New LIW :-)

[blondebunny]

Hi everyone! As everyone else, I have been a lurker for a while, and just started posting a few days ago, but thought I would give a brief history.

Me and my BF started dating back in May of 06, and about a month into just dating (not bf or gf) my brother committed suicide. This was totally unexpected, as my brother was supposed to be coming to visit me the next day so i could get him enrolled in college and what not, and obviously I was totally devastated, and he came to my rescue. I thought he would of left me since we werent really officially bf and gf, but he stayed by my side through thick and thin, and we made it official a few days after...I dont know where I would be without him today.

Anyways, I have dated many different types of guys (the crazy stalker who was abusive, to the obsessive ones), and knew from about the second month we were dating he was the one, and he has felt the same way.

We have literally been through EVERYTHING in our relationship in a short 2 years.

We both just graduated in May from college, and are both going back to get our Masters, and then he is going to go to medical school. Well our original plans have changed, he was going to go to medicial school in Fall 09, but now its probably going to Fall 2010. If we went in 09, I told him that I''d prefer we were married since I was going to have to move away from my family, and I only felt it was fair that we were married..its a security thing for me. But the more thinking about it, I dont know if either of us would have been ready. So now we have pushed it back until Fall 2010, so we have more time for me to finish my Masters and for him to just take his time, and for our relationship to not have to be so rushed into marriage.

We recently went ring shopping !! What a disaster that started to be. We both have VERY different tastes. I like sparklely stuff, and he like the more simple stuff. I found a ring I thought was perfect, and was trying to talk to him, and I guess it seemed I got a little to pushy, but it was really just excitement. Well I decided to just let it go because ultimately it is HIS decision as to what ring he wants to get me and when he wants to give it to me, I just politely told him before this december would be fantastic (and he smiled ). BUT finally we found a ring that we BOTH agreed upon, and it was actually amazing, bcuz before settings we liked were kind of pricey but we found a great one from jared''s in platinum, for an AMAZING price, with sparkles! And by sparkles I mean diamonds

Anyways this is long, BUT our 2 years is on Sunday, and I wish I would get a ring then, but he says since we just bought a new bed, and both his aunt a watch, its a no go So im not getting my hopes up or anything!

Thanks for listening!

OH and PS>>> I am very crafty, and I have great proposal ideas, so if anyone needs one just let me know, bcuz i think of all these great ones I''d love happen to me and I tell FF and he says well i cant use it lol ...soo blah...

 

[ash313]

Welcome!

I am brand new, too, and it''s fun to post instead of lurk!

I, too, am in grad school and so is my FF. We have been juggling the relationship with insane workloads and part-time jobs - whew! So I know how crazy this time can be

Glad you''re here, looking forward to the excited wait together!

 

[Izzy03]

This site has been a lifesaver for many women who are obsessing about engagements. It has kept me sane! WELCOME!

 

[blondebunny]

Yes it definitely is hard. We have been doing it for 2 years now, but we have been living together, so that really helped. I always had a full time job then modeled part time..and went to school...and he was a micro and molecular bio major...so he was SUPER busy..But living together def helped!!! Im sure we will make it through grad school together...hehehe

Have yall been ring shopping??

 

[Independent Gal]

BlondeBunny, you two sound like a nice couple! Now please refer your guy to Pricescope so that he can learn about diamonds before he goes and blows a lot of money on sub-par stone. Jared's sells a lot of crappy, crappy diamonds to unsuspecting consumers, and although he can get a good stone there too, he really has to know what he's doing so he doesn't get taken for a ride. It happens soooo often. Those chain stores are kind of notorious. You can often get far better quality for a better price if you know what you are doing.

That is the primary purpose of PS - to educate consumers about diamonds so that they don't get ripped off, and this LIW thing is sort of secondary. So I highly recommend you tell that boy to get on here and learn everything he can so that he doesn't get ripped off at Jared's.

If he wants to go to medical school, he's probably into science and mathematics, and that's what diamonds are all about too, so hopefully, he'll enjoy it.

 

[Bia]

The ring may be coming your way sooner than you think. Just enjoy the ride and we''ll continue to send dust your way.

BTW: Welcome!!!

 

[blondebunny]

Thanks everyone!!
Independent Gal- Ya...we first started looking not this past monday but the monday before...and we really only had an idea of what to look for in diamonds...We first found a ring at Gordons that he liked...we wrote down the specs and what not, then continued on our journey...

After looking, we came home, I had known about PS before we went out, and knew I could look here for info, and that is EXACTLY what we have been doing, we only want to get the setting from them...Not the diamond..We learned all about clarity and color...and most important which i think besides though is symmetry...bcuz some said they were huge, but looked soo tiny, and i researched on PS and found out why...We are trying to decide what to do what a diamond, part of him wants to purchase from jared just because of their warranty, but then I researched getting insurance, since they recommend u do that anyways, and that the insurance would cover anything that happened to the diamond, and that made him feel better, I just know he is soooo warry about purchasing online. I do it ALL the time, but he doesnt trust anything lol..but I found some places online from PS and told him they will send the diamond to appraisers and ucan do see it and what not, and that made him feel better, so I think that is what we are going to do..??

I also have an old antique ring from my mom and real dads second engagement (dont ask) lol and well I went and got it check they said it was a good clarity, and let us look in it, I didnt see any inclusions but he said it was maybe a SI1 or so?, but I have to take it out of the setting to see if it could go in the new setting for my ering, but I dunno, Id rather purchase a new stone...hehehe

 

[choro72]

Welcome!

You sound really nice

I had a similar experience with the proposal...I read a whole bunch of neat proposal stories here and I told all of them to FI. After he proposed, he told me that he was feeling pressured because I will tell him all these neat stories but he couldn''t use them anymore.

 

[blondebunny]

hahaha ya I was trying to be cute so I went on his computer and saved the proposals forum to his bookmark toolbar so everyday when he got on he would see it hahaha

 

[Independent Gal]

BB, that''s great that you''re doing research! The most important aspect of the beauty of a diamond is the CUT, not just the symmetry. The cut refers to the proportions and angles of the stone. If the angles are off, light likes out making the stone look dull and dead. You''re right that a badly cut stone (specifically, one that''s cut too deep) can "face up" much small than its carat weight too. There is actually a calculator on here (the HCA) where your guy can plug in the stats on the stone (only GIA and AGS grading is trustworthy!) and it will estimate how well the stone will perform (i.e., how knock-out gorgeous and sparkly it will be).

A well-cut stone with all the right proportions also looks bigger because it reflects light out of the whole face of the stone, whereas badly cut stones are often dull around the edges, making them look smaller.

They also look whiter, so you can drop a colour grade or two.

So keep reading and learning! And tell your guy that most of the reputable on-line dealers have a 30 day, no questions asked return policy too, so he can get the stone appraised, have a look at it, etc before making any final decision. I''ve bought tonnes of gems and a diamond or two online, and once you know what you''re doing, it really makes sense.

 

[Dreamgirl]

A big PS welcome to you!!!!

 

[HeadOverHeels4James]

Hey girlie! Welcome to our family!