Need Matron of Honor Advice Please

[somethingshiny]

I thought this would be the best place to post my query. I hope all of you brides can give me some advice.

My sis just got engaged and will be getting married at the end of August. Yay. She''s asked me to be Matron of Honor. Again, Yay. I am pregnant and due in the middle of July. Another Yay, but possibly posing a problem. (My sis does know I''m pregnant)

So, questions:

How in the heck can I get fitted for a dress?? The only thing I could think of was to get measured when I''m about 4 months preggo and assume I''d be about that size 6 weeks post partum.

Is it okay for me to try to sway her towards a dress that would offer my belly a bit of camouflage? I would never do that under other circumstances, but I think a strapless satin a-line could be catastrophic! lol.

Is this going to cause too much of a problem for her, should I decline the offer??


All of your advice and thoughts are appreciated!

 

[MonkeyPants]

congrats on the pregnancy somthingshiny! and congrats to your sister on her engagement! and congrats to being the Matron of Honor!...

I''d say that since her wedding is planned for August, she probably hasn''t made any decisions regarding the bridal party attire (I might be wrong though...) I think once you tell her about your pregnancy (in the next couple months?) she''ll be more than willing to accommodate your PP belly. I''d say sway her into choosing an empire-waisted or "belly camouflaging" dress for you. I''m sure she''d understand and I''m sure she wouldn''t want you to wear something you''re not comfortable in.

 

[somethingshiny]

MP~ thanks for the reply. My sis DOES know I''m preggo. I don''t know when the timeline is for looking at wedding attire so I wasn''t sure if or when I should try to sway her in a certain direction. I know she wouldn''t want something to be uncomfortable for me, but this is going to be a large wedding with gorgeous young women, and me PP. I don''t want to force everyone into something that is less flattering for them.

When is it normal to start looking for the bridal party attire?

 

[caribqueen]

Congrats on your pregnancy!

I think anytime is a good time to keep an eye out for a BM dress, although she may not seriously look until she selects her own wedding dress. Honestly though, odds are that she would likely involve you in the BM dress choice anyway.

There are so many options today to coordinate BM dresses. Because you''re the matron of honor, another option would be to wear the same color and fabric as the BMs, but your style be a bit different. If she''s comfortable with everyone wearing an empire or tummy hiding dress, then fine, but if not, that''s another idea you could offer up when the opportunity presents itself.

If you''re really worried about it, you could bring up these same concerns with her. For all you know, she could plan to have all the girls wear a different style - I don''t know. If you want to be apart of her day, then accept and I''m sure you guys will work it out.

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 12/11/2009 8:49:04 PM
Author: caribqueen
There are so many options today to coordinate BM dresses. Because you''re the matron of honor, another option would be to wear the same color and fabric as the BMs, but your style be a bit different. If she''s comfortable with everyone wearing an empire or tummy hiding dress, then fine, but if not, that''s another idea you could offer up when the opportunity presents itself.

This is what I was going to suggest. I think there are so many lovely options for bridal parties to be coordinated but not cookie cutter. MY BMs were so spread out and had such different personal style that I just told them get something that you like (doesn''t even have to be marketed as a BM dress) in blue and no longer than your knee. I loved the result. Perhaps your sister isn''t the kind of bride to relinquish almost all control over bridal party attire to the BMs but hopefully she will be open to everyone selecting their own dress with some parameters to follow. This way you don''t have to worry about feeling out of shape 6 weeks post partum or forcing your style onto the other BMs and she gets a coordinated bridal party.

Congrats on your pregnancy!

 

[somethingshiny]

Thanks, ladies! I do like the idea of coordinating but not matchy matchy dresses. I will likely need to wear a different dress anyway because I am plus size to begin with and the other girls are not. I was just afraid that this was going to cause her a lot of unnecessary trouble. Thanks for making it not a big deal!