lost gift...

[Prana]

I''m so ashamed of myself. I''ve somehow managed to misplace a card that was sent in the mail to my parent''s house with a check inside. It was from my husbands ex-coworker. I don''t know what to do...I remember opening it, reading it, but I cannot for the life of me find it. I''ve looked everywhere, and now I''m starting to lose sleep over it. I got all my thank you cards out weeks ago, and I haven''t sent one to this couple yet because I thought for sure I would find the card and the check. This is so unlike me and I''m just sick to my stomach.

My husband just talked to the person who sent it last weekend, and he asked if we received his card...my husband told him we did, which was the truth, but he''s going to know we lost it when his check doesn''t get cashed. I feel so ungrateful, and I don''t think I could tell him that we misplaced it, even though that is probably the right thing to do.

Has this happened to anyone else?

 

[choro72]

Me me me!! FIL''s friend gave us the biggest wedding check, and I lost it. I know exactly how you feel.

I sent an email saying thank you for coming, thank you for the generous gift, but we lost the check, sorry, thank you for the gesture, very sorry for my carelessness, we want to let you know in case you are keeping track of your bank records.
They responded that it''s okay, it was a cashier''s check so they don''t need to reconcile anything, loved the wedding, nice to have finally met, good luck.

I also sent them the thank you card saying thank you again for the gesture, sorry again, we''re glad to have met such a special friend of the family.

I hope you come up with the right words for yourselves, and I hope that you find the check.

 

[ilovesparkles]

I am in the middle of this right now! I haven''t lost all hope, but am a bit worried at this point. They are good friends of mine. We haven''t fully unpacked from the honeymoon, but this scenario has been going over and over in my head. My heart goes out to you! Did you double check your bank records? Is it at all possible you deposited it with several other checks all at once?

 

[bee*]

The same thing happened us as well. I took care of all of our cards and pressies apart from one, and it was that one that DH lost! Luckily it was our best friends that had sent us that cheque and they asked us why we didn''t cash it so DH told them why and they cancelled that one and gave us a new one!

 

[Prana]

Thanks ladies! I''m glad I''m not the only one that this happened to. Bottom line is, I''ve searched everywhere, twice. I never deposited it. It was mailed to my parent''s house (they''ve checked too), and it got lost somewhere in transport from there house to my house.

I''m going to call the people to let them know what happened. I know it will turn up eventually, just don''t know where!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 6/28/2010 8:48:54 AM
Author: girlface
Thanks ladies! I''m glad I''m not the only one that this happened to. Bottom line is, I''ve searched everywhere, twice. I never deposited it. It was mailed to my parent''s house (they''ve checked too), and it got lost somewhere in transport from there house to my house.

I''m going to call the people to let them know what happened. I know it will turn up eventually, just don''t know where!

Instead of searching everywhere for it, I''d just apologize profusely, and ask them to resend the check. They''ll want to know it was lost so they can cancel it, and they want you to have the gift or they wouldn''t have sent it in the first place, right?

 

[turboflgrl]

Date: 6/28/2010 1:24:20 PM
Author: sunnyd

Instead of searching everywhere for it, I''d just apologize profusely, and ask them to resend the check. They''ll want to know it was lost so they can cancel it, and they want you to have the gift or they wouldn''t have sent it in the first place, right?

I agree to an extent. I think that the OP should apologize to them for losing it but definitely not under any circumstance ask them to resend the check. Let the gift givers decide if they will resend it. Maybe it''s just me, but I think outright asking for new one would be rude I guess.

 

[slg47]

Date: 6/28/2010 8:47:12 PM
Author: turboflgrl

Date: 6/28/2010 1:24:20 PM

Author: sunnyd


Instead of searching everywhere for it, I''d just apologize profusely, and ask them to resend the check. They''ll want to know it was lost so they can cancel it, and they want you to have the gift or they wouldn''t have sent it in the first place, right?

I agree to an extent. I think that the OP should apologize to them for losing it but definitely not under any circumstance ask them to resend the check. Let the gift givers decide if they will resend it. Maybe it''s just me, but I think outright asking for new one would be rude I guess.

I agree with you turbo, call and apologize for losing it, and thank them for their generosity, but don''t ASK them to send a new one...

 

[Prana]

No, I would never ask for a check to be resent. My husband is going out with this friend this weekend, and we are going to tell him that we''ve misplaced the card and check. And apologize profusely, of course.

My next question is...should I send a thank you card now, or after my husband talks to him?

Thanks for everyone''s responses!

 

[ilovesparkles]

I would send the thank you card now. Did you look in your car? Only asking since you think you lost it in transit somehow. I would apologize profusely, but not give up hope of finding it. Our actually turned up yesterday. Good luck!

 

[Prana]

Yes, we looked in both cars, old gift bags, behind furniture, my parents house, photo albums, books, shelves, EVERYWHERE!!! I really don''t think it''s going to turn up.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 6/28/2010 9:03:14 PM
Author: slg47

Date: 6/28/2010 8:47:12 PM
Author: turboflgrl

Date: 6/28/2010 1:24:20 PM

Author: sunnyd


Instead of searching everywhere for it, I''d just apologize profusely, and ask them to resend the check. They''ll want to know it was lost so they can cancel it, and they want you to have the gift or they wouldn''t have sent it in the first place, right?

I agree to an extent. I think that the OP should apologize to them for losing it but definitely not under any circumstance ask them to resend the check. Let the gift givers decide if they will resend it. Maybe it''s just me, but I think outright asking for new one would be rude I guess.

I agree with you turbo, call and apologize for losing it, and thank them for their generosity, but don''t ASK them to send a new one...

I guess that came out wrong. I wouldn''t ask either, but if I was the giver, I''d offer to resend. Whoops!

 

[lilyfoot]

I would definitely send the thank you card now - and another if they do decide to re-give you a check

Man, I can''t believe so many of you ladies lost checks! I''d love to find them all and put them in my account, haha!