Overwhelmed!

[FutureMrsMRS]

ACK! I''ve been engaged for 3 days! I''ve gotten a ton of congrats (cool!) and a bazillion "when''s the wedding?" "Where''s it going to be?" "Who''s going to be in it?" "What are your colors?"

WE DON''T KNOW YET!

I want this to be fun and not stressful! I don''t do stressful!

Tips for handling the (well meaning I assume??) family members?

 

[fieryred33143]

LOL

It''s the cycle for women (generally speaking of course).

Single: "When are you getting a boyfriend?"

Dating: "When are you getting engaged?"

Engaged: "When''s the wedding?"

Married: "When are you having children?"

First Child: "When are you having another?"

I confused everyone in that I moved in way before we got engaged, then got engaged and had a kid. People don''t know what to ask me anymore lol.

Joking aside, I would just tell them that you want to enjoy being engaged for a little while (even if you are planning now) and that when you do start planning, they''ll be the first to know

 

[CurlySue]

Congrats on your engagement!! I agree that lot of people are well-intentioned when the ask about it - they probably assume that as the bride-to-be, you want to talk about details as soon and as much as possible, despite the fact that this often isn''t the case.

When they ask you when the wedding is, you can just say something like, "we don''t know yet - right now we''re just enjoying being engaged." We used that a lot (and if it makes you feel any better we had a few people who skipped over the "when''s the wedding" question and went right to "when do you hope to have kids" question!!!!!!), and it seemed to work.

If you have *really* pushy people and/or family members who will play a role in the wedding (which might be why they''re asking), you could give them a rough timeline as to when you think you''ll start planning.

 

[PumpkinPie]

Date: 4/5/2010 5:23:08 PM
Author: CurlySue
Congrats on your engagement!! I agree that lot of people are well-intentioned when the ask about it - they probably assume that as the bride-to-be, you want to talk about details as soon and as much as possible, despite the fact that this often isn''t the case.

I think this happens a lot - I know I`ve been guilty of it in the past - just wanted to let the bride know that I was interested in her life !

 

[FutureMrsMRS]

I know they mean well, so I''ve been holding back from getting snippy.

I''m going way against the grain. That''s going to be another can of worms.

I''ll use the lines to keep from going bananas until FI & I finalize some stuff.

And thanks for the well wishes!

 

[LtlFirecracker]

The same thing happened to us. We just told them we needed some time to figure that out.

I have one high school friend who I thought handled in a really funny way. She put up a FAQ on her Facebook and her first question was "when is the wedding?" Her response was "I don''t know, none of that is set" Then she has a list of all the other crazy questions people ask when you get engaged.

 

[Deelight]

I just told people thank you at this stage we are just going to enjoy being engaged for a while before we rush into planning - most people accepted that answer

It is hard but on the positive it is nice to have people excited and happy for you

 

[ArtistJess]

Congrats on the engagement!

I''ve been engaged for over a year now, and for the record, I''m pretty sure it dies down a little after the first few months. At least it did for us. People sort of get over the "newness" of the engagement.