Panicking!

[jerseygirl77]

So I know I don''t post often but I am absolutely panicking and I don''t know who else will be able to relate besides all of you! (I read how understanding and supportive you are in other posts... its so sweet and refreshing to see how nice people can be). Anyway this is my problem - I have a bunch of reasons to believe my boyfriend is proposing this weekend! Some unintentional snooping (I swear!) showed me that he bought the ring over a month ago. We are going away this weekend with his family. Also, and most importantly, my family is acting wierd and shady about their weekend plans (I''m not even supposed to know they are going away). I know this is all vague, but without getting into all the details, I have been led to believe that my family is coming to our vacation spot this weekend, which wouldn''t make sense unless something *BIG* is going on.

I know this is unbelievably amazing if its all true, but now I''m panicked that I have worked myself up and am setting myself up for a HUGE letdown if a proposal doesn''t happen. We are leaving tomorrow and I AM PANICKED!

Has anyone been through anything like this? What should I do??

THANK YOU!

 

[ash313]

Anyway this is my problem - I have a bunch of reasons to believe my boyfriend is proposing this weekend!

Hmmmm, first of all: deeeeep breath! Repeat this mantra: I am in love with a man who is in love with me, and everything will turn out just fine.

Ok, now. Re: the quote above. This is what you''ve been waiting for, so not really a problem, right? Sounds like you are like me: always wanting to know what''s happening next and controlling the situation. There is so much to be said for the ability to relinquish control and live in the moment.

Do nothing but smile, breathe, and enjoy your weekend away. Take each moment as it comes, and don''t stress away your vacation - we all know those don''t come often enough! You may or may not be let down if the proposal isn''t this weekend, but you CERTAINLY will be let down if you didn''t enjoy the vacation, either! We will all be here when you get back to celebrate, commiserate or just listen.

You will be fine - have a great time on your trip!

 

[jerseygirl77]

You are so sweet & thoughtful ash313! You are completely right - I am a control freak! (and I hate surprises to boot). Everything you said is helping to put things into perspective. I think I''ll have to keep this mantra ifresh in my mind all weekend!

THANKS AGAIN FOR YOUR KIND WORDS!

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

I must say I''d be excited too! Enjoy the weekend regardless of what happens! And keep us posted!!

Oh it''s so lovely seeing some good news around here! Even if it turns out to just be a weekend away, it sounds wonderful!

 

[Izzy03]

Every time a holiday or "special" trip comes around I get a little excited, AND VERY LET DOWN! But anyway, try to focus on it NOT happening. You want to be surprised (at least a little) so try to get your mind off of it! Have a great time, and if he does not propose, at least you found evidence of a ring and know a proposal will be coming.

Good luck!

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Don''t panic... sounds like it is happening this weekend! And I bet if it doesn''t, it will be super soon. Relish your last days of
* singlehood * cause you will be officially on your way to being hitched soon!!!

 

[jerseygirl77]

Moderatelypoorstudent - I''m excited too! I''ll def keep you posted

Izzy03 - This is actually the first time EVER a "special" occasion has made me excited... Even though we have been together for 5 years, I''ve never really expected a proposal until now! You''re right - I do want to be suprised (just a little bit though lol). Thanks for the advice!

Ilovethiswebsite - (love your new picture by the way) Thanks for the advice!! I hope it''s happening this weekend!

I can''t tell you how much I appreciate the words of encouragement... I will let you know how it goes!!!

 

[gwendolyn]

Hehe, how exciting! Sounds like you guys are going to have a great weekend!

I know it''s hard to do (and honestly, it sounds like you''ve got good reason to think MAYBE this weekend), but TRY to relax and know that your man loves you, plans to ask you at SOME point to marry you, and that it''d just be extra whipped cream and sprinkles if he did it this weekend with his family (and maybe yours?) around to help you celebrate the joining of your families. Either way, you are going to have a lovely time spending time with your future family--but I''ll keep my fingers and toes crossed that you''ll get to do that with a bit o'' bling on your finger.

 

[emeraldlover1]

Date: 6/25/2008 9:44:53 AM
Author: jerseygirl77
Moderatelypoorstudent - I''m excited too! I''ll def keep you posted

Izzy03 - This is actually the first time EVER a ''special'' occasion has made me excited... Even though we have been together for 5 years, I''ve never really expected a proposal until now! You''re right - I do want to be suprised (just a little bit though lol). Thanks for the advice!

Ilovethiswebsite - (love your new picture by the way) Thanks for the advice!! I hope it''s happening this weekend!

I can''t tell you how much I appreciate the words of encouragement... I will let you know how it goes!!!

Yay!!! I know what you mean. My SO and I have been together for 5 years and i just found out that ff''s original plans were supposed to be for this coming week. So dissapointing because the ring isn''t ready. Oh well! I''m so excited for you and I can''t wait to hear all about it.

 

[Pushin40]

Ahhh Jerseygirl!

Sit back, relax, smile, have a margarita...and ENJOY your vacation!

What will be, wil be!

Oh - and report back on Monday please!!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

As hard as it may be, just try and focus on having a great time on your trip. Whatever happens on your trip happens...and whatever may not happen could happen another day...

Sounds like if it doesn''t happen this weekend, it will be happening soon so enjoy your last few days/weeks as a girlfriend!

 

[Dreamgirl]

I can understand how you feel. It''s a HUGE moment in your life. You already know he has the ring, so if he proposes this weekend or not, it will probably be coming soon anyhow.

I agree with Izzy- try to focus on it not happening so that if it does happen, you would be more surprised.

 

[jerseygirl77]

Gwendolyn - You''re so sweet! I do just want to enjoy my vacation... but your right.... some bling on my finger wouldn''t hurt lol

Emeraldlover - THAT''S SO EXCITING! Congrats on your upcoming engagement! Can''t wait to hear details!

Pushing 40 - I plan on indulging in some cocktails this weekend

Thank you for the advice... I''ll be back Monday!

Keepingthefaith - I know your absolutely right, it''s just so difficult to wait when you know its coming soon

So excited though for when it *DOES* happen! Thank you for sweet words

Dreamgirl - As hard as it is to realize right now, you are right - it should be a surprise. I''m trying to keep my mind off of it

(easier said than done lol)

Thank you everyone! I''m off! Be back MONDAY!!!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 6/25/2008 3:19:59 PM
Author: jerseygirl77
Dreamgirl - As hard as it is to realize right now, you are right - it should be a surprise. I''m trying to keep my mind off of it

(easier said than done lol)

Completely agree, it would be extremely hard to forget about. I would probably feel just like you. Have a good time anyhow!

 

[taovandel]

Enjoy your vacation! Like everyone else has said you know he has the ring so at least you know he will propose even if he doesn''t do it on this vacation.

I wish you luck!!