On more reason to love my FI...

[fatafelice]

So I have gotten a *little* stressed lately, and last night I gave FI a list of things that he needed to do, one of which was emailing his slack a$$ groomsmen and reminding them that a) they are slack, b) they need to go buy their blazers, and c) I STILL need their pant and shirt sizes. Ya know, or they will be naked at the wedding.

So this morning he sent this mass email:
"Help! (Fatafelice) has not gotten the information about pant/shirt sizes and she is terrified you won''t be able to get the coat in time!"

Response to FI from slack a$$ groomsman (SAG) #1:
"Bah, tell (Fatafelice) i''m working on pant/shirt size and that a jacket only takes 1 day to tailor at Mens wearhouse "

Response to SAG #1 from FI (CC to me):
"What you ask is not possible when it comes to a woman within 3 weeks of the wedding she is planning. To tell her that would surely lead to a bleak fate."

Then he emailed me this note:
"May have to un-invite (SAG #1)! If so, it looks like (my currently PITA sister) would have to be out... to maintain symmetry."


LOL! He is too cute! I needed this reminder or else he...I mean, I...wouldn''t have made it through the week!

 

[anchor31]

Three cheers for fatafelice''s FI and wonderful grooms!

 

[fatafelice]

Anchor, it's funny, because a week ago, I would not have called him a "wonderful groom." Wonderful in general?...Yes. As a groom?...Not really. Much like the poster on the other thread, he didn't really want to have much to do with the planning, and it has taken him forever to do every task I have given him, so when I started to lose it last night, he was going to bear the brunt (not fair, I know...). BUT, I think seeing me so upset motivated him like nothing else! He was so sweet last night and worked on several things for me today.

I think with all the wedding stress, sometimes you need a reminder of why you love eachother so much. Anyone else have stories?

ETA: I just noticed that, apparently, I cannot spell "one." And I teach English!

 

[monarch64]

LOL Fatafelice! Your FI, while maybe slow to get the ball rolling, has certainly hastened to make his bride happy!

I know many brides-to-be aren't so happy with men who seem so totally unaware that there are things to be done and deadlines to meet, etc. but I have to tell you that I have a "bit" of a control freak for a DH and when we were planning our wedding it turned out I was the slacker and he was the one who urged me to choose a date, tour venues, and make out music playlists! It was so totally unexpected...in fact, I took a wee bit of offense to his attitude at first but quickly realized I was a pretty lucky gal to have a man so interested in our wedding. It was fun going to venues together and deciding on one, doing the tasting thing, and we spent a whole weekend on our musical selections! I'll never forget, though, that one night I came home from work and was anxiety-ridden over whether to veil or not to veil, and we had a pretty bad argument over why I had said (one time) that I might wear a veil, and why I was changing my mind so shortly before the wedding...that was a doozy and there were other moments when I found myself wishing he wasn't quite so involved. For the most part, though, he was a good mix of involved but laissez-faire, thank goodness. I have to say that for me, hearing stories of gals whose FI's are totally hands-off is sort of refreshing, as I went through an engagement in which I needed to sort of answer to my DH regarding almost everything because he was just as attentive as I to most of the details.

We've been married just short of 4 years, and I am just as happy with our relationship now as I was then, we are very involved with each other and just as intense about major purchases as we were about our wedding. It causes problems sometimes as we both have strong personalities, but in the end we satisfy both our needs to settle for nothing less than the best, I think.

 

[climb2cloud9]

very cute. it''s all about the symmetry

 

[Gypsy]

That is a wonderful story. You''ve got a good man... AND a good groom.

 

[Mara]

hehe FF your post made me laugh so hard, i could just imagine this all playing out in my mind. i read it to greg and he giggled at the 'that would surely lead to a bleak fate'... your FI knows the drill!

3 weeks to go, you will make it, enjoy the countdown, it's memories in the making!!

 

[anchor31]

Date: 6/6/2007 10:32:30 PM
Author: fatafelice
Anchor, it''s funny, because a week ago, I would not have called him a ''wonderful groom.'' Wonderful in general?...Yes. As a groom?...Not really. Much like the poster on the other thread, he didn''t really want to have much to do with the planning, and it has taken him forever to do every task I have given him, so when I started to lose it last night, he was going to bear the brunt (not fair, I know...). BUT, I think seeing me so upset motivated him like nothing else! He was so sweet last night and worked on several things for me today.

I think with all the wedding stress, sometimes you need a reminder of why you love eachother so much. Anyone else have stories?

ETA: I just noticed that, apparently, I cannot spell ''one.'' And I teach English!

I consider my FI to be a pretty involved groom. He''s not big on research and like with the ring, I''ve been doing most of it, but he came with me to the bridal show and comes with me to meet vendors I''ve pre-picked with my research, and he helps me take the final decisions. He has an opinion for pretty much everything.

If he''d been entirely up to me, we''d eloped to Italy, but he really really really wanted a traditional Catholic wedding (we''re practicing Catholics) with the reception and dance with the family and friends. Let me tell you that if he''d decided not to help me, I wouldn''t be planning this! Fortunately I''ve been able to tone things down a bit as a compromise between the tiny elopment I wanted and the fancy shindig he wanted...

I''m not sure he''s aware of how much research I''ve been doing and how timewise his contributions are not as major as he thinks, but I appreciate that he''s there to meet people and is willing to make it his day as well.