Parents Permission...

[zinzilove]

So, my boyfriend is going to ask my parents for permission to propose to me on Friday morning. He was originally going to ask them tonight, but because of the storm last weekend everyone's flights got all messed up. But that's neither here nor there. The point is, he's asking them on Friday morning!! I'm sure that they will gladly welcome him to the family, but then what? I guess I'm wondering what's happened with you all in similar situations. I know that my BF is researching rings right now and we're not planning on getting engaged immediately, but he wants to ask my parents now, because they live outside of the US and this is his only chance to ask them in person for the for the forseeable future. I'm generally calm about these things, but for some reason I'm all kinds of jittery right now! And I'm sure that once he asks them I will really start looking for E-rings around every corner. Which is not healthy!!

Anyway ladies, any advice or helpful hints??

 

[MissDimity]

How very exciting...

Ok some advice ( from my experience) for ring buying:

1. Decide if you want a surprise or if you want to choose the ring/ diamond or give SO guidelines of what you want in a ring
2. In terms of diamond choosing, choose which of the C's ( carat, cut, clarity, color) matter most to you, that way you can compromise if needed on the other aspects.. i.e is size the most important aspect or is color/ clarity
3. If choosing a round brillant diamond, try and stick with in the guidelines of the Holloway Cut Advisor guidelines ,generally if the number is right ( 0-2) youll have a dazzling rock which appears bigger in size compared to a poorer cut diamond
4. Don't settle for the first ring you try on, try on a variety , even if they didn't orginally appeal to you at first
5. Lower grade diamond colors (J,K,L) will appear whiter if they have blue flourescence


I'm sure there is many , many more tips.

The first time I was engaged I picked out the diamond and the ring with my SO. This time I'm opting for as surprise as I want my SO to have some ownership in the process.

Have lot's of fun

 

[AdanaEsq]

I'd just add that my understanding of #5 is that sting blue florescence can make a lower colored diamond appear 2 shades whiter.

 

[mariewest]

No advice or helpful tips. I think it's very sweet that he is asking. It's a traditional formality that I think it very respectful of the family. I don't know if SO would ask my parents or not, but they have more then given him the go ahead already. It's so hard to stay calm when you know that process has been made. Just be thrilled that he is making that step.

 

[HaloBelle]

I'm not full of advice but I just wanted to say that it is adorable that he asked. I don't know if my bf will ask because my family has been waiting longer than I have for an engagement!! lol. I hope he does because it is adorable and i love the sense of respect it shows for the girl's parents but he clearly has had the go-ahead for years...

 

[briolette]

Congrats! I like the formality of asking parents permission for your hand. I find it respectful.
Nothing more I can add in terms of advice, except that an e-ring doesn't have to be a diamond if that's not your thing. I think #4 that was posted is very important. Buying a ring is like buying a house. You just KNOW when you've found the right one.

Something that I learned through other pieces, if you are getting something custom made at a store, check the workmanship and details when you pick up the ring at the store and point out any issues while you are there in front of the jeweler. I had a friend who had issues with her rhodium plating and when she took the ring home and noticed it, they were hesitant to believe her at first. You don't want to go through that for your ering!

Anyhow, I'm really happy for you two!

 

[slg47]

I'd just add that my understanding of #5 is that sting blue florescence can make a lower colored diamond appear 2 shades whiter.

fluor only will 'help' your diamond in lighting conditions where there is UV light present (sunlight, yes, indoors-no).