Overall, who's more difficult to live with, you or your SO?

[kenny]

Overall, who's more difficult to live with, you or your SO?

This poll is private so nobody can see how you voted.

 

[kenny]

@Ally T 's recent thread got me wondering about this.

Me, by a landslide.
It's not even close to a tie.

Since I'm aware of it, and cherish my hubby, we discuss it openly although not during life's inevitable arguments.
I tell him, I'm aware of it. I'm sorry. I know that it's hard on you.
Believe it or not I AM working diligently to mellow out, and I welcome your help with this.
Feel free to speak your mind, and point out specifics, when I become hard to tolerate.

I also add that during an argument over issue A is the wrong time to bring up Kenny Defect B.
Such unfortunate timing comes across as ammunition for trying to win the argument over issue A, and is counterproductive overall.
But definitely point out my defects right away when they become an issue.
I'm a big boy; I can take it.

 

[seaurchin]

Me, definitely.

 

[missy]

Me. By a mile

My dh is easygoing and not a worrier. I’m type A and always think of what the worse case scenario is in every situation. He loves me anyway

I have definitely tried to change over the decades but I am who I am and my husband always tells me he couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. I love him so much. He’s truly my perfect/purrrrfect match.

 

[Matata]

I plead the 5th.

 

[Mrs_Strizzle]

I would say it's a tie at my house. Im hard to live with due to being hormonal and low blood sugars affecting my reactions. I am a highly sensitive person so am extremely affected by others energy. No one cries alone with me nor feels anxiety or stress. I hate crowds because it's so exhausting for me. Hubby is a social butterfly and loves nothing more than a house full of guests and is the life of the party.

Hubby is so easy to get along with and never is in a bad mood. BUT... he has a TBI from his military service so he can have a hard time completing tasks, easily distracted, and had to be micro managed to get things done that he isn't interested in. He will never get out of the house on time for anything, I have to tell him we need to leave 30 minutes before we really do. Things like closing cabinet doors, forget about it. Lol.

That said, living with him has giving me greater insight to myself and my behavior. I have grown a great deal with letting go the things that don't matter and focusing on the things that really do. So I'm grateful for his "difficult" side because it makes me better.

 

[pearlsngems]

Me!
He's more adaptable and easygoing, but I think I'm better than when we first got married.

 

[Karl_K]

mex500000

 

[jaysonsmom]

My Dh for sure! He is a hot-headed Korean with a temper and super impatient. I’m always trying to calm him down for fear of being collateral damage in a road rage incident or something. He knows he is the difficult one and so do his friends and family. Most would agree that I’m a saint for still being married to him after 23 years together

 

[Lookinagain]

My dog says it's me. I think it's him

 

[stracci2000]

Its definitely me.
I always ask too many questions and expect detailed answers!

 

[GemHunter369]

I am more difficult to live with since I live with my Dad. My dear husband, on the other hand, lives alone and has a cute dog! We're now living happily in his home.

 

[Avondale]

It's the SO. He knows it. He's a hoarder. We've been on the verge of a break up before over it. He's been showing improvement, though - painfully slow, but improvement still - so I'm still sticking with him and trying to get through it with him.

 

[dk168]

Without a doubt, I am difficult to live with, as naturally I am not a very tidy person, except for the kitchen - I like an ordering kitchen when I am cooking.

I feel sorry for my cleaners!

DK

 

[Ally T]

Mr T without a doubt. He is constantly under HUGE work stress & that passes along as snappy, sweary, grumpy & just general meh. The girls say he has ‘inanimate object rage’ because he loses his sh!t at everything & starts to drop F bombs, even if it’s just as simple as dropping a fork off the kitchen counter.

When he isn’t under that level of pressure, usually when we head away from home for holidays, he’s back to his amazing, calm, laid back, funny, happy self. He is the best company when away from work.

He is due to take early retirement in 2.5 years, but we have discussed him leaving early. He’s too conscious of delivering on his commitments though, so I focus on the fact that this level of mood isn’t forever.

@kenny I think Mr T’s stress levels are completely responsible for him being less helpful around the house. When he switches his computer off, he switches his entire brain off & just wants to flop.

 

[Slickk]

I’m definitely more expensive but we are both laid-back easygoing people so that makes it easier … for us both.