No longer a LIW

[zilaras]

After careful consideration- I have decided that I wish to be taken off the LIW list. I love it here and I will still be reading the posts but at the moment I don''t think being engaged is anything that is going to happen in the forceable future. I have a lot I have to think about and consider about what I want in my islife. Right now....it''s painful to see my name on the list - because it is beginning to become painfullly clear to me that my SO may never want to propose to me. I will certainly be lurking...but for now...I don''t think my situation renders a LIW status.

 

[honey22]

Hi zilaras. I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling that way. I totally respect your decision to not want to see your name on the list. I can absolutely relate to what you are feeling. I was once in your situation too, and just thinking about being engaged or someone asking when it was going to happen was very hard for me, knowing we weren''t at that point in our relationship.

I really hope you guys can work things through. Do hang around though, and keep posting! Hopefully we will see your name back on the list sometime soon. Good luck!

* Hugs *

 

[bee*]

sorry to hear that zilaras. Do what''s right for you in the relationship and I hope that things work out for you. Do keep posting though!

 

[Miscka]

I hope you work out what is best for you. Good luck, and I hope you will stick around.

 

[emilina22]

im soo sorry to hear that, i hope that things turn out for the best for you <3

 

[designchica]

Hey Zilras,

I feel for you. I''ve been in your shoes. It wasn''t that long ago that I realized a proposal would be further away than I wanted. Last summer I started looking for a proposal and my man made it clear that was a ways out. Even back in Sept., he was still saying that it could be years away but we will be getting engaged in the next couple of months so things do have a way of changing over time. Ask yourself if you are willing to give it time and risk that your man comes around. It was definitely stressful taking that risk on my part, but I''m so glad I did!!

 

[nessvan12]

Zilaras,

I hope things work out for you. Only you know whats best for you. Good luck to you but please stick around!

 

[ladypirate]

I''m really sorry, Zilaras. I hope you do stick around, even if you take your name off the list!

 

[Mediterranean]

Hey there....

I''m sorry things aren''t going according to plan....but I''m really glad that you have decided to take the wheel and steer yourself. Congratulations on taking control over your own situation and refusing to consider yourself a LIW without any real solid steps forward from your guy. It''s actually a really good first step to consciously acknowledge the fact that you and he may not be on the same page (for NOW...things can change, so don''t lose hope).

Aside from the fact that you are smart for seeing things as they actually are, you can take this time to decide whether this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. He may be deciding whether/when he wants to propose, but he has a lot to live up to because YOU, my dear, are going to be deciding if he''s good enough for you. You need the right guy by your side, because you have big plans for your future. Don''t let this little speedbump in the road of life get you down. Use it as a chance to acknowledge your power, and take stock of things that are important to you.

And I wish you''d consider continuing to post. I''ve been lurking a while, and I think you make really great, valuable contributions to the board (just my humble opinion). If you do decide it''s to painful to hang around, know that you will be missed....

Good luck, and please be proud of yourself for facing the truth of things with grace and strength!!!!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I''m so sorry you are feeling this way. I know how you feel as I removed my name from the list awhile ago for reasons which are similar to yours.

Sometimes it''s easier to just let things happen and try to minimize all the things that act as constant reminders of what you do not have yet. I know I occasionally I have to take breaks from PS in general because I find myself getting LIWitis.

I hope things work out for you and you are able to find the path that you truly want to be on in life.

 

[LegacyGirl]

Ahhh I''m sorry girl! I hope things work out the best way they can for you. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

 

[choro72]

I''m sorry to hear this..I really hope you two can works things out.