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Patchee

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She was married for 7 months, it did not work out though... sad I know. She has this beautiful white gold, colorless D, 1.50Ct., Marquise stone in an antique setting with side baguettes. Don''t know If I will ever be off the LIW list, looks slim at this point but would it be wrong for me to want her ring?

Would it be not right since it was a broken marriage? He picked out the ring for her. I would not mind having it... It was new $10, 100, she will sell it to me for $3k, only because she wants it to stay in the family.
 
Date: 4/7/2006 10:03:11 AM
Author:Patchee
She was married for 7 months, it did not work out though... sad I know. She has this beautiful white gold, colorless D, 1.50Ct., Marquise stone in an antique setting with side baguettes. Don''t know If I will ever be off the LIW list, looks slim at this point but would it be wrong for me to want her ring?

Would it be not right since it was a broken marriage? He picked out the ring for her. I would not mind having it... It was new $10, 100, she will sell it to me for $3k, only because she wants it to stay in the family.
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Why does she want it to stay in the family?

I don''t think I would accept the entire setting but maybe the center stone and you could reset it in a setting of your choice?
 
Patchee,

Tough one!!!...part of me says: Of course!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! get it!!!!....but part of me also thinks it might be a little weird. I guess you know the situation better. I do believe in "abd energy".....(I''m latin, so I''m a littls supersticious
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).....but it''s just such a great deal!...

I also don''t know much about your relationship or how close/far you guys are...or if this is something you are doing alone, or talking to SO about so he can get it?...

The ring sounds beatiful!!!!!!!!!!
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Sorry, I meant bad energy ...not "abd energy"

(typing too fast!)
 
First off, I''m sorry to hear about your sister! That is always sad to hear...

Second, I think the only thing that could be wrong with that is if either you or your sister feels uncomfortable with it! But since it sounds like both of you would be happy with the arrangement, I don''t see why not! As long as you''re sure she really won''t see the ring on your finger and start crying, or that you won''t feel like it might be jinxed, or anything like that, I wouldn''t be concerned with what anyone else might think about the arrangement! Good luck and...you know...post pics please!
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For that price, I would definitely buy it myself, change the setting and make a great RHR out of it! Then you could still get an engagement ring from your sweetie!
 
I second what LAJennifer said.
 
Date: 4/7/2006 11:48:55 AM
Author: LAJennifer
For that price, I would definitely buy it myself, change the setting and make a great RHR out of it! Then you could still get an engagement ring from your sweetie!
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ditto!
 
Date: 4/7/2006 11:48:55 AM
Author: LAJennifer
For that price, I would definitely buy it myself, change the setting and make a great RHR out of it! Then you could still get an engagement ring from your sweetie!
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Hmmmm I am liking this idea.....
 
I don''t think this is a decision you should be making. I think your sis should be approaching your SO about it.
 
Date: 4/7/2006 11:48:55 AM
Author: LAJennifer
For that price, I would definitely buy it myself, change the setting and make a great RHR out of it! Then you could still get an engagement ring from your sweetie!
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That sounds like a much better idea.
 
jared''s has nice mountings....
 
I''d take the stones out and make a really gorgeous custom pendant out of it.
 
I would do it in a heartbeat, but not use it for my ering. Not because I believe in bad karma, but because it might be weirder than your sister thinks to see it on your hand. I''d likely remount it in something else...rhr, pendant, etc.
 
This is not the kindest thing to say, but it is likely that she would not get 3k for it if she sells it elsewhere. I don’t think I would buy it from her unless you just absolutely loved it oodles. I don’t believe in the bad vibes, but do you know for sure that your SO would be all right with this?
 
I would also use it for a RHR. Turning it East-East with a halo set in platinum would be divine.
I would also wear it for alittle while as is to see if you can live with the Karma.

Good Luck.
 
I''m superstitious myself, so although I would love to have that stone and reset it into an RHR, I don''t know if I could deal with the bad vibes of a failed marriage. Personally, I would have too many qualms about it. If my bf and I were to get into fights after getting the stone, I would blame it on that. Sounds a little crazy, but then, most superstitions don''t make any sense.
 
I agree with what most of the others said re: not for an e-ring...I personally wouldn't want to wear a symbol from a relative's failed marriage on my finger as a symbol of our own committment to marry. It just doesn't seem kosher. Why does she want this to stay in the family? Is she still in love with her ex? That could create drama in and of itself.

A RHR would be great...she could do that too if she wants, or a pendant. Also, unless you really want a marquis, don't settle just because it seems cheap. A deal is only a deal if its REALLY what you want ala mrs salvo's tagline!
 
Date: 4/8/2006 1:24:41 PM
Author: crafftygrrl
I would also use it for a RHR. Turning it East-East with a halo set in platinum would be divine.
I would also wear it for alittle while as is to see if you can live with the Karma.

Good Luck.
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Great idea crafftygrrl.
 
I''m going to have to agree that it would make a better RHR than ering. I didn''t use my mom''s old e-ring stone for similar reasons.

Mmmmmm, east/west set marquise....mmmmmm.
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I might just be the only nay-sayer here but I have three sisters and under no circumstances, no matter how much of a "bargain" the stone was, would I want anything to do with a ring/setting etc. from a failed relationship of theirs. I can''t imagine why she wants it to "stay in the family". Perhaps she''s not really ready to let go of that relationship and that can only lead to trouble/jealous etc... Too many emotions wrapped up in the whole deal and I''d just never feel comfortable with being around the original owner while wearing it. RHR, E-ring, neither - no way, no how.

But that''s just me.
 
What a nice sister!

I wouldn''t even turn it into a RHR. What if it turns out so lovely she misses it and wants it back? It could just spiral into something else -- especially if she''s not over her ex.

Why not help her turn it into something else? A mini-project for her that you could help in?
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Fun for both of you! The other way, I see potential drama?
 
When I first read your post, it never occurred to me that your sister would want this to be your e-ring. I figured that since she needs to get rid of it (what would her future SO think?) and she would not be able to sell it without a large loss, it makes sense to keep it in the family. If you choose to buy, you should be able to do whatever you like with it including wear as RHR or reset - this part should be agreed between your sister and you. The broken marriage association would not bother me, as we don't know which diamonds on the market are pre-owned and what is their history.
 
Diamond setter, I think you hit the nail on the head here. It is a lovely ring, will come up with some pictures for you all. Why she wants to keep it in the family.... I really do not know! Maybe something I should have asked to begin with! Someone mentioned (sorry so many posts here to remember your name) about her getting less then 3K if she sold it out right... that could be what she is thinking. She is a materialistic type person who is always thinking in the "green". She ended up with such a nice ring to begin with because she is the materialistic type. A simple ring would never have done for her. She actually left the man of her lifetime for another guy who comes with tons of baggage. So it was not hard for her to break up with the H, more sad on his end, he is a real catch of a guy too. She already picked out her next ring, which is a guady 3.5 Karat. So you guys see what I deal with??

I think your right on passing it up and making it into maybe something else. or something she and I could do together (thanks for that idea).. Not sure how SO would feel about it anyway.. Weird thing with him is, I think he will be the type to go out and buy me a ring and ask me to marry him ... without me having a say in it... which could be good or.... bad!

I would consider a different setting... but now I am like so-so on even wanting it now.. you guys got me a thinking here!
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Patchee,

Just my opinion, but I would not take it. It sounds like a great deal... but there is too much attached to that ring. (Maybe it''s the way you described your sister that makes me feel this way.)

Unless you LOVE the stone, and want to change it into something fun, I don''t see any reason to buy it. Spend that $3k on a bracelet, or something that''s your own. Or start a saving fund for something you really, really want.
 
I would not do it. First off, if she tried to sell it to a jeweler, she would be lucky to get 25% of what she paid so by selling it to you she is getting a good deal for herself.

Second, it would be a reminder to her and she may regret it in the future.

I would suggest to her that SHE either make a pendant or sell it somewhere else.

I''m sorry her relationship did not work out.

But why would she want a diamond to stay in the family that never was worn in a long term marriage?
 
This thread is getting old, as threads go, so you may already have made your decision and shared it with your sister.

I just wanted to express my concern about the RHR idea. That would be a pretty big stone for your SO to be "competing" with if he buys you a diamond ring for your engagement.... and you would want your engagement diamond to be larger than you RHR, right?
 
If it is a beautiful ring...and you absolutely love it, then YES!

It sounds gorgeous....have you any pictures?
 
3k ! Sure! Perfect!

I don''t think diamonds hold any scars from whatever Hell folks wearing them have been through. Changing seting (or even end use) comes to mind as a good idea. Not that the ring would be unlucky in some way, but it may help make the jewelr feel ''yours'' 100% and help your sister not remember her ordeal every time she sees it. A pendant would e gorgeous. And... I can only imagine the gorgeous ring (perhaps with some substantial sidestones added in?) the balance between the generous offer and the original cost of the stone would allow.

Maybe?
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''Guess your future fuance should know what''s in store too - maybe this will cut some of the time between present and his planned proosal date? Who knoes...

My 2c

It just feels odd to see a perfectly wonderful diamond gone to ''waste''.
 
Boyfriend doesn''t want marriage so, don''t need a ring anymore
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But Val that one is beautifuL!
 
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