zoebartlett
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I feel good about what we accomplished today but in the middle of it, I hit a wall. Let me back up a bit. Early this morning, my FI and I made a 2 1/2 hour drive north to see a photographer we love and are strongly considering using. Then we drove an hour south from the photographer''s house to meet a DJ, who we will most likely use. We tooled around a bit in the town where we''re getting married afterwards, checking out hotels and beachy, cottagey types of places for OOT guests to stay. That''s when I hit the wall...figurative wall that is.
We were having a great day and then all of a sudden, I felt like I couldn''t do it anymore. I get very panicky and I feel weepy a lot when that feeling comes on. I suddenly felt as though I was going to burst into tears if I had to be in the car any longer or if I had to think about planning one more thing. I mean, we have a year, why the rush? Actually, the reason we want to do things in advance is: 1) summer weddings in coastal communities are popular, as are hotel rooms and rehearsal dinner spots. The early bird catches the worm. 2) since I''m a teacher, this summer is the best time for me to plan since I have more time. Once school starts again, I''d like to focus more on that. In the end, I know I''ll be glad that I put the time in when I did. My FI was patient with me, as he always is when I get panicky. I was ready to fly off the handle but he helped me calm down. There wasn''t one particular thing that made me hit that wall; it was everything rolled up in one. So after a while of decompressing and getting myself put back together, I had calmed down enough to enjoy lunch. We ate lunch at a restaurant we''re thinking of having our RD at. The food was really good but the restaurant isn''t right on the water as we had hoped.
Feeling MUCH better, I let my FI talk me into getting ice cream at the park where the lighthouse we got engaged is at. We took pictures and hung out there for a long time. That was relaxing and the weather was perfect. For the last leg of our trip today, we met an officiant we''re going to book (she doesn''t know this yet). We then made the hour drive home and crashed on the couch. Currently, my FI is watching Mythbusters and I''m writing this novel (really, I can''t write short posts).
So minus my meltdown, we accomplished a lot: found a photographer we love, found a DJ we really like, and met with a officiant who we want to use. I have ordered my dress, petticoat, veil, jewelry, and our venue for the ceremony and reception is confirmed (it''s a restaurant, so we don''t have to worry about alcohol or finding a caterer or cake maker).
Sorry for the long post!!! I think I needed to to vent. Now I need to go to bed.
Lesson #1 learned: while it seems totally doable at the time you''re making appts. to meet with vendors, etc., take a step back and realize that you don''t have to make all decisions in one week.
We were having a great day and then all of a sudden, I felt like I couldn''t do it anymore. I get very panicky and I feel weepy a lot when that feeling comes on. I suddenly felt as though I was going to burst into tears if I had to be in the car any longer or if I had to think about planning one more thing. I mean, we have a year, why the rush? Actually, the reason we want to do things in advance is: 1) summer weddings in coastal communities are popular, as are hotel rooms and rehearsal dinner spots. The early bird catches the worm. 2) since I''m a teacher, this summer is the best time for me to plan since I have more time. Once school starts again, I''d like to focus more on that. In the end, I know I''ll be glad that I put the time in when I did. My FI was patient with me, as he always is when I get panicky. I was ready to fly off the handle but he helped me calm down. There wasn''t one particular thing that made me hit that wall; it was everything rolled up in one. So after a while of decompressing and getting myself put back together, I had calmed down enough to enjoy lunch. We ate lunch at a restaurant we''re thinking of having our RD at. The food was really good but the restaurant isn''t right on the water as we had hoped.
Feeling MUCH better, I let my FI talk me into getting ice cream at the park where the lighthouse we got engaged is at. We took pictures and hung out there for a long time. That was relaxing and the weather was perfect. For the last leg of our trip today, we met an officiant we''re going to book (she doesn''t know this yet). We then made the hour drive home and crashed on the couch. Currently, my FI is watching Mythbusters and I''m writing this novel (really, I can''t write short posts).
So minus my meltdown, we accomplished a lot: found a photographer we love, found a DJ we really like, and met with a officiant who we want to use. I have ordered my dress, petticoat, veil, jewelry, and our venue for the ceremony and reception is confirmed (it''s a restaurant, so we don''t have to worry about alcohol or finding a caterer or cake maker).
Sorry for the long post!!! I think I needed to to vent. Now I need to go to bed.
Lesson #1 learned: while it seems totally doable at the time you''re making appts. to meet with vendors, etc., take a step back and realize that you don''t have to make all decisions in one week.
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