hipkat23
Rough_Rock
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- May 20, 2008
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Hi everyone! I am so glad I found this forum - now I KNOW I''m not alone in my waiting. I apologize in advance for the length of my rant.
I''m 31 and have been with my boyfriend (he just turned 36) for almost 3.5 years. We''ve been living together for about a year and a half. He is, without a doubt, the perfect guy for me. This has been the *easiest* relationship I''ve ever been in. Not to say that there aren''t normal life stresses and occasional disagreements, etc., but I have never doubted how he feels about me and feel so, so lucky to have found him. I really feel like we''ve got an amazing partnership.
We''ve been talking about marriage for the past couple years. He''s always been very straightforward about wanting to marry me and have kids and grow old together, etc. I definitely feel like the communication is there. He brings up our future willingly and independently and he shows me continuously that he loves me.
I am ready, SO READY, to marry this man.
We have a time-frame, see, that we both agreed upon. We''d like to get married next March because we''re planning on moving away from Los Angeles in summer of ''09. He *knows* how long it takes to plan a wedding, we''ve talked about it, both our families know it''s going to happen next spring, etc. He actually doesn''t have to buy a ring because I am inheriting my mother''s engagement ring (she passed away when I was 19). Simple right? All he has to do is call my dad (they have a great relationship), get the ring and ask me.
I am getting beyond impatient. It''s mid-May now and I already have less than a year to plan. I felt like I was getting really naggy about it, so I told him I''d shut up about it if he could promise that he would stick within our discussed time-frame and he said, "yes, of course."
So, agreed upon time-frame, easy access to a beautiful ring, the woman he wants to marry - WHY HASN''T HE ASKED ME?!
I really don''t want to bug him about it anymore, nor do I want to give him an ultimatum. I want to have faith in his promise, but many years of being disappointed by men (prior to meeting him) have left me more than a little fragile. He knows I don''t need a big, fancy proposal as long as it''s sincere.
I just feel so...powerless, I guess?
I''m 31 and have been with my boyfriend (he just turned 36) for almost 3.5 years. We''ve been living together for about a year and a half. He is, without a doubt, the perfect guy for me. This has been the *easiest* relationship I''ve ever been in. Not to say that there aren''t normal life stresses and occasional disagreements, etc., but I have never doubted how he feels about me and feel so, so lucky to have found him. I really feel like we''ve got an amazing partnership.
We''ve been talking about marriage for the past couple years. He''s always been very straightforward about wanting to marry me and have kids and grow old together, etc. I definitely feel like the communication is there. He brings up our future willingly and independently and he shows me continuously that he loves me.
I am ready, SO READY, to marry this man.
We have a time-frame, see, that we both agreed upon. We''d like to get married next March because we''re planning on moving away from Los Angeles in summer of ''09. He *knows* how long it takes to plan a wedding, we''ve talked about it, both our families know it''s going to happen next spring, etc. He actually doesn''t have to buy a ring because I am inheriting my mother''s engagement ring (she passed away when I was 19). Simple right? All he has to do is call my dad (they have a great relationship), get the ring and ask me.
I am getting beyond impatient. It''s mid-May now and I already have less than a year to plan. I felt like I was getting really naggy about it, so I told him I''d shut up about it if he could promise that he would stick within our discussed time-frame and he said, "yes, of course."
So, agreed upon time-frame, easy access to a beautiful ring, the woman he wants to marry - WHY HASN''T HE ASKED ME?!
I really don''t want to bug him about it anymore, nor do I want to give him an ultimatum. I want to have faith in his promise, but many years of being disappointed by men (prior to meeting him) have left me more than a little fragile. He knows I don''t need a big, fancy proposal as long as it''s sincere.
I just feel so...powerless, I guess?
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