Most stressful part of planning?

[XChick03]

What is/was the most stressful part of planning your wedding?

 

[XChick03]

So far, mine has been the guest list and deciding where we want the ceremony. I know the seating arrangements will be a pain, too.

 

[Caribou]

I haven''t gotten very far yet, I have over a year, so far the most stressful thing has been my FI and his ''help suggestions''.

I love when he sounds really positive about one reception place and then a few days later he says ''are you really sure about this''.

But aside from him, the ceremony/reception site. I will have something booked by the middle of March!!!!

 

[XChick03]

Yeah, I still have over a year to go, too. At least your FI is involved, mine is just like "Yeah, that''s great, honey."

 

[Caribou]

Date: 2/20/2006 2:53:11 PM
Author: XChick03
Yeah, I still have over a year to go, too. At least your FI is involved, mine is just like ''Yeah, that''s great, honey.''

Oh no..don''t be fooled by it. When I''m talking to him about flower or color choices his eyes glaze over. But when I''m talking about something that cost mucho deniro then he''s all about it.

I''d rather him not be involved. However, if you ask him all he''s concerned about is the budget.....rrrrrrright!

Oh and I was forbidden to have a ''pink'' wedding.

 

[XChick03]

LOL! I was actually forbidden to have pink too! I was originally planning pink bridesmaid dresses and pink vests/ties for the groomsmen, which I thought looked really nice. He said "You're kidding, right? I am not asking my friends to wear pink. Find something else."

Though, I decided on silver and am happy with it. And my FI is so weird, he's the opposite of most men when it comes to the money issue. I want a smaller, less expensive wedding and he wants to invite anyone he's ever met. I told him we should just start handing out invitations on the street.

ETA maybe I should've made "Fiance" an option on the poll.

 

[Caribou]

Date: 2/20/2006 3:24:06 PM
Author: XChick03
LOL! I was actually forbidden to have pink too! I was originally planning pink bridesmaid dresses and pink vests/ties for the groomsmen, which I thought looked really nice. He said 'You're kidding, right? I am not asking my friends to wear pink. Find something else.'

OMG! I think we are dating the same guy. I had this exact conversation with my FI. Except I sent him pictures of flowers; bright pink, light pink, ever shade of pink. He responded 'Are you kidding me????' So I went home and said 'look you can't pick and choose what you want to be involved with, either you are 100% involved or not at all...your choice. If you are just concerned about the budget, them just be concerned about the budget!' So then about a week later, I decided on the colors I want (periwinkle) and the flower choices (lavender & white tulips and blue Hyanthius (sp). I asked him if purple was okay..he said 'yes, purple is fine'. A couple days later, I went to his house and showed him the bouquet that I was thinking.. his response was 'Purple flowers?!?!?!?!?'

I said very casually 'dude, you already okay'd purple, so deal!'

And your right, pink with black tuxes look very nice!!!

You should add 'Fiance' LOL!

 

[jcrow]

other than my current dilema of deciding on a dress, the most stressful part of planning so far has been on coordinating the date with vendors. i was set on several vendors- church, photographer, & cake lady. not far behind was reception site. finding a saturday that all could make was tough!

we had originally planned to get married at the place we met on the day we met, but the photographer booked someone on that date. there was a mix-up

, but i didn't want to bend. we changed the date and kept the photographer.

we pushed the wedding from october to nov. just to coordinate will all...

 

[MelissaSue]

From those choices, I said the guest list... because it is always a point of contention. It took me almost a YEAR from when we picked the location to get the invite list from FI''s family.. and I still don''t have HIS people finalizes. (He doesn''t even have his side of the wedding party finalized.. and yes.. if you''re counting our wedding is in 3 months..but I''ve stopped caring.. i figure.. whoever ends up being there in a tux on the day of the wedding.. is there.. we''re not getting them bouteniers or anything.. and we''re not having a head table...so.. who cares?).. and then there are always people that I''d like to invite but can''t so I feel guilty about that.. etc.. etc..

BUT what is totally stressing me out right now.. is all the little "last minute" things.. getting my bridal portraits done, fittings, hair trial.. all the things that I was supposed to wait on.. and now I have no time to do them! I have to meet with the florist again, because I''ve changed a lot of flower stuff since I met with her last summer.. Just odds and ends.. Everything is "done" but its not really "done.." you know

And in the end.. the most stress is in the money.. Weddings cost a lot.. and there is never enough money for everything!

 

[aphisiglovessae]

I said choosing locations because we live in Pensacola and a lot of places were/are still damaged from the hurricanes (Ivan mostly). We called every place we could think of and went through every place in the phone book. The ones that were open and not damaged were too small and the ones that were large enough were charging outrageous prices. I almost gave up completely. Eventually I found the place and even though I still think it''s too expensive, it was the least expensive of all our choices.

 

[LizzieC]

My biggest source of stress has been not having much help. I''d especially like my FI to have any opinion on ANYTHING! When I ask him to do something, or ask his opinion he''s just like... "But you''re SO good at this stuff!"

 

[aphisiglovessae]

Ha ha, that''s the same response I get! He says "but honey, you''re doing such a good job. You know exactly what you want and it doesn''t really matter what I think." What a crock of BS!

 

[saturn]

For me the most stressful part so far has been my mother!

I generally have a really good relationship with her, but she just can''t seem to let go and allow me to plan my own wedding. Add to that her tendency to get stressed out really easily, and we''ve got the makings of a potential disaster.

For instance, right after we got engaged, she asked me if I had any ideas about what kind of wedding we wanted. I told her that the only thing I was sure about was that we definitely wanted cotton candy at the wedding. So what does she do? Proceed to tell me why we *couldn''t* have cotton candy at our reception (even though we didn''t have a reception location, date, caterer, or anything else planned). I refused to let go of it, and it''s been a point of tension ever since. She even went so far as to have an entire CASE of cotton candy shipped to my apartment in an attempt to get me to give up the idea.
Fortunately, it looks like I found a way to make it happen so that she won''t freak out about it.

Everything else has been pretty easy, since I get along well with FI''s family, and I have several friends who got married in the same town and were able to recommend some good vendors.

 

[LizzieC]

Saturn- I feel ya! After we decided to have a small destination wedding, the only thing I knew for sure was that I wanted to wear a fun, cute, SHORT wedding dress. And all my Mom did for the next month was tell me why I couldn''t wear a short dress to my wedding! So I''m wearing a long dress... it''s a lovely dress for sure, but I wish my mom could have been a little more supportive! Props to you for sticking to your guns!

 

[monarch64]

I voted for the guest list. I had the hardest time figuring out who to invite, mainly because we were on a pretty strict budget. I hated to have to exclude some people, it''s just not in my nature, but we absolutely HAD to decide not to invite some casual acquaintances based on the moolah factor alone. It was also stressful trying to decide who we could extend an invitation to while being 99% sure they wouldn''t attend...and on top of that we had made some new friends after we started our guest lists and had a terrible time deciding whether we would have room left on the list. We ended up going a little over budget, of course, but the last few weeks of waiting for the straggler RSVP''s to come in were just hell. (My MIL and everyone else in the fam. had their "B" list...I was wondering why the heck they didn''t just kick in some money so that they could invite their chosen few who didn''t make the first cut--and I say this with sarcasm, btw.)

 

[selflove]

Invitations are the most stressful for me. We have two weddings to which we want everyone invited, plus we want them in two languages. My FI is still designing them and we are having them printed at a local printing shop. With 10 1/2 weeks to go, we still don''t have them ready to print. Yeah, I''m stressed about this a little bit.

In fact, planning this whole second wedding in my FI''s home country has been stressful...like relying on him to find the reception venue and lodging, design complex invitations that none of the vendors want to touch, etc etc etc.

Plus, I''ve found that the entire month of April, the month before our wedding, every single weekend is booked with wedding-related activities. If I could go back and do it all again, I''d do it destination like a lot of people have recommended.

 

[njc]

Date: 2/20/2006 4:19:54 PM
Author: Caribou

You should add ''Fiance'' LOL!

You should. I picked ''other'', but my other was my FI. Love him to death, but honestly, he was my biggest pain in the a$$ about the whole thing. When i asked his opinion on something, i might as well have been talking to the kitchen sink. On the few things he did need to do (like pick a tux) we had a HUGE knock down drag out about it (he thought ordering his tux more than 2 weeks in advance was crazy/stupid).

SO glad its all over... i dont miss planning at all!!!

 

[curlygirl]

It was all stressful but I picked seating arrangements. It was a real pain in the butt. We weren't sure if we wanted to mix it up or just have tables of groups that all knew each other. And then there were family issues of who sat where. The best thing we did was the sweetheart table for us. It eliminated all the "head table" drama. In the end, it all worked out. We made sure everyone knew at least one person at their table and put people together based on age groups, jobs and interests that were similar. But it was a hugely stressful situation! So glad I won't have to do that again!!! Guest list ran a close second...

 

[SoonIHope]

My two so far have been telling people they''re NOT bridesmaids (just having a maid of honor) and choosing when to have our wedding and chinese banquet in relation to each other. (Since both are a long distance to travel for most of my friends and family, but my fiance thinks they should be close together timewise, but they are a 6 hour drive apart from each other so we can''t do them the SAME weekend...argh...) Guest list is definitely next. And I''ve baaaaaaaarely started thinking about any of this yet....a year and 4 months to go....

 

[nytemist]

Two words- MY MOTHER