My Best friends wedding- bachelorette HELP

[JessesGrl]

O.k... to recap, my MOH (my best friend since I was 11) did not do much of a bachelorette party for me...she lived out of state and I had just started a new job which made us both kind of un-flexible. My MOH and only 1(out of 6) other bridesmaid took me out for drinks 2 days before my wedding. (My MOH did not even bother to invite anyone else) I was a little sad that we did not do more but understood the circumstances.

My MOH is now getting married in 2 months. I was going to plan a winery tour and a nice dinner afterward, followed by drinks and dessert and a "lingerie" shower at my apartment afterward.

The issue is that the bride wants to invite a lot of people and they all live out of state- I do not have room in my tiny apartment for them to all spend the night. I am sending out invites this weeked for the party (which is in 2 weeks)...should I mention the sleeping at my house option??? (it''s very unrealistic) but how am I going to expect all these people from out of state to drive to NY for dinner and drinks???

Also- do you think winery, dinner, drinks, lingerie shower is corny??? We are all about 25 and are over the "bar scene", just wanted a relaxing girls night.

any suggestions how to word the invites??

 

[jcrow]

how about gathering at a hotel instead of your apartment?

 

[codex57]

I wouldn''t offer your apartment. If everyone''s flying in, it''s not unreasonable for them to expect to have to pay for a hotel room. It''s like a destination or out of town wedding. All the guests don''t stay over at the parents of the bride/groom houses. My best man had his bachelor party in Vegas. We all flew/drove hours in. We all paid for a hotel room.

If you think your MOH will have fun, then do your thing. It doesn''t have to be traditional. I went paintballing for my bachelor party cuz when I was younger, I had great times with my friends doing that. That''s not traditional, but I had fun and had a great time with my friends and reliving those good old days.

 

[dani13]

Well, if a lot of people from out of state come, then it is THEIR responsibility, not yours, to make accomodations for themselves for the night. That isnt asking too much. What is asking too much is to expect you to house all of these people for the night. Maybe include suggestions for overnite accomodations (hotels in the area) with the invite? I think that is a tasteful idea that will get the point across. I dont even think that people would expect you to let them sleep at your place- the idea just sounds CRAZY!!!!

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 6/28/2006 9:07:28 PM
Author: Dani
Well, if a lot of people from out of state come, then it is THEIR responsibility, not yours, to make accomodations for themselves for the night. That isnt asking too much. What is asking too much is to expect you to house all of these people for the night. Maybe include suggestions for overnite accomodations (hotels in the area) with the invite? I think that is a tasteful idea that will get the point across. I dont even think that people would expect you to let them sleep at your place- the idea just sounds CRAZY!!!!

Ditto.

 

[flopkins]

Just invite them, and they can take care of their own lodging if they come in from OOT. Perhaps they could go in on a room together somewhere, or know ppl in NY they can stay with. I wouldn''t sweat it, it''s not your job as a host to provide a play for them to stay.


It sounds like a great bachelorette though!!!