Ok.....so you think your dress hunt is going less than smooth??!!

[aljdewey]

It could be worse......

http://www.etiquettehell.com/weddingetiquette/humor/etitanic.htm

 

[ChargerGrrl]

OH MY!!
Talk about a dress disaster, and having to do "damage control" only hours before the wedding.

Great read!

 

[sumbride]

I love that story... how awful are those dresses?!?! OMG!!!

but I don''t agree with the mom when she said she''d "pick who would be in the wedding based on how the dresses fit..." I can kind of see where she''s coming from, but ugh, how mean would it have been to say "that looks horrible on you, you''re no longer a bridesmaid!!!"

 

[Selkie]

Ouch...I think I ran across that story before. I know I spent a good hour once gaping in horror at some of the other stories on the etiquettehell site. Yikes!

 

[Mara]

sumbride, i took it to mean if you can't fit into the dress or it's falling off you, they didn't have the time or skills to 'fix it up'. i would have totally understood. its not like you can force a dress to fit. they are so lucky that all the dresses fit the girls!! the dresses in the pictures look fine (actually probably better than anything that a random seamstress could have made, the titanic dinner dress does not look like an amateur's project!!) to me. what drama. haha.

 

[sumbride]

Date: 8/22/2006 1:01:40 PM
Author: Mara
sumbride, i took it to mean if you can''t fit into the dress or it''s falling off you, they didn''t have the time or skills to ''fix it up''. i would have totally understood. its not like you can force a dress to fit. they are so lucky that all the dresses fit the girls!! the dresses in the pictures look fine (actually probably better than anything that a random seamstress could have made, the titanic dinner dress does not look like an amateur''s project!!) to me. what drama. haha.

that sounds more reasonable... I was just thinking maybe they could have pulled a black dress out of their own closets or something.

it''s a gorgeous dress but so NOT an amateur project! It''s couture all the way!

 

[codex57]

Whoah. But a definite and great example of allowing as much time as possible cuz disasters WILL happen. And, of course, the most imporant thing: be flexible. I''m glad they recognized (or were forced to recognize) the fact that the dresses didn''t match up with the vests perfectly and didn''t just freeze up and start crying or point fingers. We ran into BM dress problems too in that we couldn''t find matching ones. We had 4 BMs and 2 had one style, and 2 had another. In the end, the guests had no idea. There''s no one way to do a wedding so the guests will have no idea if something was planned or not. My cousin had 2 theme colors for his wedding so having BM dresses that don''t match in color with the GM vests could be intentional.

I suspect that MIL didn''t show up until late cuz she knew she was going to be embarassed cuz of how badly the dresses turned out. By showing up late, chaos would be caused cuz everyone would be rushing around to get ready so that no one would have time to yell at her. I''m sure she was more than happy to just pretend that her dresses never happened.

 

[FireGoddess]

WOW! I guess it COULD always be worse!!!

 

[sk8rjen]

That story reminds me of the nightmares I have before something stressful -- and to think that actually happened! I don''t think I personally could ever get over something like that... poor bride!

jen

 

[codex57]

Date: 8/22/2006 11:44:22 AM
Author:aljdewey
It could be worse......


http://www.etiquettehell.com/weddingetiquette/humor/etitanic.htm

I love this commentary by the person who runs the site:
"One thing that has begun to annoy readers of this web site is how frequently people display their complete lack of a backbone which results in them being used abominably by the ever increasingly dark side of manners. Let''s get one thing straight - the "scene" was already created/made by the bride and a reaction to her outrageous presumption would not be "making a scene" unless you flung the fountain pen across the room to embed it into a painting of the Marquis De Sade or flipped the box of notes in the air creating a stationery snowfall.

No, it is quite possible to decline this lovely honor without making an idiot of yourself. Here is one scenario of how it could be done:

Bridesmaid: sits blinking at the contents of the box then gently pushes it away from her place setting saying with a sweet smile, "Thank you but I think I will decline the honor of writing these."

Bride: "Why not? Aren''t you going to help me?"

Bridemaid: "It is neither my duty nor obligation to express your personal thoughts of gratitude for the gifts your guests gave you." Still smiling sweetly....

Bride: "But there are so many! How am I supposed to do all these myself?"

Bridesmaid: "One at a time is the usual method." Bridesmaid then makes a mental note in her head to never host any type of shower for this person again and seriously considers never buying her a gift again. After all, it would be very unkind to burden the bride with such an onerous duty to write her thank you notes."

Exactly what I was thinking.

 

[VRBeauty]

Not to let that MIL off the hook, but...

I can''t imagine asking any amateur (or owner-operator dressmaker) to make one dress with that much handwork, let alone four.

 

[rainbowtrout]

not an expert, but wouldn''t all that beading take FOREVER? As in hours and hours of hand-done work?

 

[Dee*Jay]

O.M.G.

Once again I thank my lucky stars that we eloped in Vegas.

 

[Maria D]

Date: 8/23/2006 11:56:35 PM
Author: MINIMS
Not to let that MIL off the hook, but...

I can''t imagine asking any amateur (or owner-operator dressmaker) to make one dress with that much handwork, let alone four.

That was my first thought reading the story. My second was: Titanic-theme for a wedding! hahaha

Third thought was: aren''t they worried that MIL will someday run across the website?

 

[kcoursolle]

Oh man, I can''t imagine being that stressed out the day of!! What an awful story, but very funny I''m ashamed to say... At least there was a happy ending. It''s interesting that the mother in law never mentions the dresses. This makes me think that she knows they were hidious, but didn''t know what to do or something.

 

[codex57]

Date: 8/24/2006 2:47:44 PM
Author: Maria D

Third thought was: aren''t they worried that MIL will someday run across the website?

I don''t think they''re worried. After all, they didn''t mention her name. I mean, what''s the MIL gonna say? Even if she did read it, she''s just gonna pretend she never saw it.