New LIW!

[Bliss]

Hi, it''s nice to find a safe outlet for my giddiness and anticipation.

I''m a LIW again, after having been engaged to an amazing guy. He was my first boyfriend and college sweetheart. We got engaged but it didn''t work out. This was years ago -- we were each others'' first true loves and partners. Late bloomers, I guess!

Well, fastforward to today... And for the past couple of years, because we had dated throughout college and gotten to know each others'' families well, he has always stayed in touch with my family. Even when we were apart, he always called my mom to see how I was doing every few months and asked if she needed anything. (Sweet, right?)

Well, now we live in the same city and we''ve been talking again. It''s been really amazing. He is my best friend. It''s no longer that rollercoaster "you must fulfill all of my needs" kind of immature "love." It''s more of a mature, we are strong individuals who can support each other and share our lives together feeling. It''s incredible how time apart and years and experience can change a person.

And I''m so happy that the deep love is still there. It''s a love that''s like a deep ocean of trust and caring. We also laugh a lot! It''s like we''re best friends and no time has passed. I feel so blessed to have him in my life again. And I feel very lucky that he believed in us all this time.

The interesting thing is, I still have the ring. It''s been sitting in the bank for the past few years. I have tried to give it back but his response has always been -- no, it''s yours. It was a gift. Sell it if you ever need the cash, but I gave it to you and it''s yours forever.

This time, we''re both willing to work things out and be supportive as mature adults. We plan to go to couples therapy together each step of the way to make sure we can communicate well.

We''re taking things very slowly to make sure that it''s right.

So anyway, I''m happy!

 

[sunnyd]

Welcome Bliss!

That''s a nice story, so you guys are planning on getting back together for the long haul?

 

[Bliss]

Thank you, sunnyd!

We're taking it one day at a time! I know I want to take things slowly, and we both agree that to do this right (long term & marriage) we shouldn't blow it this time around. So we're going to go slowly.

As for how slowly, who knows? I don't feel rushed since we're both heading toward the same goal, and that's being each others' best friends, lovers and partners for life. I'm so nervous sometimes because it means so much.

There's a part of me that wants to jump right back to where we were, but that's hugely overshadowed by the other mature side of me that knows what's best for us both. And we're on the same page on that.

Love isn't a perfect science. But we're going to do our best, flaws, beauty, humor and all!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Welcome to PS

I think it''s great that you two have come back together after all this time and that you have such a mature outlook on how to move forward together!!

 

[CNOS128]

Aw, I love that story! Maybe you two were meant to be together!

I think you''re a very smart woman to take things slowly, in spite of wanting to rush forward. You''re kind of my hero!

Let us know how it goes!!









BigT

 

[edotf104]

Bliss-- what a swoon-worthy love story! It sounds like you''ve got a great thing going, and when you achieve your goals as a couple, I''m sure it''ll be amazing... I wish you nothing but happiness

 

[luckynumber7]

welcome!

that''s such a sweet story. it seems like you guys are really meant to be.

best wishes to you both and keep us posted.

 

[Dani511]

Aww, Bliss, what a sweet story! I hope it all continues to work out for you both! It sure sounds like it will!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Bliss ... Welcome to PS!

Thank you for sharing your story! It is so touching. I wish you both the best!

 

[Bia]

I just loved your story Bliss! I am such a romantic at heart and to hear that people gravitate towards one another again after years apart just warms my heart. You are obvioulsy together because the love was too strong to dissipate. The best of everything should come your way. Congrats!

Don''t forget to tell us when the engagement happens!

 

[Bliss]

Thank you for the kind words, everyone!!!

We are doing so well and it is really lovely. Sometimes it's hard to take things slowly because we're just so close and it comes so naturally but we're really taking our time and focusing on our friendship. So far, we've only kissed and held hands at the most, so it's just very very sweet and trusting. We're focusing on talking and getting to know each other as well as we can.

That said... it's tough because I feel like inside, I feel as though I already know. And I know he knows! It's so funny because we feel the same way -- we're like, "HOORAY! WE'RE TOGETHER AGAIN! LET'S JUST DO IT!" Then again, it means so much we want to be responsible and anyway... what's the rush?

I just did my taxes and when I was telling him about my tax attorney and the hours we went over all the details & exemptions...he said, "Hopefully by next April, I'll be the one filing our taxes." (I was enthusiastic until I realized I still have to itemize my expenses and tally up interest earned and blah blah blah ANYWAY so it's still the same about of work. Drats!!!) Hahahaha.

It's just very comforting and I feel as though I can really trust him. And he's so good FOR me, and not just to me. I want to be good for him, too. So that's the update! I was very good. We walked by a DeBeers store in my neighborhood in Manhattan and he gave me a look. Hahahaha. He knows diamonds and jewelry are my hobby. I looked, but we didn't go inside!

He winked, though. And said, "Maybe soon I'll have to make a trip to your bank to pick up the ring." But then we laughed, too. We both feel excited but also responsible. We want to take it one step at a time so we don't rush and end up in a tumble! We're more mature now -- both barely into our 30s.

We've also lived life to the fullest and had many experiences both in career and in life. So we feel confident in making life decisions. For me, I've really been living my career to its fullest and we're both proud of our achievements. We're ready to settle down and share the next phase together.

I guess I'm not a puppy anymore! That's good because there are no more "accidents," codependency, outrageous insecurities and unrealistic expectations. We both know how to communicate, have the same priorities and most importantly, have the strength to deal with issues together in a mature way. I feel like a mellow labrador retriever or something! Hahahaha!

We still have outrageous fun, just mainly in each other. We laugh in line at the grocery store. We have fun sitting on the couch. We hold hands and feel at peace. Man, do I sound like an old timer or what?????

It's so funny.

I'm sending all of you my love and best wishes!!!

FAIRY DUST TO ALL!!!!

 

[Bliss]

Update:

We''re doing well... We''re cautiously giddy (can it be?

) about everything. We''re talking about starting things on the right foot by checking in with a wonderful therapist for counseling so we make sure our issues are out in the open, we''re communicating and that we''re starting off on solid footing. We don''t want to leave anything to chance and blow it this time around!

This weekend, we passed by a jewelry store and a beautiful setting caught my eye so we went in to try it on. It looks like a Leon design -- micropave halo with diamonds down the shank. Just so pretty. He took the card and surprisingly, he liked it as well. Initially, he didn''t think halos would look good on my hand (he likes the classic solitaire) but once I had it on, he was wowed.

I love how he takes an interest in jewelry because I like it so much. When I ask him which earrings I should wear with a certain outfit, he actually cocks his head to the side and considers it seriously. SO CUTE. (Or if he''s pretending, it''s very convincing! Ha ha.) He may be pretending, in which case he is a very smart man!

We''re thinking of getting engaged in the next 6 months or so. We''ve been talking about a wedding in the summer of ''09. Very small wedding with just close friends and family. Am I the only one who isn''t into all the hoopla? I can''t believe I''m a girl sometimes!

FAIRY DUST TO YOU ALL.

 

[Just_Me]

What a sweet story!

And no you are not the only one, not into all the wedding stuff. FF and I would like to elope in Vegas or something and then have a bbq or something with our close family and friends after a honeymoon. I think everyone is different. Just do what works for you and your ff!

 

[Bliss]

You ladies are WONDERFUL!!!!

Muuuuah!!!!

Good luck to everyone -- life luck and otherwise!!!!