Out in the open

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Well... It seems this is a GREAT place to just get things out in the open and off your chest... So... after reading a few posts I''ve decided to do just that.

Two things.

Yesterday I overheard a girl that sits behind me in one of my classes talking about getting engaged over the weekend. While I was very happy for her... I found myself a little jealous and made me a little sad, but only because it reminded me that I am not yet engaged and probably not close. But I was happy for her nonetheless!

She didn''t have her ring on (they had to get it resized I think) which I had mixed emotions about, I really wanted to see it, but at the same time I think it would have upset me more.

Second, I see that this is a common problem with the Mr. LIWs so I thought I''d share mine too:

We haven''t talked about the whole engagement/wedding thing for some time now (I''m beginning to wonder if he''s forgotten! haha). But BF had a gun (hunting season is coming up... this should be fun!) and he wanted a different one. So the one he had, he traded for one that he REALLY wanted... he tossed around the idea for a while about whether to get the one he REALLY wanted or not because of how much it cost. So I said "I know exactly how you are... if you don''t get the one you want you''ll find something wrong with it and want a new one in two months and then be out more money. So just get the one you want now."

I was fine with the idea at the time... because it''s HIS money (which he always says our''s) but he earned it. Secretly I was thinking... "that probably puts the ring further away".

But I figured it''s ok because he loves hunting and he needs a gun to do that so he should have one he really likes.

But then there''s the scopes you have to put on it... that cost more than the gun! It was $1000 I think... and by this time I''m going... "Ok that''s ALOT of money!" (to myself of course).

So... Now he''s got close to $2000 invested in a gun and I''m pretty sure I''m no where near a ring!

I told him since that gun ended up costing so much he better hit something with it! (I said all this in a joking tone)

I just hope when the time DOES come for him to start looking or planning... that he''ll remember the times I told him "Get what you want." and that I''ve said the ring I get I plan on keeping FOREVER... I''m not a fan of upgrading (not that there''s anything wrong with that... it''s just not for me).

UGH!

Thanks Ladies!

 

[redfaerythinker]

Oh wow... that sucks a lot. I know exactly what you''re going through. Every big purchase he makes, I start calculating and then want to kick myself because of it. It''s so hard! But on the plus side... all of these lovely ladies are here to listen... and we''re all usually in the same boat!

Also, i''m not a big fan of upgrading either... i''m way too sentimental! However... for all of those who do love an upgrade I''m so not opposed to drooling over your gorgeous pictures1

 

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Ditto on drooling over the other ladies'' upgrades!

Now... I wouldn''t mind getting a very lovely OTHER diamond for another finger... or two or three

But the one I get engaged with is well... my engagement ring... and could never be replaced!

I know I''m not in the boat alone here... Thank goodness I found this place!

 

[bubbly1126]

Aww, well you know how I stand on this since you read my venting post.

I guess all guys really are the same! lol.

And I have to agree with the no upgrades thing. I am very sentimental and I don''t care if the first ring he gets me is one out of those little machines outside of walmart, that would be my ring and I would love it just the same. I would never ever want an upgrade. Any ring given to replace my original engagement ring just wouldn''t be the same.

I am not at all materialistic and don''t need the best of the best. He knows (and loves) this about me too. And this is the reason I have made him aware that I would be willing to keep my promise ring he gave me 4 1/2 years ago if another ring wasn''t possible. (but he has said that he would be getting me a real engagement ring.)

After all, it''s not about the size/price of a gift anyway, it''s about the meaning behind it.

 

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Update:

The girl that is in my class that got engaged over the weekend wore her ring yesterday.

I HAD to look at it... I thought it would upset me. But instead it just made me more happy for her. It was BEAUTIFUL! I''m still a little jealous but I realized how excited I was to get my very own instead of being upset by it!

Oh, it looked like WG, 3-stone setting with one RB center and two small RBs on each side. VERY SPARKLY!

I CAN''T WAIT FOR MY TURN!!!!