Mixed feelings

[Jewels305]

I found out that I am going to be asked to be a bridesmaid in my friends'' wedding. I am very excited that they would like me to be part of their special day, but I am sort of having mixed feelings I guess. The reason that I am not sure is that everyone else in the bridal party was asked about 6+ months ago. Even though they have all been friends for a very long time, I sort of feel like an after thought. In the past 6 months or so we have gotten closer, so that could be the reason that she wants to ask now versus back then. I don''t think that anyone backed out and I am a possible replacement, I really think that she''s just decided that she wants me to be a part of it.

I am honored that she wants me to be part of their special day. I think that she probably feels some guilt that she is asking me so long after everyone else, and I respect that asking me now might be an awkward and uncomfortable thing for her to do. I also know that she has stalled asking me somewhat because she doesn''t want me to feel pressured (because I am a full time student and money is sort of tight for a couple years).
I just want to be able to stop thinking about being an after thought, and I don''t want to feel hurt and like a lesser bridesmaid both now and during the wedding. I know she has a great heart and wouldn''t want me to feel that way.

 

[MoonWater]

I don''t think you should fret too much. The fact that she asked you, no matter when, is very significant. She obviously thinks highly of you. Have fun!

 

[Haven]

My only advice is to be sure that you honestly want to be a part of the bridal party because you care about your friend and you want to be a part of her wedding. If so, then accept the invitation. If not, run! Being a bridesmaid can put a strain on a friendship if you aren''t truly close in the first place.

 

[bee*]

If you are a lot closer now than you were 6 months ago then it sounds like she really wants you to be there for her at her wedding. I wouldn''t worry about it