he just packs up everything in the house and gives it to us and tells us to sell what we dont want! So i did get a lot of very nice things for when SO get married and have a house.
And it is all very sentimental which was even harder to look through it all. Escpecially when i came across a peice out of her Thomas Kinkade pictures that was her most favorite and a peice of her pottery that she collected from a pottery place. My most prized item though is a white kitchen aid mixer that she always used. They are expensive too! Its in excellent shape and that was one of the only things i wanted from my future wedding...so now i dont have to buy one. I know that i will always cherish these items.
Over the weekend, SO and I went to a big party and we were standing there and SO best friends mom looked at my ring (promise ring) and grabbed my hand and said "wow, i didnt know that you two were engaged!" And SO looked at her and said "OUCH! wow, thanks for that" I of course laughed and just looked at SO and said "see why i want to get engaged?" It still bugs me though.
And heres the second time it happened. A good friend of SO that he hasnt seen for about 3 years (and i havent seen for longer than that) shows up and greets us and then says "so you two are engaged, when''s the wedding?" AHHH!!! Of course we were like, "huh? who said that?" and he just assumed i guess because we have been together for so long. so then 10 seconds after we clarified to him that we were BF/GF he gets his gf and introduces her to SO and then says this is Brian''s ...........ah Fiance. (we thought he forgot my name) and then SO is like "Ah,girlfriend... again, thanks" And then his friend asks, "well when are yah gonna ask man?!?" And i am now at peace because I think that SO finally realized that its time to ask and i got to see his face and the look of realizing..lol. He looked at his friend and said, "I''m going to ask soon here" Such a simple answer but the way it was said was him realizing that its time. YAY!
So I guess you could say its way closer. He is saving the last of the money to get a ring. We had a talk over the weekend and he says he just wants the ring to be perfect for me. Which is understandable. he thinks though that if the ring isnt perfect and is mediocre that when i show people, they will think that are relationship isnt perfect and just mediocre. which is NOT at all true! I told him that the most perfect thing about the ring will be that it is from him.
He then said, "You are just the most important thing to me and I want to give you something that can live up to how perfect you are." Awww.
So i hope you ladies can welcome me back into the LIWs! I know its been a while!
Well, he didnt because he needed to help his parents out with some bills and his bills and school and he did what was best in the end. I was devastated as was he but we made it through it. I told him that I would like to be engaged by my family reunion August 2...and he said yes i would like that too. AHHH!!
So it is now July and we are even closer than before to becoming engaged. We have been dating now for five years and a lot has happened since last October... He wants to ask me this month but is still saving money so hopefully! ok i will fill you all in on the important stuff!
So the reason I stopped posting on here was of course because of the whole my SO not having the money when he otherwise would have asked. I just became almost hopeless..it almost happened and then it was taken away just like that.
And then in January, my grandmother that I was very close to passed away all of a sudden. She was only 68..they said it was a heart murmur in her sleep. The thing that upsets me the most is that she will never be able to be at my SO and I''s wedding. And also that 3 weeks before she died, I came down with a really bad case of Pneumonia. I was in bed for those 3 weeks. I was planning on spending time with her after i thought i had a cold but then i got so sick that i was then going to wait until i got better to visit her..then she died and it was too late. So my SO came with my family and I to the funeral as I was still sick and wouldnt have been able to make it through without him there. It was rough for everyone. And it didnt make it any better still being sick and all.
So fastforward to now...We are all doing a lot better but i find that i only miss her more and more. her husband (my grandfather) is going crazy. I understand that it has to be hard but some things are just too crazy to understand. About 2 months after she died, he starting dating this lady that tried to steal him away from my grandmother about 10 years ago. And about 6 weeks ago he said he was selling his house and leaving the cat that they had together for 5 years, there with the new owners. And back then he said that he was getting married to this lady. well a couple weeks ago, he called my mother and told her before they hung up that he was getting married that day. My mother talked to him earlier that week and he had decided to wait a while. She reminded him of that and he said, "Oh, i can just get it anulled." Wow! So as of now, we havent seen him for about 1 1/2 months. I understand that he isnt thinking and that its hard for him but its so soon and thats why my family is having a hard time! I would otherwise be happy if it was later on, but noone even knows her! So then he just packs up everything in the house and gives it to us and tells us to sell what we dont want! So i did get a lot of very nice things for when SO get married and have a house.
And it is all very sentimental which was even harder to look through it all. Escpecially when i came across a peice out of her Thomas Kinkade pictures that was her most favorite and a peice of her pottery that she collected from a pottery place. My most prized item though is a white kitchen aid mixer that she always used. They are expensive too! Its in excellent shape and that was one of the only things i wanted from my future wedding...so now i dont have to buy one. I know that i will always cherish these items.
Ok so on to the ring stuff....
Over the weekend, SO and I went to a big party and we were standing there and SO best friends mom looked at my ring (promise ring) and grabbed my hand and said "wow, i didnt know that you two were engaged!" And SO looked at her and said "OUCH! wow, thanks for that" I of course laughed and just looked at SO and said "see why i want to get engaged?" It still bugs me though.
And heres the second time it happened. A good friend of SO that he hasnt seen for about 3 years (and i havent seen for longer than that) shows up and greets us and then says "so you two are engaged, when''s the wedding?" AHHH!!! Of course we were like, "huh? who said that?" and he just assumed i guess because we have been together for so long. so then 10 seconds after we clarified to him that we were BF/GF he gets his gf and introduces her to SO and then says this is Brian''s ...........ah Fiance. (we thought he forgot my name) and then SO is like "Ah,girlfriend... again, thanks" And then his friend asks, "well when are yah gonna ask man?!?" And i am now at peace because I think that SO finally realized that its time to ask and i got to see his face and the look of realizing..lol. He looked at his friend and said, "I''m going to ask soon here" Such a simple answer but the way it was said was him realizing that its time. YAY!
So I guess you could say its way closer. He is saving the last of the money to get a ring. We had a talk over the weekend and he says he just wants the ring to be perfect for me. Which is understandable. he thinks though that if the ring isnt perfect and is mediocre that when i show people, they will think that are relationship isnt perfect and just mediocre. which is NOT at all true! I told him that the most perfect thing about the ring will be that it is from him.
He then said, "You are just the most important thing to me and I want to give you something that can live up to how perfect you are." Awww.
So i hope you ladies can welcome me back into the LIWs! I know its been a while!
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