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Mixed Feelings (Gynae/Female Health Related)

dk168

dk168

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*** Please take this as a light-hearted post, thanks! ***

As of last Wednesday, I am post-menopausal and have no (natural) chance of getting pregnant, as the nurse who performed the routine smear test and agreed to whip out the last Mirena coil that I had at the same time.

She looked at my health record and confirmed that at my age the chances of getting pregnant is zilch being in my late 50s.

I jovially responded that the chances of having sex is zilch let alone getting pregnant nowadays! :lol-2:

On one hand, I am pleased to be finally freed of having a coil (I have had coils since my early 20s as hormonal contraception did not agree with me), yet I walked out feeling kind of sad, like having said goodbye to a dear friend.

On the other end, I am now truly a gynae fossil with non-functioning ovaries (I had been saying I was a gynae fossil for the past 10 years or so), and feel kind of liberated by this thought.

I am going out this evening for a nice meal and some drinks to quietly celebrate reaching this milestone in my life!


DK :))
 
Dear @dk168 I get it. I was more than happy when I realized I was done with my monthly periods. Fast forward 7 years and I realized uh oh I needed those hormones my body decided to stop making. I thought I was free and so happy yet here I am back to having monthly sheds due to medical issues while on hormones. But all I can say is yes celebrate and enjoy because it is a new and freer stage of life. One with its own rewards. But please also make sure you are replacing hormones you need (if you can safely do so that is) for bone, brain, bladder, urogenitary, etc health.

Enjoy your new found freedom!

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Statistics show that post menopausal women are the most content of all age groups. :)
 
Thanks @missy for the timely reminder!

Being a Type 2 Diabetic, I have regular 6-monthly medical check-ups, including a comprehensive blood test. Hopefully, this will keep my health in check.

DK :))
 
I had to have a partial hysterectomy in 2014. While I already had my tubes tied (2002), I cried knowing I was definitely done with any chance of having another baby. So I get that feeling. But I will say, I don’t miss the monthly pains of cramps and having a period! The freedom of not having to prepare for or buy sanitary products has been amazing.

Enjoy the new chapter!
 
I will admit to a certain amount of envy, honestly. In our current political environment, menopause seems far safer than a state of fertility. Sigh.

Hope you had a wonderful evening out.
 
Congratulations on this new stage of life!
 
Bonfire said:
And also, keep checking your boobies and getting mammograms! ;)2
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Yup, that's annually since 2020 due to Calcium crystals being detected, biopsy and surgery swiftly followed, results were fine as in no sign of malignancy.

DK :))
 
That’s great to hear DK. Keep up the diligent surveillance.
 
I believe you can be beautiful and fulfilled at any age.
Japanese women age well and live long. Maybe it is time to relish your prep for that trip to Japan!
 
When I was finally done with all the pain and worry, I was so relieved. By the time I hit full blown menopause, I already had an adult child, so there was no way I wanted to start over.

I found it really liberating not to have to organise my life around periods, because they literally dictated what I could and couldn’t do.

Enjoy your night out, and welcome to the club!
 
@dk168 We in our mid-thirties who are currently bleeding to death salute you!

I'm not looking forward to menopause, though. My mom, who was usually tough as nails, turned into a weepy, sweaty, horrendously cranky mess when she went through it. I'm also not looking forward to getting mammograms (or "boob smashes" as my mom calls them). Sometimes I think it would've been much easier to be born a man!
 
dk168 said:
*** Please take this as a light-hearted post, thanks! ***

As of last Wednesday, I am post-menopausal and have no (natural) chance of getting pregnant, as the nurse who performed the routine smear test and agreed to whip out the last Mirena coil that I had at the same time.

She looked at my health record and confirmed that at my age the chances of getting pregnant is zilch being in my late 50s.

I jovially responded that the chances of having sex is zilch let alone getting pregnant nowadays! :lol-2:

On one hand, I am pleased to be finally freed of having a coil (I have had coils since my early 20s as hormonal contraception did not agree with me), yet I walked out feeling kind of sad, like having said goodbye to a dear friend.

On the other end, I am now truly a gynae fossil with non-functioning ovaries (I had been saying I was a gynae fossil for the past 10 years or so), and feel kind of liberated by this thought.

I am going out this evening for a nice meal and some drinks to quietly celebrate reaching this milestone in my life!


DK :))
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I had a benign ovarian tumor and since I was past menopause anyway, we just went ahead with a complete hysterectomy. I have missed none of my organs (although I do wonder what's taken up the space they were in), and look at it as four less places that cancer has a place to be. And no more pap smears. I don't know what kind of fossil I am.
 
Kalynna said:
@dk168 We in our mid-thirties who are currently bleeding to death salute you!

I'm not looking forward to menopause, though. My mom, who was usually tough as nails, turned into a weepy, sweaty, horrendously cranky mess when she went through it. I'm also not looking forward to getting mammograms (or "boob smashes" as my mom calls them). Sometimes I think it would've been much easier to be born a man!
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Menopause isn't always awful. I had maybe 10 hot flashes, total, and they were mild. I had no mood swings, and loved menopause for that reason alone. My PMS used to be horrible.
 
I had a partial hysterectomy at the ripe age of 39.....loved it....didnt love menopause, I think the hot flashes lasted I swear 20 years lol....my monthlies were horrible so bad in fact that I became anemic which is why I had the hysterectomy to begin with..enjoy this phase of your life!
 
I had a pretty strange introduction to menopause. I was 41 and periods just stopped. No signs that I noticed. No hot flashes, no mood swings, no irregular periods, no warnings at all. My doctor said that while I was on the very young side of normal, there was nothing wrong. Looking back, I was certainly glad I was able to conceive my youngest child at 38 as I was probably perimenopausal without even realizing it. Oh well - done with that! I don't miss it for sure and I am pretty grateful there hasn't been any complaints symptom-wise.
 
I had an oophorectomy at 48 because of abnormal ovarian cysts and family history of ovarian cancer. I went into immediate surgical menopause. It was life altering to be honest. It’s 8 years later and I’m still taking very low dosage HRT as my quality of life/ability to do my job is important to my Dr and me. Funny, I am always cold and looked forward to hot flashes, oh how wrong I was! :oops2:
It’s an interesting time, for sure, when you no longer recognize your body and what it’s doing. Wishing you luck that the transition is easy and kind to you. If you find the symptoms are affecting your quality of life, there are solutions that do work. Be well!
 
I had a hysterectomy back in 2017 aged 46 and loved walking through the supermarket aisle selling period products saying thank goodness I don’t need anything here! sadly it didn’t last too long as we then had our daughter get her periods so it was back to buying things for her. But I love the freedom of not worrying about Pap smears / periods / falling pregnant.
 
@dk168 I can relate to your post. In a purely practical sense, it must be wonderful to be free of it all, but on the other, reaching official menopause is a sign of the passage of time that no one can ignore.

I think the male equivalent must be when men find it progressively harder to get and maintain erections as they get older.

I wonder if perhaps it's a choice: we can choose to focus on the positives of menopause - and I think we can all agree that there are some inarguable positives!

For me, I am looking forward to feeling the same all the time. I say to my male friends, I can't believe you feel the same all the time. That must be wonderful!

I know there are some lingering effects after you reach official menopause, at least for some, but surely it cannot be like having periods when you would have all the PMT, and it must be less of a rollercoaster than perimenopause.

I'm looking forward too much to my hormonal life being calmer to be too bothered about any other aspect, I think.

I think marking the occasion somehow is a great idea. Hope you enjoyed your quiet meal out. xxx
 
I have been enjoying menopause for 10 years! No need to worry about surprise periods, heavy bleeding, planning trips around it. FYI if there is any reason you need anti depressants Effexor takes away all hot flashes! Welcome to the club!
 
I often woke up in the middle of the night as I was feeling hot, to find I was sandwiched between the cat and the dog! :lol-2:

Why can't they share the same side of the double bed I do not know.

Instead I have to sleep diagonally across the bed, as the dog likes to be at the pillow end on the spare side, and the cat prefers the feet end on my side! :roll2::lol-2:

DK =)2
 
dk168 said:
I often woke up in the middle of the night as I was feeling hot, to find I was sandwiched between the cat and the dog! :lol-2:

Why can't they share the same side of the double bed I do not know.

Instead I have to sleep diagonally across the bed, as the dog likes to be at the pillow end on the spare side, and the cat prefers the feet end on my side! :roll2::lol-2:

DK =)2
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i hope that makes you feel so loved DK

Gary and i have a bedroom each because i toss and turn - have done so since i was a baby
he is a very light sleeper
the cats take turns who to sleep with but the little one adores Gary, he gets lots of cat kisses and im not sure he knows how special and rear those things are
he complains about the purring noise keeping him awake - i say but that's love
 
I think I understand, though I'm not yet in menopause (I think). I had an endometrial ablation at 37 so ceased having bleeding but not monthly cycles of hormones. It was wonderful getting that done, as I found myself bleeding 23 days a month prior to the procedure. However, since marrying the love of my life I definitely mourn not having a biological child with him. I often have daydreams of a dark haired little girl with his aqua colored eyes. But then I wake up and slap myself, as we have 5 children between us and that is enough! (4 boys and 1 girl) Not to mention I don't want to be in my 60s and still have kids at home.

So I understand the relief and the slight sense of loss. Honestly, congrats on your milestone and celebrate away.
 
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