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Rough_Rock
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- Oct 9, 2011
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Hi all. I'm very happy to be joining the LIW forum and getting to talk with others who feel the way I do. I've been with my boyfriend for coming up on 5 years in a month. We moved in together though after 3 1/2 months and he had me start looking at rings after 6 months. I had NOOO idea what I wanted. I mean, I'd thought about it before, but kind of not really. I started thinking I knew what I wanted until looking into stuff and examining shapes, setting styles, and metals and that's when things first started going downhill. I would change my mind every week! My boyfriend is not opinionated but at the same time is not scared to add his two cents. I have embraced his opinion though, so it's not like I completely am like I'm choosing this all myself. Eventually I went back to school, which hurt our disposable income, then he got a new boss and quit his job. This is when us getting engaged really got put on the back burner since we'd need to purchase the ring and we'll more than likely have to pay for our wedding ourselves. I kept investigating what I want though. I stayed pretty well set for a couple years until the last few days poking around PS. I learned some stuff that I hadn't realized and had misunderstood causing me to change some aspects of my ring. Although I have actually been able to reduce the price, we still don't have a large disposable income right now. Our credit cards are also filled up, so not much room there. We'd like to not have to take out a store charge account due to the higher interest. I'm who is in charge of our money, so essentially I can tell him when I think we're financially able to go buy my ring. The funny thing is, that as of now, I am literally right back where I started with the first rings that appealed to me being what I want! So, I have to add a story below pertaining to ring info. My boyfriend's step-mom is...interesting. She doesn't think exactly the same way my boyfriend, myself, and additionally my mother, and well, additionally the rest of my boyfriend's family, think. Whenever we see any female from his family it's, "When are you getting married?" And we see at least someone a month. Christmas 2009, it was my boyfriend, his father, step-mom, my mom, and myself. I need to also add this his father is his step-mom's 3rd husband (nothing against multiple marriages, just you need to know for the story.) His step-mom was asking as usual when we're going to get engaged and I went on the computer and showed her the ring I want. She went in the other room where I wasn't but everyone else was and announced that she was going to give my boyfriend one of her old engagement rings from one of her ex-husbands so he could propose to me with it. I understand using a family heirloom but to me, this is not a family heirloom. Life went on without anyone telling me about this. On my boyfriend's birthday in 2010 he "proposed" with the ring. I was completely surprised (obviously!) and even immediately asked where he got the ring. This is when he divulged the story.
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