My Update/ Need a Hug

[zilaras]

I really thought it was going to happen on Sunday. He was planning on taking me on a surprise date. We went out shopping, to a movie, and to a fancy restaurant ( reaaaaallly fancy for us). Alas, nothing happened. I shared my somewhat disappointment without being emotional- which made me very proud of myself.

However, since then it has really been hitting me. He has had the ring for almost 6 months now...He asked my father''s permission over a month ago....We have been living together for almost 4 months ( in our premoving in discussion I had stated that I really wanted to be engaged before I lived with someone). He has his little duckies in a row, and has had a couple of very good opportunities for the asking. It just is kind of making me feel blah today.

 

[SparklyGirl*]

oh big hugs!

I am sure that he is waiting for "his" perfect moment or opportunity. Yeah that sucks that many have passed but i am thinking that he just doesnt want to mess it up and that he wants to make it the perfect timing and opportunity...maybe those other good moments and opportunities were too obvious and he knew you would be expecting it!
Also, maybe he is wanting it to be too perfect..my then FF was so concerned about the perfect place and perfect time, that he was overlooking the fact that i just wanted him to ask me! That i didnt care where or how as much as he did! I told him that and he realized the same thing! He asked a week later!

So maybe you need to tell him that all that matters is him asking you to spend the rest of your life with him. Yes the place and time are also important but not as important as the love we have for each other and sometimes we loose track of the most important parts having to do with love! Just tell him how you feel about that and hold in there! Im sure he will ask you soon! (HUGS)

 

[Dannielle]

Sounds like he was trying to throw you off!

 

[zilaras]

I hope he is just trying to throw me off. I wish that he was oblivious to the fact that what really is important to me is that we love each other and the engagement doesn''t need to be elaborate...However, we have talked several times about this and he knows that i do not need anything fancy. sigh.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

maybe he has a very specific way he wants to ask that requires a couple months to get it planned. i know my SO has said that he has 2 ways he wants to do it and both require a lot of planning and, as far as i know, involves our moms for one of them and we are moving to denver soon so it will require extra planning for that

 

[jcarlylew]

*hug*

i''m sorry. hopefully he is throwing you off, but good for you expressing your opinion w/o getting too emotional/angry about it.

 

[bee*]

Sorry to hear that-I''m sure that he must have something planned though if he''s asked your dad for permission.