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Brilliant_Rock
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Ok.. I know I am a newbie here but I just have to VENT to an unbiased party! I knew since 2004 that next year I have two weddings to attend (both of them I am in) and my brother''s graduation to attend. Since I started a new job in 2003, I have not had ANY vacation time so I have been building up the last two years...hubby and I haven''t had a real vacation in this time. So we had been planning a trip for Feb-Apr of next year, b/c the two weddings are in August/September and the graduation is in June...and this year is out. WELL, come to find out one of my good cousins is getting married and guess what the date is....MARCH 19, 2006 in Miami (where we have NO family, however all of his fiancee''s family resides in that area)...but I digress. Well, prior to looking the date on the calendar I assumed the wedding was on a Saturday and so hubby and I decided that we could kill two birds with one stone by crusing out of the Miami area the Sunday after the wedding...we found quite a few cruises leaving from the area that weekend and was deciding on one when something just told us to look on a calendar. WHHHHYY is March 19th a Sunday!!! Well I just couldn''t believe that was the actual date. So I contacted my cousin to ask him if he was sure it was the 19th and not the 18th? And he said "yes, it''s the 19th a Sunday"....well my first instinct was to ask him if he didn''t think it selfish that he planned a wedding on a Sunday when none of his family lives within a 5 hour radius of Miami (and then it is only his parents, my parents and our grandmother). The rest of our family is in VA (me and my hubby), NY and NJ..... When I planned my wedding I purposefully polled our family (which is extremely large, 12 siblings just on my mother''s side then multiply that exponentially to get cousins etc.) to see around what time frame would fit most people because family is extremely important to me. So we had a summer wedding (when kids were out of school) and we had it on a Saturday, and everyone attended my wedding. Also, because we had relatives in the area many were able to stay with the relatives that lived there. When I spoke to other family members they voiced the same concern and stated they would not be attending (which my cousin doesn''t know about). So should I say something to him? Is it terrible to not go on our vacation to spend the money and time going to his wedding (which obviously being planned without the thought of HIS side of the family)...I HATE being in this position but my hubby and REALLY need a vacation and that is the only time frame (in the next 1.5 years, after waiting 2 years already) that we had set aside to go.....HELP! Sorry for the super long vent! Maybe I''m just being selfish