amileegirl
Shiny_Rock
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- Oct 17, 2006
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I don''t ask for much. I never ask for money or favors, but you''d think that it would be okay to ask a small favor on your wedding day.
I asked a friend of mine and my two brothers to help take video of the wedding. With six hands no one person would be burdened. Ceremony, toasts, first dance, group dance, parent dance, cake cutting. That''s it. Not that much! Barely even an hour and a half of work. Split that up between three people and, what...30 minutes of holding a camera? Of course my friend says yes. My brothers say no. Now...wait...my family is a DIY family and we have tons of videos of special events. I took a lot of videos and if it wasn''t me it was my stepfather if not us then my mother. It''s not like "we don''t do video".
I can smell my mother ALL over this. My brothers still live at home (one is 20 the other 1
; they are not anti-electronic by any means. Both of them say no. Oh, I know exactly what went down without even asking. They told her I asked and she told them what a huge burden it would be and how they wouldn''t be able to enjoy themselves with such a big responsibility (of course, the decision is theirs she''d say). My mother has a way of putting and idea in your head and convincing you that you had the thought all along. How do I know she discouraged it? Because this is the same woman who couldn''t be bothered to come to my bridal shower. Because she nor my stepfather volunteered to do it instead. Aren''t parents supposed to be gah gah over taping such an important event? No. Not mine. Because I don''t get to ask for things.
I''m so aaaangry! I can''t let my friend do it all alone. Now I have to see if I can find an affordable videographer that isn''t too fancy that will just take some video. My fiance doesn''t want a videographer but I want video memories. Having family do it was the compromise and now its all shot to smitherines.
I asked a friend of mine and my two brothers to help take video of the wedding. With six hands no one person would be burdened. Ceremony, toasts, first dance, group dance, parent dance, cake cutting. That''s it. Not that much! Barely even an hour and a half of work. Split that up between three people and, what...30 minutes of holding a camera? Of course my friend says yes. My brothers say no. Now...wait...my family is a DIY family and we have tons of videos of special events. I took a lot of videos and if it wasn''t me it was my stepfather if not us then my mother. It''s not like "we don''t do video".
I can smell my mother ALL over this. My brothers still live at home (one is 20 the other 1
; they are not anti-electronic by any means. Both of them say no. Oh, I know exactly what went down without even asking. They told her I asked and she told them what a huge burden it would be and how they wouldn''t be able to enjoy themselves with such a big responsibility (of course, the decision is theirs she''d say). My mother has a way of putting and idea in your head and convincing you that you had the thought all along. How do I know she discouraged it? Because this is the same woman who couldn''t be bothered to come to my bridal shower. Because she nor my stepfather volunteered to do it instead. Aren''t parents supposed to be gah gah over taping such an important event? No. Not mine. Because I don''t get to ask for things.I''m so aaaangry! I can''t let my friend do it all alone. Now I have to see if I can find an affordable videographer that isn''t too fancy that will just take some video. My fiance doesn''t want a videographer but I want video memories. Having family do it was the compromise and now its all shot to smitherines.
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