Need help...wedding band for 3 stone e-ring

[MyDreamRing]

My soon to be fiance and I have been shopping for e-rings and have pretty much decided that we like the 3 stone rings. However we have realized that with the 3 stone rings wedding bands tend not to lay flat against them.

What are most girls doing about this now that 3 stone rings are becoming so popular?

I don''t want one of those curved or carved out wedding bands as I want to be able to wear my wedding band by itself when I play sports such as rock climbing.

I am tring to come to grips with the idea that it may just have a gap. I saw that Trista from the Bachelorette had a huge gap with her pave band and 3 stone e-ring, so it must be more common. It just seems so weird to me.

My other thought was to only wear it when I am not wearing my e-ring, but I am not so sure I like the idea of people not realizing that I am now married, not just engaged

. I have also heard of some women wearing their eternity wedding bands on a separate finger or their other hand. But then again, is the whole thing about not looking like you are actually married.

Any thoughts. I am just wondering if this is something I should be thinking about as I am deciding on my e-ring.

 

[chialea]

Is wearing your ring when you're climbing not a safety issue in and of itself? I've been advised not to wear any rings at all when I'm climbing.

 

[MyDreamRing]

As far as I was aware a plain band (which is what I want...just a simple plain platinum band) is fine when rock climbing. As long as there is nothing that could catch onto anything. But then again, I guess you can never be too safe!

But never the less....my concern is more what to do with or how to wear the wedding band when I am wearing my e-ring.

 

[pqcollectibles]

I know exactly how you feel, Dream. My original w-ring had a beautiful scalloped edge but after years of wear and rubbing, the scallops wore flat. I had the rings soldered together and became very accustom a flush fit set. Now, my new ring bumps out on both sides. The only w-bands I've tried that fit close to flush are the notched type, which I don't want. I want to be able to wear the 2 rings seperate from each other and I don't find the notched look appealing alone. Straight bands gap. Like you, I've noticed lots of women wearing rings that way. It doesn't seem to bother them at all.

What to do??!! What to do??!!

 

[aljdewey]

Dream, sooooooo funny - I'm going through the EXACT same thing. I received my engagement ring (simple 6-prong Tiff style setting) in December, and I have spent COUNTLESS hours since trying in vain to find a wedding band that looks good with the setting.




I, too, have been disturbed by the "look" of the gap. Like you, I don't want a curved wedding band because it looks funny if I choose to wear the band alone.




I had a loooooooong talk with Brian at Whiteflash on this, and he made some great points. He said that it's hard to judge by "trying something on" for a minute or two at the store, and that you'd get used to the gap if you wore the rings for two weeks or so. I think he's right on the money on that one because I never did like the look of Tiff settings on me until I got my e-ring and we set it in a temp Tiff style setting. It was just supposed to be a temp setting, but the look really grew on me.




He also made another excellent point....your hand is always in motion, so there will be movement in the rings no matter how close you get them. This means they likely won't sit perfectly flush anyway......even with precision flush sets. The only way rings stay perfectly together is if you solder them together.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

My rings don't sit flush either and after almost six years of marriage I'm entirely use to the gap. It is so convenient having the option of just wearing my wedding band and I wouldn't trade this for nicely flush sitting rings. If you're athletic, you pretty much need to have a band to wear alone (and ESPECIALLY when you're rock climbing

)!

Michelle

 

[MyDreamRing]

Yeah, I have pretty much come to the conclusion that I am going to have a gap.

My soon to be fiance thinks it is fine and see's nothing odd about it...it is only me that has the issue with the "gap".

I have however, definitely ruled out the curved bands or the bands with a notch cut out. You can't wear them alone and the way rings are always loose on my small 3.5 size fingers they would spin around and never set together right anyway.

Thanks for all the posts.

It's good to know that I am not alone.

So, what kind of wedding bands have women been putting with their three stone rings?

My ring will be around 2 carats total and with my finger size being only a 3.5 I was thinking a plain band would be fine since I will already have quite a bit of rock. But then hey, a girl can never have too much rock, RIGHT? My other thoughts beside plain band was a pave band. Something that if I wore it by itself it would have lots of sparkle but still look simple. What do you think? Oh decisions decisions.....

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Two carats is plenty of sparkle. I think a nice simple band would be perfect and classical looking. BUT, if you think you'll wear your band alone often enough, a pave would be a nice alternative since it'll give you sparkle even when worn by itself. I'd get both! hahaha!

Michelle

 

[Bikergirl]

I have three rings, and love it!

I also wanted rings to sit flush, but wanted the option of wearing my w-ring alone. Long story short, one band wouldn't fit all of the criteria.

I have a beautiful solitaire e-ring and a wedding band with diamonds (that sits flush). I wear those most of the time.

I also have a plain platinum band that I wear when I'm racing bicycles, competing in triathlons, rock climbing, rappelling, etc.

The plain platinum band definitely signifies that I'm married - for some reason a single band w/diamonds means engagement, but a single band that is plain means marriage.

The plain band was pretty inexpensive, so if I lose it in the ocean or something, is much easier to replace than my diamond wedding band. Also, even though the diamond wedding band looks best when up against my e-ring, it also looks kind of cook w/ the plain platinum band. So like I said, I have lots of options...

 

[Patty]

I like a little bit of a gap. It doesn't bother me at all. As for whether to go with a plain band or pave, I say go for both! I bought a cheap plain band ($35 for white gold)and I also have a diamond band of 3 pointers. I prefer the diamond band with my 3-stone but it's nice to have the other too.

 

[WTNLVR]

I like the no gap look and that is what I got with my "original" set. But, under normal wear, the rings twist and move and there can still be a gap and I find myself constantly re-aligning the v band to the point of the marquise stone in the e-ring. I didn''t get the rings soldered together so I can wear the band with other rings if I choose. I just got a 3 stone "upgrade" and now, like you will have to figure out what route to go. I will probably just go with a straight diamond eternity band. I guess it all depends on how the profiles match up and how much of a gap you think is too much. Good luck!

 

[ame]

Why not have the ring custom made so that any band sits next to it, or buy a precision set which is designed for that already?