hisdiamondgirl
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I''m fairly new here and although I have posted a few times, I have not yet shared my story with you guys. I will share some of it now, as I need your opinion on a recent conversation with VLFF (Very Likely Future Fiance --you will understand better later). VLFF and I have been together for approximately a year and a half, although we have known each other for more than five and previously dated for about another year and a half before we broke up realizing the timing was all wrong. We got back together after two years of being apart and everything has been wonderful ever since!
So now I consider myself a full-blown LIW as I can''t stop thinking about marrying him and spending the rest of my life with him, and looking at all of the wonderful bling bling on PS!
However, unlike most of the LIWs here, we had not spoken seriously about marriage until recently, although we have often commented on raising children, our wedding, where we would live, being old together, etc, etc... Well, we recently were at a 25 year anniversary celebration, and one convo leading to another, and all of a sudden we''re talking about IT, MARRIAGE. I cannot even remember how it began but the point is that he DID NOT say "Yes, honey, I want to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you!" Of course, that is what I wanted to hear but what he said instead was that he wouldn''t be "here" (I didn''t know how to take that -- if he meant literally "here at this party" (it was MY family''s party) or "here still with you"), if it wasn''t "very likely" that it would happen, but that he wasn''t "there" yet and that he didn''t think that I was "there" either. He said that if he were "there" he would have proposed already. I told him I understood that he wasn''t "there" yet but asked him what made him think that I wasn''t. He said that if I was, I would talk about it more often, and would basically be pushing him to do it. I explained that although I am "there" I did not want to put any pressure on him because I respect his feelings and understand what he''s been through (he was engaged once before and that ended very very badly--long story) and want to let him do things on his own time. I don''t really remember much else of the conversation --it''s funny how emotional conversations seem to get all jumbled up in my brain...I remember how I felt, not exactly what was said
He basically saw the look of disappointment on my face and said "Relax, baby, I''m just saying we still have some growing to do together," to which I managed a laugh and told him that I hope he is not waiting for things to be perfect because they never will be. He also laughed and said "Don''t worry, I''m smarter than that." So the whole thing ended on a pretty light hearted note and everything is still normal between the two of us (I thought maybe the convo would make things a little akward but it didn''t).
Anyway, that''s all for now folks! I was a little depressed during and after the conversation but I guess it wasn''t really all that bad, at least he didn''t say he never wanted to marry me!!!
Thanks for reading this and I appreciate any feedback you wise ladies may have!
So now I consider myself a full-blown LIW as I can''t stop thinking about marrying him and spending the rest of my life with him, and looking at all of the wonderful bling bling on PS!
However, unlike most of the LIWs here, we had not spoken seriously about marriage until recently, although we have often commented on raising children, our wedding, where we would live, being old together, etc, etc... Well, we recently were at a 25 year anniversary celebration, and one convo leading to another, and all of a sudden we''re talking about IT, MARRIAGE. I cannot even remember how it began but the point is that he DID NOT say "Yes, honey, I want to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you!" Of course, that is what I wanted to hear but what he said instead was that he wouldn''t be "here" (I didn''t know how to take that -- if he meant literally "here at this party" (it was MY family''s party) or "here still with you"), if it wasn''t "very likely" that it would happen, but that he wasn''t "there" yet and that he didn''t think that I was "there" either. He said that if he were "there" he would have proposed already. I told him I understood that he wasn''t "there" yet but asked him what made him think that I wasn''t. He said that if I was, I would talk about it more often, and would basically be pushing him to do it. I explained that although I am "there" I did not want to put any pressure on him because I respect his feelings and understand what he''s been through (he was engaged once before and that ended very very badly--long story) and want to let him do things on his own time. I don''t really remember much else of the conversation --it''s funny how emotional conversations seem to get all jumbled up in my brain...I remember how I felt, not exactly what was said
Anyway, that''s all for now folks! I was a little depressed during and after the conversation but I guess it wasn''t really all that bad, at least he didn''t say he never wanted to marry me!!!
Thanks for reading this and I appreciate any feedback you wise ladies may have!