My thoughts after being on PS for six years

[MichelleCarmen]

Okay, I didn''t realize until this morning that my six-year PS anniversary is coming up on 2/8! It''s been a long time since I''ve joined PS. I''ve seen many people come and go!

I''m just not getting that because I''ve posted a few posts (over the LONG course of being here) where I''ve been upset, that I''ve been stereotyped as the one who posts "woe-is-me" posts! I''ve seen numerous posts by others who''ve done so and just because I''m more emotional than those others, doesn''t make me the bad-seed of the forum OR mean that I should pop Xanax and "chill" and hide my emotions. I''m not a fan of lobotomized behaviour.

I generally ONLY start threads when I want to get something off my chest - vent, for say - I don''t usually post candy coated threads about silly topics. . .that is not who I am.

I guess I had no idea that being a person with true emotions is looked down upon. . .

TG - I''ve only asked that three threads be deleted and one of them was my "who''s who" thread that was started way back when Leonard was still running the board, and the reason that was deleted was due to the fact that I posted more personal information than I wanted others to read about. You never know who is reading, you know? Oh, also there was another thread that was FOUR years old that someone started bringing up over and over, which seemed entirely irrelevant since so much time had gone by and that was removed. Why the person felt the continous need to keep bringing it up lead me to believe that person was taking pot-shots at me. So, yes, a whopping four threads in the course of SIX years. I hardly see that as a pattern.

Anyway, after that last thread, I hadn''t intention to post again, but then looked and saw I''ve been here for 6 years! That is a long time to post in a place only to discover how much I misunderstood how others percieve me.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/27/2009 12:33:05 PM
Author:MC
Okay, I didn't realize until this morning that my six-year PS anniversary is coming up on 2/8! It's been a long time since I've joined PS. I've seen many people come and go!

I'm just not getting that because I've posted a few posts (over the LONG course of being here) where I've been upset, that I've been stereotyped as the one who posts 'woe-is-me' posts! I've seen numerous posts by others who've done so and just because I'm more emotional than those others, doesn't make me the bad-seed of the forum OR mean that I should pop Xanax and 'chill' and hide my emotions. I'm not a fan of lobotomized behaviour.

I generally ONLY start threads when I want to get something off my chest - vent, for say - I don't usually post candy coated threads about silly topics. . .that is not who I am.

I guess I had no idea that being a person with true emotions is looked down upon. . .

TG - I've only asked that three threads be deleted and one of them was my 'who's who' thread that was started way back when Leonard was still running the board, and the reason that was deleted was due to the fact that I posted more personal information than I wanted others to read about. You never know who is reading, you know? Oh, also there was another thread that was FOUR years old that someone started bringing up over and over, which seemed entirely irrelevant since so much time had gone by and that was removed. Why the person felt the continous need to keep bringing it up lead me to believe that person was taking pot-shots at me. So, yes, a whopping four threads in the course of SIX years. I hardly see that as a pattern.

Anyway, after that last thread, I hadn't intention to post again, but then looked and saw I've been here for 6 years! That is a long time to post in a place only to discover how much I misunderstood how others percieve me.

MC, what I sort of think about members is that they are are a sum of their posts on Pricescope and often times, negative/off posts stick in the mind and affect that sum.

I know you have been a longtime member here and I know you have very helpful and thoughtful posts. I also don't think you're disliked or anything, at least in my book.

I don't believe anyone is "tracking" your posts. Things stick in memory - that's just normal. I, for the life of me, would not be able to say off the top of my head in what other threads I felt you were being "woe is me." But I know I've read some and the attitude struck me and stuck with me.

Your post yesterday is a prime example. You posted in big giant letters, bolded AND underlined virtually screaming at posters. In a year from now, I may not remember exactly what you said, but I probably will remember you get defensive and scream at people, you know what I mean?

There probably is some level of misunderstanding. And yet, I believe you should be reflective and wonder WHY some people have the opinion they do of you (if that matters to you anyway). We are all responsible for what we say on Pricescope. You lashed back yesterday and was astonishingly rude to a poster simply because you believe she is rude. Two wrongs don't make a right, and you can't justify bad behavior because you think someone else is guilty of the same.

I, personally, abhor "victim mentality". I've seen too much of it in my life (starting with my father) and I generally have little tolerance for it. That's just me.

All that being said, you have been a long time member here and I am glad you posted today.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

You know, I never considered myself to have the victim mentality. In real life, I'm the type of person who decided long ago that if a person is toxic, I will take it upon myself to break the relationship because I feel that a person becomes a victim only when they allow that behaviour to continue. That is how I felt with PP. In retrospect, I should have just ignored her as I normally do rather than say to myself, huh, who is to judge me (or many others) if she is not perfect, herself?

What threw me for a loop was Seven's One comments toward me considering she has never interacted with any of my posts and when she suddenly did, she made it clear that she saw me as a victim "woe-is-me" type. I understand that people need to voice their opinions and I often do too, but for someone to out-of-the blue fly at me, perplexes me. I don't feel victimized by her. I seriously don't "get" why she reads all my posts and has never ever even said anything to me. Just seems odd!

My real life is my life, not my internet interactions (which is just a hobby) and the scheme of things, I just view it for what it is, however, I do think many use it as an excuse to go overboard with their opinions at the expense of others. Aside from my comment about PP, I'd have to say, I make all effort to respect members here on PS. This morning, I reread an old email I kept from a former member where she expressed her reasons for leaving and it was mainly due to being picked on by two specific members, who at the time were very rude, but hardly post anymore (and when they do, their personalities have taken a 180 - but, yes I still remember those "good 'ole days" - as you were saying, we always remember certain posts that paint a person in a good or possibly bad light). The friend told me she noticed a trend of whenever either of those ladies were painted in a bad light, the posts were removed! It's not as if I'm some sort of isolated example of someone, who at times, decides it's in the better nature to have the thread deleted.

Okay, well that's what I have to say! I'm saying all this with a calm frame of mind, not with any sort of drama. Just facts as I see them.

 

[TravelingGal]

Ha MC, no worries. I read your post with a calm voice.

And speaking of voices, I think many of us have them in our head when it comes to PSers. For instance, I always read Dancing Fire''s posts with a mischievous voice. Skippy''s with a sweet, cheery one. Some others with a snarky voice, etc etc. Not every post of these people but there is an overall tone that I have for each poster which is gleaned from the general impression I get from their posts. The most visible of these posts, to me, is one where they start the topic. Therefore if one is usually starting a topic to vent or whine, then that''s the tone they receive in my head.

We can''t control what other people say or how they use pricescope, but if we choose to participate, we have to figure a way to live with it. That may mean just putting someone on mental ignore.

I can''t speak for seven''s one obviously, but that is how I see things.

RE: Victim mentality. In my experience (and I have a lot of experience with it), those who suffer from it rarely know that they are suffering. (I''m not saying that you do, btw. And we all have days when we throw ourselves a pity party, which is not victim mentality). I think my husband suffers from it to a degree and it drives me crazy. He once came home and said that his boss blew him off for a very important meeting they were supposed to have with a vendor. He said, "Obviously I''m last on the priority list, but this was a big meeting!" I just looked at him, nearly cross-eyed and said, "Uh, did you ever think that your boss has enough FAITH in your abilities that he felt CONFIDENT to let you handle that big meeting by yourself? Do you think he would have blown off such a big meeting if he thought you were a nit wit?" It was one of those rare times that TGuy stopped dead in his tracks and admitted, "You know, I never thought of it that way. Thank you!" No you doof, you didn''t. Sometimes you think that everyone is out to get you.

So yeah, it bugs me. Like I said, I saw no one accusing you of being a bad parent. But it was a thread brought up for discussion and could have been an interesting one as I believe people have become overcautious and paranoid as parents compared to when we were kids.

 

[musey]

Date: 1/27/2009 12:54:13 PM
Author: TravelingGal
MC, what I sort of think about members is that they are are a sum of their posts on Pricescope and often times, negative/off posts stick in the mind and affect that sum.

...

Your post yesterday is a prime example. You posted in big giant letters, bolded AND underlined virtually screaming at posters. In a year from now, I may not remember exactly what you said, but I probably will remember you get defensive and scream at people, you know what I mean?

I think TGal has (as usual) hit the nail on the head, here. It's the dramatic threads that stick in our minds... and whether or not posters handle the drama gracefully makes an impression.

There are some members around here (not you specifically, MC, because I don't think we've actually conversed much) whose threads I do avoid because I think of them as being the type to lash out - which is often based only on a thread or two. Maybe that's accurate to their personality, maybe not... but does it matter whether or not I think a stranger on the internet is a reasonable person?

There probably is some level of misunderstanding. And yet, I believe you should be reflective and wonder WHY some people have the opinion they do of you (if that matters to you anyway). We are all responsible for what we say on Pricescope.

Yup. I sometimes wonder what (if anything) other people on the boards think of me, because I try to be very careful and straightforward with my posts so as to avoid misunderstanding if at all possible. Everyone forms opinions based upon one post or another, or a collection of them - it's not an active process or some sort of vendetta, it's just human nature to take note of how others handle themselves and what that means for future interactions.

Sorry you're feeling down, MC.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/27/2009 3:45:56 PM
Author: musey

Sorry you''re feeling down, MC.

Oops, this wasn''t meant to be a downer post! I thought about the situation last night and this morning before posting and feel fine about it now. Life moves on, right?

Some members here are better at thinking before posting and clearly everyone creates a certain persona when posting (the internet makes life so easy for one to reinvent themselves), but one aspect of my personality that I cannot control when posting is spontaneity. When something needs to be said, I say it right then and there.

Possibly that is part of the problem when posting my "drama" threads as I post them right after something happens, while still in the heat-of-the-moment, and I''ve learned my lesson this time in keeping certain topics out of this forum

Maybe water down my life a bit when on here.

Musey, from your posts you come across as a very sweet and nice person! Like you mentioned, we haven''t conversed much, yet I do know you''re an actress and find it facinating and mysterious. There have been comments in the past that all sorts of women post here and certainly there are famous women among us! Best of luck with your career.

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 1/27/2009 3:45:56 PM
Author: musey

I think TGal has (as usual) hit the nail on the head, here. It's the dramatic threads that stick in our minds... and whether or not posters handle the drama gracefully makes an impression.

There are some members around here (not you specifically, MC, because I don't think we've actually conversed much) whose threads I do avoid because I think of them as being the type to lash out - which is often based only on a thread or two. Maybe that's accurate to their personality, maybe not... but does it matter whether or not I think a stranger on the internet is a reasonable person?

I'm the same way. There aren't many on here, I apply that mostly to other forums I am a member of. But in my short time on PS I've grown a mental list of who I can give honest, heart to heart advice to and who I just need to "

that's great" to even if I don't feel that way. And it is based on either threads they've started or responses to posts.

Side note: MC you are one of my favs here. I really like your responses to a lot of posts. I don't know your history...honestly, I thought you were semi-new LOL

Also on the whole dramatic thing, I tend to be very self centered in my posts and threads so I have to make an effort to remember not to be that way. It's easy to get carried away on a forum when you spend all day talking to others about their situations. I see this as a vent location for me but at the same time I've grown to like 90% of the people here so I have to remember not to be selfish. Especially on the preggo thread. I always tell myself "ok fiery, respond to everyone first because they are your 'friends' and then talk about yourself" LOL

 

[Steel]

Hi MC,

We all have our 'buttons'. Sore points which we do not like to be pressed. In an online forum nobody can really know you, so they cannot know what is a button for you; consequently they may push one.

Only once did I feel 'attacked' on PS and it did not feel very nice. A year or so on I think that the poster found a button of mine and pressed it. In my upset it did not help that that poster had strong opinions. In fact it made me feel that the comment was intended to upset me. Now I think that was a ridiculous reaction. But it did not seem like that at the time.

Somebody may have found a button for you...but you may also have found a button for that person. Who knows? I am sure neither of you 'actually' meant to cause harm. Quite confident of that fact actually.

You have been around for a while, obviously you enjoy the view; so don't go closing any curtains...

 

[luckystar112]

MC, don''t worry....I have a "victim mentality" too.

LOL! I haven''t vented about anything in a while though, since my life has been so fabulous.

I think everyone knows who the "bullies" are/were, but luckily it''s calmed down a lot in the last year! I agree with a lot of what you''ve said regarding that.
For what it''s worth, when I first read your story in the other thread I was mad along with you, but then when others started to remind us that "boys will be boys" I understood that side too. Still, I believe it''s your baby and you''re allowed to be annoyed!
My skin has gotten a lot thicker since I''ve been here, and sometimes I even catch MYSELF rolling my eyes at some drama-filled posts...but mostly my opinion has been the same, that some people (complainers AND armchair psychologists) need to get over themselves.

 

[decodelighted]

Oy. Somehow I missed the hot bed thread in question but, after review:

As to the topic of *this* thread ... agree with TG. We can't control how people view us or what people say to us ... we can each only control our own behavior. People who are more impulsive perhaps add more colorful contributions to the forum that might not occur with more discretion. But we're all judged by what we "put out there". Naive to think otherwise. And it can be very helpful to objectively analyze why people react to you in different ways. I do think some folks just rub each other the wrong way & view everything the other person says through a filter of previous impressions & even dislike. My pet theory is the people who clash the most are actually the most alike. I kinda think the things we loathe about other people are the things we loathe about ourselves ... one step further: they exhibit the very habits/shortcomings/flaws we're trying (& failing) to work on about ourselves.

Now that may be too much hoo-ha & gobbledegook for this topic but, eh, I'm a blowhard.

Except when I'm zinging. Or banging the heck out of my laptop with my hard, hard head.

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 1/27/2009 5:02:04 PM
Author: decodelighted
My pet theory is the people who clash the most are actually the most alike. I kinda think the things we loathe about other people are the things we loathe about ourselves ... one step further: they exhibit the very habits/shortcomings/flaws we''re trying (& failing) to work on about ourselves.

I agree!

 

[TravelingGal]

Lucky, you could get away with peeling a few layers of skin if you didn't insist on frequenting ATW so much!

 

[musey]

Date: 1/27/2009 5:05:57 PM
Author: luckystar112

Date: 1/27/2009 5:02:04 PM
Author: decodelighted
My pet theory is the people who clash the most are actually the most alike. I kinda think the things we loathe about other people are the things we loathe about ourselves ... one step further: they exhibit the very habits/shortcomings/flaws we're trying (& failing) to work on about ourselves.

I agree!

I think that that's true for some people, for sure. I don't think it's generally true for me (anymore*). The people who bug me the most are the people who ask for opinions then get upset/defensive if they don't hear what they want to, and the people who offer criticism when it isn't invited.

I'm pretty sure I don't do either, but who knows? We judge ourselves the most inaccurately, I suppose...



*The 'anymore' is more in reference to real life... I used to be one of those tough love make-fun-of-you kind of friends, and I realized that I hated being that way and spent years fixing it. Now I'm the supportive, honest but kind type of friend. I get VERY upset now when I see people making fun of their friends as though it were some sort of bonding ritual.

So in that case, it's true for me.

 

[Haven]

I didn''t read the other thread, but MC, I wanted to say that I really love your posts. It sounds like you are a great mom, and you and your family have recently made some brave and tough decisions to alter your lifestyle to match your values. Just so you know, that''s how I perceive you.

As for our PS persona, I do agree that that is just a part of the package. I recently posted something about my multiple piercings and had to laugh out loud when Musey responded that she was surprised to hear that I had them. It was so funny because it was the first time I realized how different I must seem via PS than I do in real life.

Don''t go, MC, I really value your contributions to PS.

 

[HollyS]

MC, glad to see that you're viewing things in a calmer light today. TGal and Deco make some valid points about posting, and how we are perceived by our posts . . . and they each have been 'judged' by their posts in the past, so they know whereof they speak. We are, by and large, a very smart, independent, pretty successful group of woman who probably got where we are by being outspoken and fully willing to step into the fray of life. Sometimes, we can respond a little too quickly, a bit too snappy, or a mite too sarcastic; and -- I speak from personal experience here on PS -- not realize we've hit someone else the wrong way. It doesn't mean we're rotten people. It means we're human. Sometimes we're on the 'receiving' end and think "whoa, why am I being snarked?" And we respond in kind. Again, not because we're ugly people; we're just people. I don't think there is one person on PS who has not regretted at least a couple of their past posts; that is, if they've really been involved in PS and not just on the periphery. Well, maybe Skippy.

The best thing to do is apologize when we know we should; shrug off the offending posts/posters if they don't, and try to give some thought before we respond. And I say this because I've been guilty of mouthing off when I should have just hit that 'ol cancel button.

Personally, I don't remember any whiny posts from you, so you've got a clean slate in my mind.

 

[musey]

Date: 1/27/2009 4:15:08 PM
Author: MC
Musey, from your posts you come across as a very sweet and nice person! Like you mentioned, we haven''t conversed much, yet I do know you''re an actress and find it facinating and mysterious. There have been comments in the past that all sorts of women post here and certainly there are famous women among us! Best of luck with your career.

Thank you

I''ve also been referred to as a "bad@$$," and a "tough cookie," as well as "needing to grow a thicker skin." So it just goes to show you how differently people can perceive a single poster!

 

[TravelingGal]

Speaking of cancel button, if I am responding to a really hot button topic and I''m a bit warm under the collar myself, I compose somewhere other than the reply box on PS. No easy access submit button and the hope is by the time I''ve copied and pasted it over, I am sure I want to post what I have written!

I''m sure that''s saved me from getting run out of town around here....

 

[musey]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:07:09 PM
Author: Haven
As for our PS persona, I do agree that that is just a part of the package. I recently posted something about my multiple piercings and had to laugh out loud when Musey responded that she was surprised to hear that I had them. It was so funny because it was the first time I realized how different I must seem via PS than I do in real life.

Haha! Well, considering that what I know if you is that you are a high school english teacher (it is high school, right?), a stickler for etiquette, and a lover of hand calligraphy... yes the piercings surprised me

I love it though! Pretty much everyone is full of contradictions like that, and I think it''s easy to forget that the avatars we see on here have real people with real depth behind them.

 

[HollyS]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:16:55 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/27/2009 6:07:09 PM
Author: Haven
As for our PS persona, I do agree that that is just a part of the package. I recently posted something about my multiple piercings and had to laugh out loud when Musey responded that she was surprised to hear that I had them. It was so funny because it was the first time I realized how different I must seem via PS than I do in real life.

Haha! Well, considering that what I know if you is that you are a high school english teacher (it is high school, right?), a stickler for etiquette, and a lover of hand calligraphy... yes the piercings surprised me

I love it though! Pretty much everyone is full of contradictions like that, and I think it''s easy to forget that the avatars we see on here have real people with real depth behind them.

Haven''s got multiple piercings????!!!! Where the heck have I been that I missed that very interesting tidbit?

And she looks so normal. . . . .

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:07:09 PM
Author: Haven
I didn''t read the other thread, but MC, I wanted to say that I really love your posts. It sounds like you are a great mom, and you and your family have recently made some brave and tough decisions to alter your lifestyle to match your values. Just so you know, that''s how I perceive you.

As for our PS persona, I do agree that that is just a part of the package. I recently posted something about my multiple piercings and had to laugh out loud when Musey responded that she was surprised to hear that I had them. It was so funny because it was the first time I realized how different I must seem via PS than I do in real life.

Don''t go, MC, I really value your contributions to PS.

hehe.....my "REALLY?" moment was when I found out that you love UFC fighting.
It was like when my favorite English prof told me that she was a "gangsta rap" fan.

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:16:42 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Speaking of cancel button, if I am responding to a really hot button topic and I''m a bit warm under the collar myself, I compose somewhere other than the reply box on PS.

Where might I get a peek at this marvelous mammoth "Greatest Hits" file that''s certainly knocking around on your hard drive??

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 1/27/2009 5:07:51 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Lucky, you could get away with peeling a few layers of skin if you didn''t insist on frequenting ATW so much!

lol!
I still have no idea how I ended up over there. Strong personalities for sure though.
I blame Holly.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:25:53 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 1/27/2009 6:16:42 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Speaking of cancel button, if I am responding to a really hot button topic and I''m a bit warm under the collar myself, I compose somewhere other than the reply box on PS.

Where might I get a peek at this marvelous mammoth ''Greatest Hits'' file that''s certainly knocking around on your hard drive??

LOL Deco, funny gal.

I compose stuff in a draft from my outlook email. Sometimes I forget to delete them and when I clean out my draft folder (which is hardly ever) I find these posts meant for PS and I think, "Damn! Who peed on your wheaties that morning!!"

Don''t tell me you don''t have a similar greatest hits file?

 

[HollyS]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:27:24 PM
Author: luckystar112

Date: 1/27/2009 5:07:51 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Lucky, you could get away with peeling a few layers of skin if you didn't insist on frequenting ATW so much!

lol!
I still have no idea how I ended up over there. Strong personalities for sure though.
I blame Holly.

I feel so . . . . 'inspiring'! Me, a role model. Who'da thunk?

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:29:24 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Don''t tell me you don''t have a similar greatest hits file?

LOL. Believe it or not ... I don''t. I''m pretty fly by the seat of my snark. Perhaps unfortunately. I do still have a certain "GCP"-style foot-stamping email I sent to one of the two peeps w/whom I exchanged emails addy''s before the PM''s went away ... and IIRC the final sign off was "ps--do you have TG''s email?"

 

[Haven]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:24:29 PM
Author: luckystar112

Date: 1/27/2009 6:07:09 PM
Author: Haven
I didn''t read the other thread, but MC, I wanted to say that I really love your posts. It sounds like you are a great mom, and you and your family have recently made some brave and tough decisions to alter your lifestyle to match your values. Just so you know, that''s how I perceive you.

As for our PS persona, I do agree that that is just a part of the package. I recently posted something about my multiple piercings and had to laugh out loud when Musey responded that she was surprised to hear that I had them. It was so funny because it was the first time I realized how different I must seem via PS than I do in real life.

Don''t go, MC, I really value your contributions to PS.

hehe.....my ''REALLY?'' moment was when I found out that you love UFC fighting.
It was like when my favorite English prof told me that she was a ''gangsta rap'' fan.

Ha! (And, um, who DOESN''T love gangsta rap?)

You know, MC, maybe you''re onto something here. Maybe we need a "You would be surprised to know . . . " thread where we can share bits about our real selves that don''t come across here on PS.

But then again, maybe it''s more fun to just surprise each other every once in a while.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:39:55 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 1/27/2009 6:29:24 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Don''t tell me you don''t have a similar greatest hits file?

LOL. Believe it or not ... I don''t. I''m pretty fly by the seat of my snark. Perhaps unfortunately. I do still have a certain ''GCP''-style foot-stamping email I sent to one of the two peeps w/whom I exchanged emails addy''s before the PM''s went away ... and IIRC the final sign off was ''ps--do you have TG''s email?''

Ha, I think I may have asked for yours a long time ago from the same possible peep, but I don''t recall ever getting it.

Now I just put it all out here on PS.

 

[Miranda]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:46:35 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 1/27/2009 6:24:29 PM
Author: luckystar112

Date: 1/27/2009 6:07:09 PM
Author: Haven
I didn''t read the other thread, but MC, I wanted to say that I really love your posts. It sounds like you are a great mom, and you and your family have recently made some brave and tough decisions to alter your lifestyle to match your values. Just so you know, that''s how I perceive you.

As for our PS persona, I do agree that that is just a part of the package. I recently posted something about my multiple piercings and had to laugh out loud when Musey responded that she was surprised to hear that I had them. It was so funny because it was the first time I realized how different I must seem via PS than I do in real life.

Don''t go, MC, I really value your contributions to PS.

hehe.....my ''REALLY?'' moment was when I found out that you love UFC fighting.
It was like when my favorite English prof told me that she was a ''gangsta rap'' fan.

Ha! (And, um, who DOESN''T love gangsta rap?)

You know, MC, maybe you''re onto something here. Maybe we need a ''You would be surprised to know . . . '' thread where we can share bits about our real selves that don''t come across here on PS.

But then again, maybe it''s more fun to just surprise each other every once in a while.

That''s a good idea Haven! IRL I''d guess I''m nothing like I *appear* to be here.

MC - I do hope you are feeling better about things. Or at least less confused.

I hope you don''t go, my latex glove wearing friend!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/27/2009 6:46:35 PM
Author: Haven

Ha! (And, um, who DOESN''T love gangsta rap?)

Thanks so much for all your posts. . .I''m suppose to be cooking dinner right now (and if I don''t start soon, my kids will devour an entire bag of Goldfish), however wanted to quickly jump on and tell you all how much I appreciate your posts, even though now I have "It''s Tricky" by RUN DMC stuck in my head. . . (the closest to gangsta rap I ever got into!)

At any rate, Miranda, I''m making hamburgers in a second here and have a fresh box of latex gloves waiting with my name on them!

Hope you all have a great evening.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/27/2009 4:18:26 PM
Author: fieryred33143

I''m the same way. There aren''t many on here, I apply that mostly to other forums I am a member of. But in my short time on PS I''ve grown a mental list of who I can give honest, heart to heart advice to and who I just need to ''

that''s great'' to even if I don''t feel that way. And it is based on either threads they''ve started or responses to posts.

Side note: MC you are one of my favs here. I really like your responses to a lot of posts. I don''t know your history...honestly, I thought you were semi-new LOL

Also on the whole dramatic thing, I tend to be very self centered in my posts and threads so I have to make an effort to remember not to be that way. It''s easy to get carried away on a forum when you spend all day talking to others about their situations. I see this as a vent location for me but at the same time I''ve grown to like 90% of the people here so I have to remember not to be selfish. Especially on the preggo thread. I always tell myself ''ok fiery, respond to everyone first because they are your ''friends'' and then talk about yourself'' LOL

Fiery - thanks for your kind words. How is your pregnancy going? The preggo thread is a whopping 506 pages long and it''s a bit intimidating reading up on everyone''s details. . .upon looking, I saw your disturbing bit about the teens downstairs from you who were hanging out in the empty apt.! Was that resolved?