Mothers of Bride & Groom Dresses

[brendaman]

When does one shop for/order them? For the bride it''s 6-9 months, but I don''t recall any real guidelines MOB and MOG. It''s fine if it is somewhat ready-to-wear, purchased from Nordstrom or something like that, but my Mom lives in a small town and the only place to get a black-tie dress is a couple of local bridal shops, which means we would be ordering a gown. I''m OK with this as it will be our little thing as she didn''t get to shop with me for my gown.

 

[cocolaw]

i would go ahead and start looking around. my mom also lives in a small town and so her options were very limited. as soon as we got engaged, fmil wanted to start looking...so my mom had to order something so that fmil could pick her dress. mom''s dress arrived, i didn''t get to see her in it for months (after fmil had already purchased her''s)...mom''s looked terrible! so i had to go shopping with my mom when we both happened to be in a larger city together, but it was hard because we had to pick her dress around what fmil had already selected! so i don''t know the purpose of my story, but don''t give fmil permission to shop until you are positive that you know what your mother is going to wear and make sure you see her in the dress!!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Remember, the groom''s mom is supposed to follow the lead of the MOB (if you''re following tradition anyway), so make sure you leave enough time for both mothers to order dresses if they need to.

 

[ilovesparkles]

Forgive my ignorance, but why should the MOG follow suit with what the MOB is wearing? Why can''t they both pick what ever it is they like and looks good on them?

 

[honey22]

I think that if they don''t wear the same thing and don''t clash with the bridal party, they should wear what they want.

My Mum and FMIL get along really well and they have been in contact several times to chat about what they want to wear, so they will compliment both each other and the bridal party. I have told both of them, white, ivory or champange is out of bounds, but to besides that, knock themselves out.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

It''s up to the bride to make that decision; however, traditionally the MOG waits for the MOB to choose a dress and color and then picks her dress in a color, style, and fabric that compliments the MOB''s dress. Like I said, that depends on if you''re going with tradition. If not, then who cares, let them choose whatever makes them happy. Just make sure your mom knows that this is the case.

I personally didn''t care what they wore as long as they looked nice and were happy. My mother however was really peeved because FI''s mom broke tradition and got a dress before my mom in a color and fabric (peach linen with a black cocktail wedding) that totally clashed with the wedding. So just make sure everyone is on the same page with whatever route you choose to take.

 

[cocolaw]

Date: 6/7/2009 8:45:15 PM
Author: ilovesparkles
Forgive my ignorance, but why should the MOG follow suit with what the MOB is wearing? Why can''t they both pick what ever it is they like and looks good on them?

exactly! thats what i thought. im not even having traditional wedding colors-im having one attendant and she is going to pick out a fall jcrew dress that she can wear again in who knows/cares what color!...i told the mog that i dont care what she wears! but she insisted on waiting on my mom to pick her dress, and was very pushy in us "hurrying up and getting her dress" so that she could pick out hers. some people are more traditional and believe that the mob has to select her dress first.

 

[Izzy03]

My mom and MIL got their dresses from Davids bridal. They wanted something youthful and sexy so they got bridesmaid dresses. I will try to post a pic.

 

[Morgie44]

My experience has been that the lead time is around the same as for bridesmaid dresses. I tried to tell my mom this but she didn''t listen. She ordered her dress 3.5 months out and had to pay for rush delivery. Say 5 to 6 months out would be ideal.

 

[Izzy03]

We didn''t have a "bridal party" so we asked the immediate family to wear any shade of green or pink so they could walk down the isle during the processional.

 

[Kelli]

Date: 6/7/2009 8:45:15 PM
Author: ilovesparkles
Forgive my ignorance, but why should the MOG follow suit with what the MOB is wearing? Why can''t they both pick what ever it is they like and looks good on them?

I kind of agree with this. I don''t think I''ll care much what either mom wants to wear.

 

[Izzy03]

The sexy moms without their wraps.

 

[lucyandroger]

Date: 6/8/2009 11:25:12 AM
Author: Izzy03
We didn''t have a ''bridal party'' so we asked the immediate family to wear any shade of green or pink so they could walk down the isle during the processional.

Izzy, I LOVE this look! Your moms are hot! hehe

I''m having two bridesmaids and was wondering how it would look if they each wore completely different colors but similar (not the same) dresses. Thanks for posting this pic!

BTW - You look gorgeous too!

 

[Izzy03]

They three of us all shopped together. Davids was pretty good about ordering the dress in timely manner. I think 6 weeks is all it took. Alterations are another story with them....

I would start looking now for sure! We tried Department stores with no luck. I think whatever each mom wants to wear is fine within reason.

 

[Izzy03]

Thanks Lucy! Our moms look pretty good so I didn''t want them in anything too conservation or with a jacket and they were thrilled. The whole mix of greens and pinks made for some cool pictures without anyone looking like clones.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

If ordering they take about as long as bridesmaids dresses do. Anywhere from 3-5 months.

 

[anniee19]

My mom ordered a bridesmaid dress from David''s Bridal, and it took almost 3 months for her to get. I think the shipping time runs about the same as bridesmaid dresses. Here is my mom, zipping up my dress. She didn''t want anything "matronly" whatsoever, and the dress she wore was very cute and appropriate for her. She bought a little sweater at Ann Taylor to wear for the ceremony. My husband''s mom wanted to follow suit, and also wore a tea-length dress, although it wouldn''t have bothered me or my mom a bit if she hadn''t!