New take on the $ dance

[robbie3982]

I went to my friend''s wedding this weekend and thought this was something you guys might be interested in. They did the dollar dance, but all the money went to a charity that they''d selected. I thought it was a nice spin on it.

 

[luckystar112]

My brother did that at his wedding. It was fun!

 

[CrownJewel]

What is a dollar dance?

 

[robbie3982]

It''s when you pay a dollar to dance with the bride and/or groom. You pay your dollar, take a shot and dance. Usually the money goes to the bride and groom. I believe it''s a Polish tradition, but I could be wrong. As far as I know neither the bride nor groom at this wedding is of Polish ancestry.

 

[CrownJewel]

Cute idea!

 

[aljdewey]

I'm not sure I'd say it's new; several weddings I went to 10-12 years ago did this. I know that it may still be new to some here, though.

While I agree that it's a nice gesture to donate to charity, I still personally feel like the premise of a $$ dance is tacky. I know I'll likely be in the minority in this, but I'm not a fan of asking guests for money.....especially when they've already given of their time to celebrate and most often a wedding gift too.

I'd have no problem with the concept of saying "we feel blessed to have everything we need, so we'd appreciate donations to our favorite charity XYZ in lieu of a wedding gift".

There are enough other events that can be turned into fundraising events; I don't think a wedding should be one of them. Just my opinion.

 

[zoebartlett]

I can see why a couple would think that this could be a good idea. Honestly though, I''m not a fan of the dollar dances, even if the money''s going to charity. It''s still asking people to give more money to something that they probably hadn''t planned on. I understand that they don''t have to participate if they don''t want to but still...

I think if guests want to donate to charity, have it be in lieu of the couple''s gift. I''m with Aljdewey on this one...leave the donations out of a wedding.

BTW, Robbie, I''ve never heard of doing a shot before dancing. I think if people do dance with the bride and/or groom during a dollar dance, they tend to give way more than $1.

 

[KimberlyH]

Date: 11/26/2007 4:52:30 PM
Author: aljdewey
I''m not sure I''d say it''s new; several weddings I went to 10-12 years ago did this. I know that it may still be new to some here, though.

While I agree that it''s a nice gesture to donate to charity, I still personally feel like the premise of a $$ dance is tacky. I know I''ll likely be in the minority in this, but I''m not a fan of asking guests for money.....especially when they''ve already given of their time to celebrate and most often a wedding gift too.

I''d have no problem with the concept of saying ''we feel blessed to have everything we need, so we''d appreciate donations to our favorite charity XYZ in lieu of a wedding gift''.

There are enough other events that can be turned into fundraising events; I don''t think a wedding should be one of them. Just my opinion.

Yup, yup, and yup.

We had a "no gifts" wedding and when people pushed, which they did, we told them if they wanted to do something they could make a donation to one of our favorite charities or theirs, but we only shared with those who pushed, everyone else just heard "no gifts."

 

[robbie3982]

Date: 11/26/2007 9:19:49 PM
Author: KimberlyH

Date: 11/26/2007 4:52:30 PM
Author: aljdewey
I''m not sure I''d say it''s new; several weddings I went to 10-12 years ago did this. I know that it may still be new to some here, though.

While I agree that it''s a nice gesture to donate to charity, I still personally feel like the premise of a $$ dance is tacky. I know I''ll likely be in the minority in this, but I''m not a fan of asking guests for money.....especially when they''ve already given of their time to celebrate and most often a wedding gift too.

I''d have no problem with the concept of saying ''we feel blessed to have everything we need, so we''d appreciate donations to our favorite charity XYZ in lieu of a wedding gift''.

There are enough other events that can be turned into fundraising events; I don''t think a wedding should be one of them. Just my opinion.

Yup, yup, and yup.

We had a ''no gifts'' wedding and when people pushed, which they did, we told them if they wanted to do something they could make a donation to one of our favorite charities or theirs, but we only shared with those who pushed, everyone else just heard ''no gifts.''

I''m really not a fan of the dollar dance either and we didn''t have it at our wedding. I just thought that if someone was dead set on having one for the tradition of it or something this could be a nicer (maybe?) way of doing it.

 

[KimberlyH]

Date: 11/26/2007 10:17:11 PM
Author: robbie3982

Date: 11/26/2007 9:19:49 PM
Author: KimberlyH

Date: 11/26/2007 4:52:30 PM
Author: aljdewey
I''m not sure I''d say it''s new; several weddings I went to 10-12 years ago did this. I know that it may still be new to some here, though.

While I agree that it''s a nice gesture to donate to charity, I still personally feel like the premise of a $$ dance is tacky. I know I''ll likely be in the minority in this, but I''m not a fan of asking guests for money.....especially when they''ve already given of their time to celebrate and most often a wedding gift too.

I''d have no problem with the concept of saying ''we feel blessed to have everything we need, so we''d appreciate donations to our favorite charity XYZ in lieu of a wedding gift''.

There are enough other events that can be turned into fundraising events; I don''t think a wedding should be one of them. Just my opinion.

Yup, yup, and yup.

We had a ''no gifts'' wedding and when people pushed, which they did, we told them if they wanted to do something they could make a donation to one of our favorite charities or theirs, but we only shared with those who pushed, everyone else just heard ''no gifts.''

I''m really not a fan of the dollar dance either and we didn''t have it at our wedding. I just thought that if someone was dead set on having one for the tradition of it or something this could be a nicer (maybe?) way of doing it.

Robbie, it is definitely easier to stomach in the context you''ve described, it just rubs me the wrong way all around. This is, of course, all about personal preference, what some might find tacky others will consider endearing.