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[Laurenj915]

My car window got smashed and my tote bag with lesson plans, makeup, classroom keys (work stuff) was taken at the gym tonight. I called my bf crying and he said "where was the tote? on the front seat?" I said "yes" and he said "well there you go." I told him that I could not talk to him anymore and called my mom who was wonderful but of course my dad could be heard in the background saying that of course someone broke into my car if I was just going to leave a bag on the seat. Even my best friends husband said that it was my fault.

OK so I agree that I am a bonehead and it is my fault for leaving my tote bag on the front seat while I was in the gym. I had to spend my entire evening dealing with the gym reporting, the police, cleaning out the glass in my car, finding a place to park it tonight, calling repair places for tomorrow, and will be paying hundreds of dollars to get it fixed (not to mention rewriting 3 months worth of lesson plans). I''m taking care of all of it myself! So why do all the men in my life have to make sure I know that it''s my fault while I am still upset? I would never do that to one of my friends or by bf. I would be freakin supportive and sympathetic. If I just HAD to say something about it being there fault (which is pointless since I know they already know that) then I would wait a few days! UHHHHHHH!!!

Just venting!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 11/14/2007 9:05:44 PM
Author:Lauren1116
My car window got smashed and my tote bag with lesson plans, makeup, classroom keys (work stuff) was taken at the gym tonight. I called my bf crying and he said ''where was the tote? on the front seat?'' I said ''yes'' and he said ''well there you go.'' I told him that I could not talk to him anymore and called my mom who was wonderful but of course my dad could be heard in the background saying that of course someone broke into my car if I was just going to leave a bag on the seat. Even my best friends husband said that it was my fault.

OK so I agree that I am a bonehead and it is my fault for leaving my tote bag on the front seat while I was in the gym. I had to spend my entire evening dealing with the gym reporting, the police, cleaning out the glass in my car, finding a place to park it tonight, calling repair places for tomorrow, and will be paying hundreds of dollars to get it fixed (not to mention rewriting 3 months worth of lesson plans). I''m taking care of all of it myself! So why do all the men in my life have to make sure I know that it''s my fault while I am still upset? I would never do that to one of my friends or by bf. I would be freakin supportive and sympathetic. If I just HAD to say something about it being there fault (which is pointless since I know they already know that) then I would wait a few days! UHHHHHHH!!!

Just venting!

Sorry to hear that, what a bummer!

I''m the same way as you. I would be totally supportive and upset for my husband. My hubby on the other hand is like your man. They just analyze things...they want to know why things happened, and then have to exclaim to you the logic behind their findings. Like we don''t already know.

I try not to take it personally when TGuy says stuff like that to me. I just chalk it up to the fact that it''s how his mind works. And sometimes, he comes through. Like the time I put my Maui Jim presciption sunglasses on the top of my head and they slipped off...shattering the glass lens when it hit the concrete. The damn things cost me $400 to buy in the first place, and $250 to replace the lenses. I KNEW I wasn''t supposed to put them on top of my head, but I did it anyway. I was so bummed about it (I had only had them for a month!) and I didn''t expect any sympathy from TGuy. I was sitting on the couch looking glum and he stopped what he was doing to come over to me to just put his arm around me for awhile. Sometimes, they just come through...but it''s usually when you least expect it!

We women are just more OUTWARDLY supportive and affectionate. If being a lesbian was an option for me, I may have taken it!

 

[KimberlyH]

I''m female, and I would have responded, initially, exactly as your boyfriend and dad did; my wires are crossed.

I am really sorry about your car being broken into, what a terrible feeling (I''ve had my purse stolen, it''s quite unsettling).

I hope your mom comforted you and that you are feeling better now.

 

[sunnyd]

that sucks. my window got smashed last week, and they stole my bf''s ipod and the radio adaptor.

...but they left mine...go figure.

i would tell your bf not to make you feel worse!! you know what you did, so make him just go over and give you a damn hug already!! boys are mean sometimes. i''m sorry that happened to you though!

 

[misysu2]

That stinks! I''m so sorry that happened to you! My FI''s car recently got broken into, and I took care of the police report. They told me a few things that may help everyone. Always remove the faceplate of your stereo. Know that OLDER cars are actually targeted more because they''re easier to get into! Also, criminals WATCH women. Police told me they camp out at grocery stores and gyms (especially Bally''s) and if they see you walk into the building without a purse, they''ll go check your car out. Be careful out there, ladies!