No name for +1 on RSVP...

[charbie]

So FI and I decided to go ahead and allow people to bring guests to our wedding. Reason being, we have larger families who can only get together 1-2 times/year, so we are not totally aware who has a significant other who should have been included. We''ve planned/budgeted for it, so what''s done is done...a bit regretted on my end, but whatever. Hopefully people are nice enough to only bring dates if they are a couple, seeing as most guests are out of town, so their date would have to stay in a hotel with them...you get the idea.

Enter FI''s cousin. He''s listed as single on facebook, last time we saw him had no mention of a girlfriend. RSVP''s for 2. Ok, no problem. But he didn''t include a second name, just wrote "2" on the line. Is it rude if I send him a little message asking him the name of his guest? Part of me is fishing to find out if he even has a date picked out at this point, but the other part of me refuses to put "Guest of xxxxx" on a place card. I was a "Guest of xxxxx" at a wedding once, and felt so out of place and impersonal. So I won''t do it.

If he respond with a name, wonderful. If he doesn''t, or says he doesn''t know, any suggestions on what to do? I have a feeling I may run into this situation with a few of our guests.

 

[neatfreak]

No it''s not rude at all to call "for the placecards". But be prepared for him saying that he doesn''t know yet...

 

[soontowed]

I am doing the same thing and had not thought about this. So here is what I would do: ask for the name. If he says he doesn''t even know who he is bringinging you could always say "I''ll put you down as one for now but if you have someone you want to bring when the wedding comes, just let me know."

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

Date: 8/11/2009 12:58:58 AM
Author: soontowed
I am doing the same thing and had not thought about this. So here is what I would do: ask for the name. If he says he doesn''t even know who he is bringinging you could always say ''I''ll put you down as one for now but if you have someone you want to bring when the wedding comes, just let me know.''

ditto to this. good idea.

 

[Dannielle]

Date: 8/11/2009 1:13:15 AM
Author: hawaiianorangetree

Date: 8/11/2009 12:58:58 AM
Author: soontowed
I am doing the same thing and had not thought about this. So here is what I would do: ask for the name. If he says he doesn''t even know who he is bringinging you could always say ''I''ll put you down as one for now but if you have someone you want to bring when the wedding comes, just let me know.''

ditto to this. good idea.

Thritto.

Very tactful

 

[honey22]

Date: 8/11/2009 12:58:35 AM
Author: neatfreak
No it''s not rude at all to call ''for the placecards''. But be prepared for him saying that he doesn''t know yet...

Ditto. Of course it''s not rude, you do have to make placecards, a phonecall would be totally appropriate here.

 

[emeraldlover1]

I had a to call a few people that were invited with dates and responded with just the first name of the person. No one thought it was rude that I called. We have very few single people attending our wedding and we invited them all with guests because we wanted them to have a good time. What is weird is that the single guys decided not to bring dates but the single girls did. I can''t wait to see what happens because there are about 5 or 6 single guys going to be at our reception and no single girls. Well, single with dates I should say.

 

[Diva0413]

Date: 8/11/2009 8:54:03 AM
Author: emeraldlover1
I had a to call a few people that were invited with dates and responded with just the first name of the person. No one thought it was rude that I called. We have very few single people attending our wedding and we invited them all with guests because we wanted them to have a good time. What is weird is that the single guys decided not to bring dates but the single girls did. I can''t wait to see what happens because there are about 5 or 6 single guys going to be at our reception and no single girls. Well, single with dates I should say.

Maybe the single guys that aren''t bringing a date with hopes they''ll meet a girl there? Just a thought. I think the single guys invited to my wedding are doing the same thing... This should be interesting.

 

[tlh]

Date: 8/11/2009 1:47:58 AM
Author: Dannielle

Date: 8/11/2009 1:13:15 AM
Author: hawaiianorangetree

Date: 8/11/2009 12:58:58 AM
Author: soontowed
I am doing the same thing and had not thought about this. So here is what I would do: ask for the name. If he says he doesn''t even know who he is bringinging you could always say ''I''ll put you down as one for now but if you have someone you want to bring when the wedding comes, just let me know.''

ditto to this. good idea.

Thritto.

Very tactful

+1

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I''d call and ask the name - not unusual to do at all - in fact, I think it is very nice that you are even asking.

I also did not like when I was invited to weddings and my placecard read "and guest". It feels completely impersonal, almost as if the "and guest" status should automatically come with a name tag to wear at the wedding

 

[ficklefaye]

wow, that''s great of you guys to include +1s. i would definitely call up FI''s cousin to find out, you need the name for placecards, so i don''t think it''s inappropriate to ask