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My Neighbor committed suicide today

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MissErin

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I know this may not be "the place" to talk about this, but I really need to talk about it because my heart aches.

So just about 2 hours ago I just found out some of the saddest news...

I found out that my neighbor down my street commited suicide today.


This was a wonderful man who when I was younger always had all the kids in the neighborhood at his house. It was a place we could all go and have fun with his son. We used to look forward to it. 7am we would knock on the door and he never turned us away or told us to come back later. It was one of my best childhood memories.


And around 1pm this afternoon I watched a fire truck roll down the street followed by the paramedics. Then a cop car going about 45mph down the residential street hightened my worries. This man had cancer so this wasn''t a shock... Until I walked down to find out the details.


There on the lawn laid his lifeless body covered with a white sheet. I lost it, I cried so hard and really reflected on all the memories. Then I prayed. I prayed for him and told him I loved him.


After I walked back and his 2nd son stopped me. He hugged me and we talked. He told me his father showed signs of it (making a will like list, asking when the family would be home) but he didn''t question it. Then at 1pm he called his ex wife and asked her to come over and take him to the hospital. Then he walked outside, put a gun to his head, and pulled the trigger. It was over.


I consoled the son and let him know how much I loved his father. I also asked about the other son, the one I was friends with as a child, and found out he is in hawaii and was supposed to surprise his father on wed. Wednesday. That broke my heart. After a few words, he hugged me again and I walked back to my house.


I am sad. Really VERY sad. Sad for him. Sad of his sons, Sad for his dogs, Sad for his family. Sad for his friends. I keep crying here and there. I pray over and over again.

 
Erin~

Although no place seems like "the place" to talk about this stuff, I''m glad you posted. I hope you got some relief just being able to type it out. Keep praying and God will lessen your pain, and the pain of all those he left behind.

{{{hugs}}}
 
Oh MissErin - How very sad - It must be very difficult in that you were close to the family. I''ll remember you in my prayers as well as the family.
 
That''s so sad
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A friend of mine committed suicide (nobody saw it coming)... it''s bad enough to lose someone, but to lose them in that way... it''s just really tragic.
 
Erin I''m so sorry. I''ve been there. Thinking of you and of your neighbour''s family.
 
I am so sorry! My thoughts are with you and his family.
 
Thank you to everyone. I felt I needed to write it out to help in a therapy version. And I am really glad I did now. Re reading it helped a lot and knowing how caring you all are heals the heartache as much as it can. I know he is now in a better place and he is not in pain anymore.
 
Very very tragic I am truly sorry Erin.You ( and the family ) are in my thoughts and prayers..
 
This is very sad, my heart goes out to you Erin. I''ll keep you and his family in my prayers. He gave you many fond memories, focus on those if you can.
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That is indeed a very sad story. Even though I don''t know the family, I am sad too for your neighbor, his sons and everyone who was lucky enough to be friends with him. My best wishes for everyone.
 
Truly thank uyou everyone. I am so grateful to have a place I can come and have people understand. So thank you again.
 
I am so sorry, sending prayers to you and your neighbors family and friends.
 
MissErin,
I''m so sorry for your loss. I''m sending good thoughts your way, and I hope you feel better soon. Again, so sorry.
Coati
 
My heart goes out to you. It''s always tough to lose a loved one, but when they commit suicide it''s a grief all its own. I have lost a cousin to suicide and my husband lost his grandfather to suicide. I''m so sorry for your loss. There are no adequate words. I''ll remember you and your neighbor, and his family, in my prayers.
 
Miss Erin-

What a difficult and sad situation. I am sure the man''s son was glad to have you there for support. My thoughts are with you and the man''s family.

Melissa
 
I''m so sorry Erin. I''ve lost people I cared about to suicide as well, and it is unbelievably painful. The only way I got through it was knowing that the person that felt that suicide was the best choice was obviously in a lot of pain and didn''t want to hurt anymore. Sometimes it''s mental pain, but sometimes it''s physical pain. There''s a tremendous sense of relief for the person in controlling how they are going to die, but it causes a lot of grief and misery for those left behind. I''m so sorry you''re going through this.
 
I am soooo sorry. What a heartbreak. Thoughts and Hugs to all involved.
 
My heart goes out to you and his family.
 
Oh, Erin, how very, very sad! I am so sorry . Hugs and prayers for you..{{{{Erin}}}}
 
This is so sad. My heart goes out to you and his family.
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Oh Erin. Im so sorry. Reading your post got me all teary-eyed myself as I can almost sense the depth of your pain and sadness.

My thoughts o out to you and his family.
 
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Miss Erin how awful, The loss of someone under any circumstances is something that is hard to comes to term with. It is wonderful that you have so many fond memories of a wonderful childhood experiences that were in turn helped and created by and with this person which is what makes people we care about with us forever in our hearts.

My heart and prayers go out to you and to his family

BIG HUGS
 
I''m so sorry you''re going through this. Having someone you love commit or attempt suicide is extremely painful... Hugs to you, and I will join you in prayer.
 
MissErin:

I have difficulty trying to put my thoughts and feelings into words. I know how difficult this is. My best friend in High School committed suicide, via gunshot. Sometimes life is not pretty or easy; but, we have all been given the power to heal and move on.

I have known others over the years who have also gone the suicide route; but most of those were more distant from me personally. I will also admit that once (long ago) I too considered it - but did reject it and heal myself of the situation and move on.

Close friends and family are very difficult. To this day I remember Rick - and wonder about some things...

What I''d really like to do is hug you and sit down and cry with you...

A good cry can at times be the best thing.

I know that most guys don''t feel that it is manly to admit that... I just don''t know how else to deal with situations like this.

I hope you can find someone else to cry with.


Thanks for posting


Perry
 
Erin and Perry, my thoughts and prayers go out to you both.
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Thank you again everyone. Your words mean a lot to me.
 
I am so sorry for the loss, him and his family (and you) will be in my prayers.
 
misserin,
my father committed suicide when i was a freshman in college. he was 42. it is a very painful experience. it sounds like you have wonderful memories to hold onto as well as close relationships with your neighbor''s sons. i hope you find some comfort in this. it is a very excruciating thing to endure. it takes a very long time to process what happened and the grief and loss. i am sorry.
 
Today is a little bit easier but I still can''t believe it. Thank you again for the kind words and heartfelt prayers.
 
MissErin, I''m so sorry to hear about your neighbor and dear friend. It is so terribly sad. I wish I could say or do something to make it make sense. *hugs*

Prayers for your dear neighbor that he did not suffer and that he is in a better place without the cancer and pain that lead to his decision, and prayers for his family and the friends that he has left behind.
 
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