My wedding lesson of the day!

[SarahLovesJS]

We are inviting someone to our wedding (supposedly FMIL''s very good friend)..that FMIL does not even know her last name and has not seen her in years (and she got married about 20 years ago so there would be no reason not to know the name). Don''t let this happen to you, stand your ground.

 

[cocolaw]

HA! are you me? after sending save the dates, i realized we invited the fiance''s family''s home builder (no joke) to our small, intimate, family and close friends only wedding....same situation....all you can do at this point is laugh!!

 

[doodle]

HAHAHA! Maybe the person won''t come...I had to convince my mother that tacking a wedding invitation to the bulletin board at her work was a bad idea!

 

[bee*]

Oh I''ve had the same thing. D''s mam has invited so many people that she hasn''t seen for ages and she rang me yesterday while I was mid study for my exam to say that she wants to invite one more person that she actually is friends with, only we have no stupid invitations left because we had to send them to other people that she hadn''t seen in years. Infuriating

 

[mrowmrowsmom]

Omigosh, my mom and stepdad are friends with a lady who owns a used car dealership. She got me a "great deal" on a used car. The thing turned out to be a total lemon. The mileage was off by almost 100,000 miles, nothing in the car worked properly, and it had engine problems a week after I bought it. She was a total b*tch about the whole thing. Because selling a car with incorrect mileage is against the law, I had grounds to file a lawsuit, but my parents threw a fit and offered to pay me to have the car fixed so I wouldn''t ruin their "friendship."

Well, lo and behold, who do I find on my STD list? You guessed it.

I told my mom no effin way was this lady coming to my wedding. I can''t believe my mom even thought that would be ok!

Rant over.

 

[meresal]

Sorry about that!

I called my FMIL last night to tell her I need her to get me some updated addresses for the calligrapher, and she said, "Ok, will do... and also, FFIL has come up with a few more names."

"Come up with", freaking A, this is a wedding not a golf tournament. We aren''t inviting more people just becuase you just remembered them!!!

 

[LadyBlue]

Hahaha!!! sorry ladys

In my wedding I just have a few extra people that I did not know, people that works with my dad. Everything was fine, they ended up having a nice conversation with my uncle, and the present was really good, so I can not complain

 

[mrscushion]

Date: 5/14/2009 11:11:11 AM
Author: meresal
I called my FMIL last night to tell her I need her to get me some updated addresses for the calligrapher, and she said, ''Ok, will do... and also, FFIL has come up with a few more names.''

''Come up with'', freaking A, this is a wedding not a golf tournament. We aren''t inviting more people just becuase you just remembered them!!!

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Date: 5/14/2009 11:24:17 AM
Author: mscushion

Date: 5/14/2009 11:11:11 AM
Author: meresal
I called my FMIL last night to tell her I need her to get me some updated addresses for the calligrapher, and she said, 'Ok, will do... and also, FFIL has come up with a few more names.'

'Come up with', freaking A, this is a wedding not a golf tournament. We aren't inviting more people just becuase you just remembered them!!!

Haha ditto! That's hilarious.

I'm sorry this is happening SLJS. I'm hoping I can just convince our families that we're only inviting people WE (the COUPLE, ya know, the ones getting married???

) know.

Meresal - so are you inviting those extra people too?

 

[cocolaw]

this is so funny!! we are having a destination wedding and so i wanted to keep it small. i did not invite any HS friends, very few friends from college, family friends that we have taken trips with and grown up with are not invited...really only my very best friends and my mom''s very best friends that know me. I found out after the save the dates were sent (stupid me) that fmil considered my fiance''s college friend''s PARENTS to be her "close friends" and her HS friends that she has not spoken with in years....mine aren''t even invited!! argh. his parents were visiting and we had a talk over lunch about people invited to the wedding...she said "did you invite x? he is ...''s father." i said oh im sure we didn''t if he is just one of fiance''s college friends parents...this is only supposed to be close friends and family....she SNAPPED back.. "his college friend''s parents ARE our close friends!!"

 

[tlh]

OMG, that is awesome FMIL''s can be soo funny sometimes!

 

[meresal]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:00:25 PM
Author: luvthemstrawberries

Date: 5/14/2009 11:24:17 AM
Author: mscushion

Date: 5/14/2009 11:11:11 AM
Author: meresal
I called my FMIL last night to tell her I need her to get me some updated addresses for the calligrapher, and she said, ''Ok, will do... and also, FFIL has come up with a few more names.''

''Come up with'', freaking A, this is a wedding not a golf tournament. We aren''t inviting more people just becuase you just remembered them!!!

Haha ditto! That''s hilarious.

I''m sorry this is happening SLJS. I''m hoping I can just convince our families that we''re only inviting people WE (the COUPLE, ya know, the ones getting married???

) know.

Meresal - so are you inviting those extra people too?

I hung up the phone and with dropped jaw, looked at FI, and said... "She''s actually ADDING more people!!!" When my parents said we would accomodate thier business associates becuase of the family company... we did not mean whoever you want. I mean really, two months before the wedding he "Came up with some more people." That is ridiculous. Maybe he should have spent a little more time on his original list. I''m not adding 5 more people, plus spouces just because. That''s $1000.

I wrote her an email this morning, that said, we were at capacity and I didn''t want to invite more people than we have chairs for. I asked her how many he came up with and how many each would be bringing... and what the probability would be that they would even come. It also had some other questions, but she hasn''t written back yet. She''s pretty smart, I hope she got the hint.

 

[sunnyd]

I''m so done with the guest list. I''m just giving up... The sister of one of my parents'' friends invited herself and her boyfriend (she better not think her son is invited too for %$@# sake, our wedding is on his b-day). Ugh, whatever, but now my parents are saying that the other sister should be invited now too WITH a date.

We saw the other sister a few weeks ago, she didn''t even know who I was! So that''s another 2 strangers. I can''t wait.

 

[ams0124]

Ok time for me to join the fun...These stories are just HILARIOUS!!

FI and I have started talking about the rehearsal guest...should be no big deal right? WRONG!! So I asked my mom and FI''s dad to look at our wedding guest list, and from there make a rehearsal guest list that has BOTH of our families included...well at least that was the plan...

My mom came up with 45 total people for the dinner...This includes my family, FI''s family, and bridal party...very reasonable if you ask me....FFIL came up with 45 people JUST FOR HIS FAMILY!! He didn''t even consider my family or our bridal party!

I get the FFIL is paying but COME ON! You would think that my family would at least be on his radar...AT LEAST MY MOM!!

LOL I think the bride''s parents should be invited to the rehearsal dinner so this will be a topic of discussion with FFIL in the next few days...

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 5/14/2009 1:24:45 PM
Author: ams0124

LOL I think the bride''s parents should be invited to the rehearsal dinner so this will be a topic of discussion with FFIL in the next few days...

Nah, overrated. They know what to do already, right?

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Eeehee these stories are great!

I really don''t think she''ll come because when she was sent a save the date..there was no reply, no phone call to FMIL, nothing. I doubt she even knows who sent her a save the date! It should be more clear with the invite at least..

 

[cocolaw]

ooh hahahaha i sent a few later save the dates when the fmil asked for more (i have really gone out of my way for her...to the detriment of our wedding)....i should have said no when she asked me to attach a sticky note or write on the save the date how the recipient would know us....bc the person would otherwise not know who we are!

again...read...SMALL DESTINATION WEDDING!!!

 

[ams0124]

Date: 5/14/2009 1:27:51 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 5/14/2009 1:24:45 PM
Author: ams0124

LOL I think the bride''s parents should be invited to the rehearsal dinner so this will be a topic of discussion with FFIL in the next few days...

Nah, overrated. They know what to do already, right?

Maybe that''s his thinking...hmmmm?! Your so smart Sunny!

 

[meresal]

Date: 5/14/2009 2:12:40 PM
Author: cocolaw
ooh hahahaha i sent a few later save the dates when the fmil asked for more (i have really gone out of my way for her...to the detriment of our wedding)....i should have said no when she asked me to attach a sticky note or write on the save the date how the recipient would know us....bc the person would otherwise not know who we are!

again...read...SMALL DESTINATION WEDDING!!!

LOL!! Hilarious!!

 

[MakingTheGrade]

Haha, we're inviting my fiance's sister's boyfriend's son who I've only met once, and despite the "no kids at the wedding" rule. What's ironic is that this kid probably doesn't even want to go (what 14 year old boy wants to spend saturday at church, and at a reception with no other kids his age?).

 

[meresal]

Just heard back from FMIL... the two people that FFIL was talking about were already on the list. Phew... She also told me that if we need her to trim their list she would be more than happy.

Is it Friday yet??