Nicknames/full names?

[janinegirly]

another random thread from me!

my FI are both called by shortened versions of our names. My full name is much nicer sounding, and alot of family know me by it, but its'' more formal. So each time I have to write down what names to be used for us on our wedding day, I''m kind of torn. Do I use our nice, formal, full names, or our shortened nicknames. I wonder if guests will see our full names and say "who is that?"
In our case these would be used on our programs, on menus, as the band refers to us,etc. Right now thinking of just using a mixture of both..with nicknames on casual things like favors and called out by the band.

 

[Jaders731]

I think you should use your full names for your ceremony.. the formal stuff like invites and programs..

But for the reception (you know party!!!) I would use the shortened names.. if that is what you like.

Sounds like that would work out well.

HTH!

 

[shigidigi]

I agree completely with Jaders. Use your formal names for the formal portion and then just be yourselves for the reception!

 

[luckystar112]

We''re DEFINITELY going with our full names. If we don''t, it will say "Mandy and Andy" on everything!!!!

 

[ellaila]

Well, we did a mix. We used formal on our invites, but during the ceremony we used both -- "I, formal name, take you, formal name" but then later we had a line that said, "I am a better person because of you, nickname" because that one seemed too personal and heartfelt to not use the names that we actually call each other, you know? Also, the officiant used our nicknames when talking about us -- how we met, etc. To me, that just felt more right. I NEVER call hubby by his formal name -- no one in his family does; his nickname is actually for his middle name not his first name, so it's entirely different (not something like Robert/Rob) -- so I'd have felt like I was marrying a different person if everyone were calling him that during the wedding!

That said, on invitations, menus -- anything written out -- I prefer formal names for a wedding. Just seems more elegant to me!

 

[Pandora II]

We''re using formal names, although FI would rather be ''Andy'' - although his family all call him ''Andrew'', but it does seem a bit odd to me that I will marry an Andrew not an Andy. We will use Andy on the tags on our favours though.

I''m having my stationery printed with ''Mrs Andrew HisLastName'' across the top. I was going to go with ''Mrs. Andy HisLastName'' and my mother thought that was fine (and she''s a stickler for these things).

Then I told a male friend of mine and he nearly had a heart attack over it and said I would be betraying my own principles - I''m rather OCD about Correct Form.

 

[zoebartlett]

I like using a mix of formal, full names, as well as the more casual nicknames. I think we''re going to use my FI''s full name on the invitations and on the save the dates but during the ceremony, we''ll use his nickname. Unless we change our minds.

 

[basil]

Formal names.

Fiance doesn''t really have a nickname anyway, cause his real name is only 3 letters. I have a shortened name that people call me, but I hate it when people write it out officially. It''s sort of similar to Jen and Jennifer - it''s obvious what it''s a nickname for, so people won''t be confused.

 

[BlueKeet]

This dilema drives me crazy too. My FI and I have the same nickname so it is even worse. Neither of us ever go by our full names. I just finished the save the dates today and used our nicknames - luckily the spelling differs by one letter. It would have been werid to put our full names on the magnet with our picture when many people don't even know what our full names are. I was thinking of using our full first & middle names on the invitations though. I think the ceremony will end up being mixed as I can't imagine saying personal info to him using a name I have never called him.