Lurking around the Knot...

[Mandarine]

wow some poeple there are rude!!!!!!!!!....also pretty funny....funny not ina good way, but in a twisted kind of way which I can appreciate here and there..hehe.

I initially joined just to ask the girls in the local board in my area a question about budgets (since BF and I have been trying to decide what location -country- to get married at). Anyway, I was lurking and found they have a "not engaged yet" board...which I thought would be similar to this one...

NOT at all!!....it''s kind of like all these girls just sitting there waiting for a newbie to join so they can flame her!. Most of the girls are already married, or pregnant...and some are just, plain trashy...

I do have to admit some of the things they say are pretty funny, but they go overboard!

Has anyone seen that?

 

[diamondfan]

Since I am married already, it never occured to me to go over there, I figured it was a site for people planning their weddings. I have not heard very good things about the people there. What a bunch of miserable people they must be. They all deserve eachother!

 

[Mandarine]

I''m so thankful I stumbled across PS with all you my classy and supportive gals!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Mannequin]

I use the local Knot resources to help me look up vendor information, and I agree. Some of those people are vicious and nasty. I don''t spend my time on there talking to them at all!

 

[RoseAngel04]

Yes, I have noticed this too! I don't go on theRE often, but did a few months back and it was horrible!! And yes, the engaged/married women do tend to "flame" the not engaged yet crowd. It can get pretty harsh! Glad we all have PS!

 

[sumbride]

Oh, the NEY board is AWFUL!!! I think the site is good in that there''s a lot of information in one place... it''s helping with my location search... and I think my local board is ok... but I wouldn''t touch the NEY board or most of the others... some people SERIOUSLY need to get a life!!!

 

[aussiegirl23]

Okay, I''d never been on the knot site at all, but after numerous threads on here, I was curious!

I checked out maybe 2 threads on the "Not Engaged Yet" part... and I was pretty shocked. I''ve never seen so many 4-letter words in my life. And girls being down right cruel, rude, degrading and disgusting to one another.

SO glad I found PriceScope instead of TheKnot. I might have just killed myself over there... instead of being a hopeful, and slightly impatient LIW... THANK GOD!

So HUGS to all you fabulous PriceScope ladies -- you are AMAZING

Aussiegirl : p

 

[TravelingGal]

Hmm...I never have been there. So I looked. I didn''t understand the posts...methinks they don''t speak English?

 

[RoseAngel04]

Date: 8/10/2006 11:58:13 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Hmm...I never have been there. So I looked. I didn''t understand the posts...methinks they don''t speak English?

TG your comment is priceless!!

 

[aussiegirl23]

Nah, they just ran out of swear words in English, so they''re resorting to other languages for more options

Aussiegirl : p

 

[Larissa]

Ah, it''s okay to hate on theknot, they aren''t too fond of these forums just as you aren''t too fond of them.

Seriously, both forums serve totally different purposes. This one is all about the ring and that one is all about planning about a wedding. If you need to know about stones and where to get the best deal, come here. If you need to know about wedding dresses and where to get the best deal, go there.

 

[Mandarine]

The girls on my local board and the Destination Wedddings board are actually very very nice!.....

I was referring more to the Not Engaged Yet board....because I assumed it would be something like this...but was I wrong!. I just hope all the newbies that go there find themselves here somehow...hehe.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Wow, I''ve not been there other than to look at ways to way your hair for your wedding, but how sad they can be mean and rude to the "in waiting" group. I love my group here, and am already getting sad about leaving it some day.

Maybe they will find their way here. I can''t imagine someone being mean to a woman eagerly awaiting what she knows is coming. How fliipping rude!!

 

[staceybelle]

I read a post in the hangout group the other day about how snarky the knot boards can get, and I have also been reading my local knot board, where several women mentioned that they don''t venture outside that board to avoid being flamed. I checked out the boards for myself, and they lived up to their infamous reputation. One woman was having some pretty serious trouble with her marriage, and another one re-posted everything the woman having trouble said so other members could make fun of her, her marriage, and her denial about her problems. How mean and unnecessary is that? It''s amazing how horrible people can be when they''re in a relatively anonymous setting. The rule I have for myself is if I wouldn''t say it to someone''s face, I don''t say it online. It''s just as hurtful.

On the other hand, we have our lovely board, which I don''t post to all that much, but I always receive such politeness and friendliness when I do. And I''m thankful that the girls on my local knot board are sweet and helpful -- they''ll be a great resource when I actually start planning my wedding.

 

[prettyinlove]

i''ve been to the knot a hundred times without ever noticing there was even a message board there. so after reading this post i went on to find it and whoa! what is that all about? i wonder if this is a group of girls that actually know eachother and hate eachother or if they are complete strangers that got in a fight on a internet message board. either option is pretty sad. they all just seem so unhappy.

i''m a newbie that mostly just lurks. i''m a LIW. we actually got to go look at my ring last night but only to make sure that i liked it (shape of center stone) before they finished setting it. does anyone know how long that process takes? i didn''t want to seem to anxious or ruin my FF surprise by asking the jeweler but i am curious. the prongs and the diamond were on the setting but the jeweler said there were a "few things that needed to be done" before it was ready.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Um, I don''t know how to even find the "not engaged yet" area. Now I''m curious. Where do I look?

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Oh, nevermind. I just found it. Heehee. "Talk." Missed that word.

 

[ladykemma]

Date: 8/11/2006 1:09:31 PM
Author: staceybelle

. One woman was having some pretty serious trouble with her marriage, and another one re-posted everything the woman having trouble said so other members could make fun of her, her marriage, and her denial about her problems. How mean and unnecessary is that? It's amazing how horrible people can be when they're in a relatively anonymous setting. The rule I have for myself is if I wouldn't say it to someone's face, I don't say it online. It's just as hurtful.

well, we did this a few weeks back to confront a lady here who had money issues, was crying that she couldn't pay her bills, was going to declare bankruptcy and yet was buying more upgrades. one person re-posted her huge bling, and at the same time re-posted a post about her crying that she couldn't make ends meet.

it was to break through denial and was meant in the most sincere way. I guess tone and intention are very important.

 

[flopkins]

Like others have mentioned, pick your battles on the knot.

My local board was invaluable for my wedding planning, and the girls there are awesome.

Certain boards are just full of trolls and snarks... I stay far away.


But don''t totally dicount the boards, it just depends where you go.