My dress came in - mixed thoughts + pics

[laughwithme]

My dress came in this week. I have been off-the-walls excited for two days, and now, I''m just bummed. I don''t know any other word for it, just bummed. My BFF/MOH went with me, and she knew from the get-go that I wasn''t thrilled, but I''m sure you''ll all be able to see my less-than-excited face in the pics.

How do I explain it? When I bought the dress, we were holding it up very fitted against my body (sample was an 8, I am a 4.) Of course, when everyone is holding the dress against your body, you overlook the small wrinkles/pulls in the fabric. Its the first dress out of 50+ that made me go WOW. Of course I overlooked the little stuff. I tried it on a second day, loved it, bought it.

A few weeks later, I found out another store had a size 6 (much closer to me) and tried it on, simply b/c I was so infatuated with the dress. I still noticed the little pulls/wrinkles in the fabric.

Note - by "pulls/wrinkles," I am talking mainly from right below the bodice beading, to right around where my hips begin.

I got to the point where I would look at pics of myself in the samples and be so torn - part of my LOVES this dress so much, but a few dang imperfections are ticking me off!

So, my dress is in. Like I said, I was beyond excited. Expecting near-perfection.

I put it on. Kept smiling for the bridal lady and my BFF. But, inside, it just didn''t do much for me. One major thing is that the sides need to be taken in, to accentuate my figure, b/c I have small hips and right now the dress hangs around my hips. Alterations will take care of the hip issue, and make it more mermaid-y. I am content with that.

I have googled other girls in this dress, and the wrinkles around the waist seem to happen to everyone. So, I''m thinking alterations won''t fix it, and I need to live with it.

As soon as I left, I knew I needed to post on PS because you girls make me feel so much better. Can someone please reassure me that this dress will make me go WOW again, as soon as its all ready to go? Did I get my expectations up too much? Did anyone else feel this way when their dress came in?

I go in for alterations in April (wedding is June) so I guess I have to wait in limbo land until then. Please note, I DID step away from the close-up mirror and I love the general shape of the dress, and style, and the way it fits me. When I walked, I felt gorgeous. Its UP CLOSE, that I see the little things that bother me. I know my guests won''t notice that - they will see the dress from several feet away and my huge honkin smile all day.

Bad picture, but imagine these wrinkles in the bright light I saw them in -

 

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Another shot of the icky wrinkles around my waist

 

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I had the back custom-lowered - I adore everything about the back, have zero complaints, and am in love with the train.

 

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Ugh, please ignore my horrible face, I have no idea what I''m doing!

This gives a good perspective on the general shape of the dress, which I love. See the WRINKLES?!

 

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This is my veil. It has a border of sparkly beads which match those on my dress identically - it looks like it was made for the dress.

 

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One more of the veil/back - again, no complaints here

 

[marlie]

First, let me say that I''m sorry you aren''t happy. It''s a tough pill to swallow to feel less than perfect in your dress.

Second, your dress is GORGEOUS. Really, really beautiful! You look great in it too...so perfect on your figure! That said, I do see the wrinkles that form at the waist/hips. I am sure that there is a seamstress out there that could work with it. Take this picture to the best seamstresses in your area and talk to them about it. See what they say. This way you can do something in the meantime and don''t stress out until April.

Hope that helps!

 

[Lilac]

While I do see what you''re saying, I NEVER EVER would have noticed those if you hadn''t pointed them out!

I think the dress looks stunning on you and the shape of it is really beautiful. The train and back of the dress in particular is stunning. Honestly, I do think you''ll feel better about it after alterations and on your wedding day I''m pretty sure not a single person will notice any imperfections in that dress - even now without alterations it''s gorgeous, so imagine how it''ll look after it''s fitted perfectly to your body and you''re wearing the veil, your hair is done, your makeup is done, and you''re getting married! There were so many things I nit-picked about with my own wedding dress (and I hated how it wrinkled up in the front when I turned) so I definitely understand where you''re coming from, but I doubt any of my guests noticed and I know I would have enjoyed everything more if I had just let it go and enjoyed my dress!

Your dress truly is stunning and is perfect for your body. And like I said, I really think you''ll feel differently once the alterations are done and you see the finished product!

 

[4ever]

I can totally relate to this as I''m the kind of person who let''s the really little things get to me and bug the crap out of me and make me depressed even when I know it''s silly....

But I have to say your fliping crazy because it''s a beautiful dress and you look fabulous and stunning in it. You will most likely get over the wrinkles after a little while and you most definatly wont be thinking about dress wrinkles on your wedding day. I''m sure you''d finding somthing that bugged you about almost any dress you got so try and relax and enjoy, you look great!

 

[cindygenit]

Oh hun you look perfect in that dress!!!

I see the wrinkles, but they are minor!! Let''s hope you can get them fixed so the dress is perfect to your standards.

 

[lulu66]

BEAUTIFUL dress! so classic! ummm, as for the wrinkles, i don''t see why they wouldn''t at least lessen once the hip of the dress is taken in. stick w/your original thought, that dress is perfect!! and as marlie said, find the best seamstress, and see what their opinion is of the wrinkle. you''re going to make a gorgeous bride.

 

[Luckyeshe]

The dress is absolutely gorgeous on you! Ok, about the wrinkles, I think that it could be taken care of during the alterations process. But other than that, you look perfect in that dress!

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 11/3/2009 9:14:56 PM
Author: 4ever
I can totally relate to this as I''m the kind of person who let''s the really little things get to me and bug the crap out of me and make me depressed even when I know it''s silly....

But I have to say your fliping crazy because it''s a beautiful dress and you look fabulous and stunning in it. You will most likely get over the wrinkles after a little while and you most definatly wont be thinking about dress wrinkles on your wedding day. I''m sure you''d finding somthing that bugged you about almost any dress you got so try and relax and enjoy, you look great!

took the words out of my mouth!

honestly, its not like these are HUGE wrinkles, pulls, or makes someone thing "that obviously does not fit her right". the dress looks FANTASTIC on you!!

 

[joelly]

OMG you look so good in that dress. Honestly I won''t even notice the wrinkle, not until you point it out. I''m sure a good seamstress can take them all out. Overall, that dress is so pretty.

 

[MagsyMay]

Honey that dress is GORGEOUS on your fabulous figure!! Any skilled seamstress will have those TINY wrinkles pulled in taut in no time! I am sure your beautiful dress will fit you like you imagine in no time!

 

[doodle]

Personally, I think you look stunning. The wrinkles may go away with alterations, and if not, who gives a crap when you look that gorgeous?! I would''ve never in a million lifetimes looked at that and thought, "uh oh" (and I''m critical, so I usually notice things like that), so I truly think you should get over that tiny little thing and be content with the fact that your FI is going to be in awe of how lovely you look before you wind up with wrinkles in yo'' face from worrying about it so much!

 

[HopeDream]

Amazing dress!!

The wrinkels would totaly bug me too!

They look like "ride up wrinkels" (I don''t know how else to call them)

I think they mean that your bodice might be a little too tight in the narrowest bit, or near it causing the dress to gather around the stressed fabric. A good seamstress should be able to let that area out just a little so the dress will drape properly.

You look lovely wrinkels or not!

 

[Maisie]

You look beautiful in your dress! Its really flattering. As for the wrinkles.. you will be moving around a lot on your wedding day and there are chances that you will see a lot more movement in your dress. Try not to focus on the wrinkles. You look stunning!!

 

[bee*]

I love your dress on you-I agree that the wrinkles will be able to be removed when alterations are carried out.

 

[princessplease]

Let me start by saying I am so sorry you're no happy with the dress. You should feel like a princess in your dress, and I'm sorry the wrinkles are making it hard for you to love the dress! With that, though, I think the dress looks incredible on you!!!! I would have never noticed the wrinkles had you not pointed them out. I definitely think what marlie said is great... taking these pics to the seamstress to show them would be a great tool to help alter the dress to remove them.

 

[janinegirly]

I think the dress is gorgeous and would never have noticed the pulls until you pointed it out. Alterations will minimize it and on the day you need to be able to move anyway. I agree that you need to love your dress, but it''s also easy to get obsessive over details that you will never remember later!! You look fantastic!

 

[absolut_blonde]

Your veil is beautiful! Your dress is lovely, too. I can see what you mean about the wrinkles, though I don''t think they are that bad (like others noted, my eye wouldn''t have been drawn to them right away had you not pointed it out). I don''t have a ton of (er, any!) experience with this stuff, but maybe once it''s altered those will go away?

 

[elrohwen]

Those wrinkles are absolutely something a seamstress should be able to get rid of! Point it out to whomever is altering your dress and make sure they know you want the dress perfectly smooth. No worries! This should be very fixable.

 

[tlh]

Date: 11/4/2009 7:30:25 AM
Author: bee*
I love your dress on you-I agree that the wrinkles will be able to be removed when alterations are carried out.

DITTO! you look FANTASTIC! The wrinkles should be able to be smoothed out... and again, it really looks great on your slender figure!

 

[laughwithme]

Thank you so much everyone

I feel much, much better today than I did after leaving the bridal place last night. I got home and started looking at my pics, and don''t notice the wrinkles nearly as much as I did standing there. I have really put my finger on the issue, as well - I think I (stupidly) expected the dress to be in near-perfect, ready-to-wear condition. I think I was expecting the final product. Instead, I got the "work in progress." This was a mistake on my part.

Looking at the pics now, I am much happier, because I know the baggy hips can be altered, and I think there is a good chance the wrinkles can at least be minimized.

The alteration lady has been in business for 30 years and her specialty is actually making custom wedding dresses. However, she says she can alter just about anything on any dress, and she expects 3 fittings for brides. This makes me feel so much better - I am confident that what are huge concerns for me are small, common, fixable concerns for her.

I trust in my gut instinct with this dress and I am really not going to abandon my original vision - if it takes TEN fittings to get it how I want it, so be it. I think the dress is a great start - it just needs to fit me like a glove!

Thanks to all of you for making me feel better - I can''t wait to show pictures of the final product in May or June.

 

[Rock_of_Love]

Absolutely stunning dress! You look great in it!

I agree with the others, it does seem like something alterations could definitely fix...so no worries!!

 

[Porridge]

I think your dress is STUNNING on you, and I''m not just saying that. Really. Beautiful.

I think the little imperfections you see (I def would not have noticed if you hadn''t pointed them out!) will easily be fixed by a good seamstress, but I do recommend that you talk to her about your expectations now to ease your mind, and not wait til the actual fittings in April

ETA didn''t read the whole thread, just saw your last post sorry! Glad you are feeling better about it

 

[honey22]

I was expecting a train wreck, but sweetheart, you look drop dead gorgeous! The dress is divine and I seriously wouldn''t have noticed the wrinkles if you hadn''t mentioned them.

With that said, I am a perfectionist like you, and I had something like that with my gown, it would bug the hell out of me too. I am sure that it''s a fitting issue, and if you have a great seamstress, I am sure it can be fixed easily. Make sure you don''t change weight though after your final fitting - alot of brides crash diet in the last few weeks (after their alterations) and this is probably why you have seen pics with less than perfect fittings. My gown designed was telling me the other day how many brides come in to pick up their gowns and they are considerably smaller than their last fitting.

 

[katamari]

Glad to hear you are feeling better about it now! I also very much agree that a seamstress will be able to fix it, is that is what you really want. Certainly putting a heavier fabric behind that section as a panel would take them out in a second, though there has to be easier fixes than just this. Honestly, I think they look like rouching that is there on purpose and think they kind of complement the dress, but I would like it flat, too. It shows off your shape in a very, very flattering way!