My proposal moving further and further away.....

[chocolatefudge]

Hi Ladies,

Haven''t started a thread in a while so just thought I''d update you all on what''s going on with me at the moment (very self indulgent of me!) Me and SO are getting on REALLY well and I''m feeling very happy. You may recall that my SO does not like the idea of a timeline ad wants to surprise me, however I explained that I was getting uncomfortable with the wait (7 years) and not knowing what was going on so he told me it would happen by the end of this year. I''ve been soooooooooo good and not mentioned it at all, as simply knwoing that there was a timeline calmed me down loads.
I know that he has been saving some money which he slipped out one day was for my ring

BUT

Yes, there''s always a but with me! His car broke down last week (broken forever!) So we went out looking at new cars and he found one that he loves and has bought it. I''m really happy for him as he''s wanted a new car for ages and is really excited about it, however I wasn''t sure how he had paid for it. I asked and he said that he had had to use his savings. I thought that he was just trying to trick me and so wasn''t too bothered, but then I looked at his bank statment and his savings account is empty! All the money has been transferred to his other account to pay for the car!! That means he''s got to start all over again saving for a ring

I just feel like it''s never going to happen! I know the end of the year is a long way away but I can''t help feeling a bit sad.

And that''s it really! Anyone else getting closer to their ring?

 

[gwendolyn]

*hugs* I hate unexpected expenses! They are really frustrating all around, but especially when you''re saving up for something specific and the money has to go towards that! I am sure he will get right back to saving for you and that you will have your proposal by the end of the year. Keep up the positive attitude! He still wants to marry you, and is planning a life together with you! This is just a minor setback in the scheme of things!!

 

[Laila619]

Date: 5/4/2008 6:18:53 PM
Author:chocolatefudge
Hi Ladies,

Haven't started a thread in a while so just thought I'd update you all on what's going on with me at the moment (very self indulgent of me!) Me and SO are getting on REALLY well and I'm feeling very happy. You may recall that my SO does not like the idea of a timeline ad wants to surprise me, however I explained that I was getting uncomfortable with the wait (7 years) and not knowing what was going on so he told me it would happen by the end of this year. I've been soooooooooo good and not mentioned it at all, as simply knwoing that there was a timeline calmed me down loads.
I know that he has been saving some money which he slipped out one day was for my ring

BUT

Yes, there's always a but with me! His car broke down last week (broken forever!) So we went out looking at new cars and he found one that he loves and has bought it. I'm really happy for him as he's wanted a new car for ages and is really excited about it, however I wasn't sure how he had paid for it. I asked and he said that he had had to use his savings. I thought that he was just trying to trick me and so wasn't too bothered, but then I looked at his bank statment and his savings account is empty! All the money has been transferred to his other account to pay for the car!! That means he's got to start all over again saving for a ring

I just feel like it's never going to happen! I know the end of the year is a long way away but I can't help feeling a bit sad.

And that's it really! Anyone else getting closer to their ring?

It's a bummer that he had to spend his money on a new car, but he can save up again for your ring! Don't stress! May I ask how old your boyfriend is? If he plans to propose by the end of the year, then he still has 7 months to save.

 

[chocolatefudge]

He''s 25. I know he''ll save up again, I''m just a very impatient girl! Ha ha! Although I must admit I have become very laid back about the whole thing over the last few months. I''m trying to think of all the positive things in our relationship and thinking of other things to take my mind off getting engaged.

 

[that_someone_special]

I feel similar to this! My BF and I have been dating a year and a half. We agreed that by our 2 year mark (end of october) that that would be the latest date. I really needed a timeline because I was OBSESSING about rings. Could not shut my mouth-- so having this time line has helped me sit back, calm down, and think about what is important! Anyways, because I''m kind of impatient, he agreed to a early September date because we''ll be moving in around then, and I''d prefer to be married or AT LEAST engaged when we move in. Since marriage isn''t going to happen in the next 4 months

We went with an engagement!

Now, to the point. Because of the economy and everything raising in price, I have no idea how he is going to afford it. He got a huge amount of money from his last job, but since he was laid off, he has to use it!! He hasn''t found a new job yet.. so I can just see my ring wasting away

He promised that if he had to propose with a BAND he would.. but he would rather have more time to save for the ring. It''s driving me nuts. So so so nuts.

He asked for January.. and I''m like

But what''s a few extra months?? I would rather have a nice ring than just a band.. and if it''s a matter of a few months I should wait, right? But I''m finding this timeline keeps getting pushed out!! Rawr!

 

[lliang_chi]

Chocolate, don''t worry he''d probably still be able to hit your time line. And you''ll probably be very pleasantly surprised.

 

[choro72]

((hugs)) It will come!